Treet your self gently when you make mistake
By evone_wen
@evone_wen (11)
Malaysia
May 21, 2009 6:46pm CST
Avoid punishing yourself for your mistake. Don't call yourself names or tell yourself how stupid you are. That only reinforces the belife that you make poor choices,which make you fearful and acyually increases the chance of additional errors.
On the other hand,if you treat yourself gently when you make a mistake,you won't feel pressured and are less likely to make further mistakes.
As an added bones,by refusing to agonize over your not-so-perfect decisions,you remain open to learning how you make them and how to avoid similar mistakes in the future.
Poor choices are never intentional; no one writes,"Make yourself miserable" at the top of the next day's agenda. Whenever you make a mistake,remember that errors are completely normal,that everybody makes them,and that all mistakes,even the most serious,are 100% forgivable.
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4 responses
@aikhong (661)
• Malaysia
22 May 09
Hihi Wen, i see you're new in myLot. Welcome to myLot. :)
Thanks for sharing this topic, this is a topic which really suits my feeling now. Recently i've really made a silly and big mistake. I really think that this is a mistake which i shouldn't do it. I'm so regret now by being so careless, thus causing this mistake. It's true as what you said that we should treat ourself gently when we make a mistake so that we won't feel so bad or pressured because of it. However, the mistakes done should be taken as a key learning. We have to really make sure that it is taken very seriously and learn from the mistake, so that we will not repeat that mistake in future. Havingg the bad experience, we should always keep ourselves reminded the pain and learn from it to improve from that.
Now i've really learn a lesson from my mistake and i'm trying best to make any recovering possible. It's a pain that will keep me cautious next time. Shall i forgive myself?
@evone_wen (11)
• Malaysia
22 May 09
yes,sure you can do it,the best solution for you now is just look front of your life,you should treat good your self more and more,cause no ones can help to treat you good more..just do it!:D
@evone_wen (11)
• Malaysia
22 May 09
yea,sure you can do it!the best solution for you is just look in front of your life now,you should traet your self good more and more,cause no ones can help you treat you good :D
@firy_al (7)
• Philippines
22 May 09
I couldn't agree less. Basing from my own experience. You shouldn't self pity if you did something wrong. We all do commit mistakes and its from these that we learn everything in life. What is the most important thing that we should do is to take sometime and make personal assessment and see if we have become a better person from the mistakes that we did, or are we stubborn enough to keep on committing the same mistakes over and over. Life is all about learning, moving forward always and never dwelling on the past specially on the mistakes that we did.
@evone_wen (11)
• Malaysia
22 May 09
erm..accually all the people oso got their self idea and maybe they will always change it,maybe that just your idea now..anyway just take it easy
@Lambchoper (538)
• United States
22 May 09
Finding a balance between tearing myself a new one and coddling poor little ole me has been part of my life journey. It's learning to live in the now and it's a very important step to finding inner peace. I found it!! Excellent discussion!!!
@ilawise26 (191)
• India
22 May 09
Hii Evon_wen !!!
First of all Welcome to Mylot!
I should really congratulate you for starting your Mylot journey with such a nice post.
Though your discussion does not have a question ,i would like to say i agree COMPLETELY with what you have written!
Its is so true.
Often ,people blame themselves vigorously for the mistakes they make.
Instead of learning from it and moving ahead they just repent all the time.
This only makes the mistake grow big and leads you nowhere.
The person does not correct himself except for complaining and feeling regretful
about it.
This is not the right approach as we tend to overly criticize ourselves.
Instead we should learn from it.Choose the best way to overcome it and move
ahead.
It is best to remind ourselves that we are humans and we do commit mistakes.
But we should not be fools to repeat it again and again.
Also,its very important that we have a good self-impression.
WE should never belittle ourselves in our own eyes.
A good self-image helps us in being confident.
So its important that we don't blame ourselves in an extreme way.
Just learn and move on!!!
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