if u r fat, will it reduce ur self-confidence?

Hello babyorchid ,If you find there are people who do not want to make friends with you just because you are fat. Than those people are not a good friend at all. Good for you now that you lost some weight, but don't feel not confidence just because you have some extra weight. It is just in your mind, just put some confidence in yourself and you've some good friends around. I am not fat, but i have a lot of fat friends. I encourage them to reduce their weight just for the health reason. Thanks for posting this and have a nice day to you also

Hello,first congratualate for you,I want to say you are very beautiful!This is really a problem especially for girls ,right.Many people feel ashamed of their fat figure,as a result ,they feel less-confident than others,I agree with your and I want to say fat people should find propre ways to loss weight !Only when you loss your weight ,you will be self-confident again and you will make friends easily!This is my opinion!

Yes, I am sure it really effect your self-confidence. I used to be fat before and it is hard to make friend and it is hard to go out and it is hard to get close that you really like. I was wear size 9 jean but then I planned to loose weight for the next year. I lost from size 9 to size 5 then to 0 and then 00. lolz. now, still the same 00 for the past 4 or 5 years now. I look great and I feel great... I can eat whatever I want and I am so attractive with anyone... lucky me huh? just kidding, once you are not too fat then you feel healthier and feel very confidence to talk or make friend with others.

When you are fat doesn't mean that your self confidence can be low.Sometimes it is how you think of it,as for me i think the size of the body does not affect the self confidence.i am quite big but i am never lack of confidence when doing something new or used to do.I made quite a lot of friends though i am quite big and they accept me for who i am.

It depends on whether you are a strong person or not as to whether being fat would reduce your self confidence. Thin people may not have any self confidence either but it isn't because of their size. It is because of outside factors. Too many factors determine one's self confidence to say that being fat would reduce your self confidence.

Being fat does not mean I can take away my self confidence bit by bit. Overcoming this type affecting self confidence, the thinking of not all fat are low self esteemed. Everyday that I cross the road going to work I see much people who are fat but has a great statute they have. Some of my former instructors were fat but they are best in the command of teaching. I saw someone fat being a Supplier to one of the local stores in our market but you see he got better salary than me. So to those people who are into this and becoming low in self confidence, its just a matter of living with it with the less of letting yourself down just because you are fat.

i think it will... i used to be a bit fat as well in the past... but now i am a bit slimmer and it affects a lot on my self-confidence... also, i am able to move faster and more effectively because my body is lighter... but even in the past, i don't really care so much about my appearance as i think inner beauty is much more important than outer beauty... take care and have a nice day...

sure it should in the past people used to like the chubby girl , but now it is more toward the skinny girls

I know that being fat does effect our social activities in many ways. The sad thing is that it does, in reality , it should not. We should all be whoever we are meant to be and not try to be what someone else wants us to be. When young girls are all about body image, often it attracts the wrong type of males or friends. A true friend and the type that everyone wants to have, will be your friend no matter what size you are.

Yes, being fat will reduce my self-confidence but not so much. I am not fat but i have this what they called baby fats in my tummy and waistline. sometime i feel a little irritated when i want to wear my clothes but found out not fit to me anymore cause am gaining weight. And when sitting at LRt or any public transportation i don't have confident to sit well cause i am hiding this fats that is very noticeable.

We all know much ppl notice a girl by their appearence,even that girl is a evil one or a fool one just have beauty.Well,i know my weight is standard,but i think my thigh is over fat,so i try to make my fat thigh thin,but i failed with i can't keep on.Everytime i envy the beauty girl which have a model sharp when i saw them in the road and then i'll notice and think about why they can have ?so how we can say a man can do this,even a girl can do .Each ppl are liking to notice beauty things.That's the nature.

i think it depends on what do you thinkk about self confidence. for girls it is important thing i guess,but is not the most one. wo will find that self confidence is indispensable for one who make up his or her mind to live success life. but there are many who are fat,but they are also succeeded people. i want to share with you the famous-----you will be who you want to be.

hi baby, thanks god that i am a slim one. ha ha ha ...........don't be upset. everything of us run with time. time is the great medicine for every problem. keep smiling. take care.

I believe self-esteem issues does not originate by the mere fact that you are fat but from the way other people look at you... I wouldn't mind being fat if I feel that my family and friends accept me for what I am regardless of my appearance... but if the very persons you love rejects you, its seldom that you can get much support from other people, more from strangers. I have relatives who are overweight and that is because they love to eat... and they really can cook good appetizing food. I wouldn't wonder why they've grown that big... they don't have self-esteem issues and its because its widely accepted in our family. Their self-confidence and sense of humor are the key that they have such a number of very supportive friends...

Well Imma Fat Girl and i dont hate myself...Im happy with myself and i have TONS of friends that like me for who i am not for what i look like. I have 2 children i love and care for dearly and they love me. And if people cant see the real you behind what you look like then they really arent friends to begin with. If someone is going to judge you because your fat and then when you go SKINNY then they want to be friends with you is kind of bogus to me. as i said i love myself for who i am not what i look like and as long as im happy with myself to heck with everyone else=)

I have been there for a short time period and I know what it is like. However I was lucky enough to have pretty amazing friends during that time and they were actually the ones that supported me along the way when I went on a diet. Maybe that is the reason why I did notice and fluctuations on my self-confidence. I learned to live with it while it lasted. However is very true when it comes to making new friends. People are becoming more and more self-conscious with who they stay, and no matter how great of a person you are, sometimes it is not enough, because they prefer to be surrounded by friend that are handsome/pretty and thin. One valuable thing I learned was that true friends will stick by your side and I am glad I went through that weight change because I found out who my friends are.

If I'm fat?I guess...well of course it depends on the person if he/she really has the guts then what's there to be afraid of?with your case at that time I know it's been hard cause imagine?no one will talk to you and wanna be your friend?But on the other hand,that's an advantage already on your part. It only proves that what they're after for is only physical appearance and not what's inside. They're not a loss totally cause in the beginning with just one look you could immediately say that they're not real,they're just a bunch of people who will betray you in the end so there's nothing to be sad.

OMG!!! You should be ashamed of yourself! Self confidence, is just that SELF... No one, no matter how unfriendly, rude or out right mean they are can make you feel bad about yourself unless you let them... unless you let words that don't mean anything to hurt you. I am a big girl... I have always been a big girl and I am extremely confident... I may be heavy but I am just as beautiful and just as sexy as any other woman... I have dated gorgeous men and women alike. I've gone skinny dipping in public and have no shame about my body. Having confidence in yourself is possible no matter what, and people like you, who go around saying things like that are just perpetuating a stereotype... When young impressionable girls hear things like that they think that people that are as small minded as you are right. Shame shame! I hope you never have a daughter that you can fill her little head with such awful things as a girl is judged by her appearance, or someone that thinks so little of themselves that they referred to themselves as "really ugly". Good grief!

wow this is funny you started this discussion.Yes I see many big girls with big personallities that seem very confident.When I was fat a few times I know I wasn't feeling good about myself.I just deleted a bunch of photos of myself from a few years back.I was fat,and I can see it in my face,I am not happy with myself.I didnt feel pretty or like smiling.It's very sad when we can't love ourselves for who we are. I am so vein,I always have been.I enjoy pretty things visually and I don't feel pretty when I am big.

yes, i think most of the people who are fat, have the low self confidence..because they think they cannot wear the beautiful clothes like others..and when they see someone that they like they will not be able to tell that person their true feeling because they might feel shame..when they saw others seeing they were eating, they might feel shame as well because too fat..