Is beating really necessary to teach children discipline?

There's a big difference between beating & discipline. Beating is abuse!

i give punishment to my kids when they do something really bad to teach them a lesson. pain can help sometimes to remind them not to do it again. but i would like to make some definition here, as i dont beat my kids... i spank them. spanking –verb (used with object) to strike (a person, usually a child) with the open hand, a slipper, etc., esp. on the buttocks, as in punishment. v.tr. To slap on the buttocks with a flat object or with the open hand, as for punishment. [i]reference http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/spanking [/i] beating –verb (used with object) to strike violently or forcefully and repeatedly. –noun a stroke or blow. v.tr. To strike repeatedly. To subject to repeated beatings or physical abuse; batter. To punish by hitting or whipping; flog. to strike (a person or animal) repeatedly and injuriously: http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/beating why did i put this definition? because others think that spanking is beating... i dont think beating will do a child good. disciplining should start early... never tolerate any wrong doing a child does, even when they are still very young. a two year old can already understand when you say no... dont think that its cute to see them doing something wrong and just let them do it, i find other parents are like that here... even if it is wrong they think its "cute", i dont tolerate it on my kids. if at the early age they have already been disciplined well, i think it will never come to a point where a child needs to be beaten to become well disciplined.

Beating is an easy way out. The rationale is that as long as the child feels pain, he will remember why he is being beaten. However, today's kids are very much different from yesterday's. They are now smarter and more delicate, hence going the soft way might work better. Beating will not necessarily teach and discipline the child.

No, not at all. The only thing that children require and can teach anything to them is love. I have some people beat their children with sticks and belts as well and it is worse then seeing most horror movies to me. I can't stand violence against anyone and against kids, it is a complete no no.

Hi, you are right t question . I think it is absolute nonsense to say that sometimes it is necessary to beat children or wife or whoever to discipline them. It is nothing but physical abuse . Children respond to love and understanding more than blows and sharp words. I have 3 children and I have never beaten them. we have had arguments and sharp words exchanged between us at times ( very few times), but I have never felt the need to beat them to make them well disciplined when they were younger...I have never felt the need to dominate them or control them at any stage.

Yes. I think beating does help in educating children but of course u have to know the limits, everything has a limit right? Children tend to become spoiled when u just scold them without beating them a bit. Parents should be more strict with the children

I don't think so. I haven't beaten by my parents. When they were disciplining us the only explain, they maybe angry sometimes but they explain to us the disadvantage of our mistakes. I know by explaining children will realize their mistake and learned from it, because from my experience I learned from it. I just listen carefully to my parents, I forcefully absorbed the thinking that they are the parents and parents only do everything that is good for their child. Somehow, beating can be controlled, the tension leads to beating, if the parents should think first before hurting their child.

As I child I never really had a beating, but I did get the odd slap or two that I probably deserved. I didn't like it at the time, but I soon got over it and never once thought my parents were wrong for doing it, because they had my own interests at heart. I don't think beating a child is the correct way to go about things and as as therapist I have known this to make a child even more misbehaved. We are all really just children, with people of my age occupying a older body, and if we experience the full impact of our actions, then that can provide the discipline to behave correctly. It is through our own mistakes that we learn empathy for others I believe.. - Derek

I'm not an advocate of physical punishments on children--in fact, I believe more on developmental discipline, or a discipline program which is started as early as day one after the baby is born. Parents should be conscious to teach children what's right and wrong as early as 3 months or so to avoid difficult problem children in the future. Induction or explanation will usually work, and the kind of relationship the child has on the parents will have an effect later on in life. Usually, parents are reactive--they deal with their children only when there is already a problem. But proactive parents should already nurture their children's will, form their decision-making and sense of responsibility to prevent future problems. An ounce of prevention is greater than a pound of cure, is a motto that applies to this case.

We have discussed this on a number of occasions but my answer is always the same. Some parents find that they need to use violence on their children. When this happens, however mild or hard that violence is, it is a failure on the part of the parent. It is bad parenting. People who habitually hit their children are simply not suitable to be parents and should have never had children

No way. If one has resorted to beating the children to bring them down to discipline, he is a great failure. Corporal punishment if repeatedly rendered they build up greater resistance and they become more unruly as they are not afraid of beating for beating does not cause them pain as it were. The best way to handle the children carefully. reading their mind and tastes and interests as they keep on changing we could easily teach our children discipline without letting them feel that they are being taught something in a way or the other.

oh,it is the neccessity for the parents to beat their children for discipline.it is very difficult for answering such as this question like this.i think we can analyze the special situation of meeting things.we should not use the beat children to solve the education our children.as our children are very young,and they are not knowledge very much, you can use the threaten them with their heart.they can withdraw for doing wrong things,and you can do litte energy to regular them.as they are older, they know much than the before,they can educate them,and explain the simly reason for them,they can understand the true reason for certain rules for their experience.this is the best education way for them,i think.

i am for beating a child to discipline him although i do not agree with the word "beating", rather i prefer the word "caning". however, we should differentiate between abuse and disciplinary caning. abuse should be discouraged and the latter should be a way of growing up. there is a thin line between both. force cannot be so hard during canings that it will hurt the child but should be hard enough to make him or her remember the lesson. after the caning, the disciplinarian should take the initiative to explain to the child why he or she s being punished. that will then complete the whole process of punishment, deterrence and rehabilitation.

I really do not spanking or beating your child will help them in the futur. I also wrote a discussion on this topic and some mylot members have written me that they were beaten when they were young and they are okay. Yes maybe you are okay but imagine you were not beaten and if you did something wrong your punishement fitted the crime that you did and your parents spoke to you about what you did, why it was wrong and what you should do next time. I have two children and I never layed a hand on them and I do not plan to. I do not agree with spanking, often parents spank their child because they want to let their frustration out!

No, I don't think beating will teach anyone or thing - child, spouse, pet - anything positive. In fact, here in the United States, it is illegal to beat anyone and you will be arrested for such behavior. That's not to say children don't need a spanking from time to time, BUT there is a HUGE difference between beating and spanking.

Beating a child trains them to hit. Training a child to become well disciplined takes discipline. Hitting is about as undisciplined as it gets.

When I was a child,my mon often beat me.At that time,I hated the behavior.Why she could beat me? Just because an adult?It was unfair I thought. Now I can understand my mom.If she didn't punish me in this way, I wouldn't correct my bad habit. As a child, it is easy to believe something and do something wrong. Somethimes adults can not explain something like a friend.Sometimes they are too young to understand life. When they can't get what they want,they will cry and lose their temper.Then how can you do? If it is no use to say something to clam down them,will you give them what they want or punish them? My mom beat me.Now I can understand her. But I think beating is the last way to teach children.If you have other effective way to teach children,just don't do that because afer all,beating is a crude behavior.

I don't think that beating is necessory to teach children discipline. Yes, in this world, we have to accept discipline no matter where we are , thus, it is important to let children know the discipline and abide by it. However, there are other ways than beating to do it. Besides, I consider that beating is some kind of violation to human rights. Children are too young to realize their right, but that doesnt mean we can use this advantage over them. What's more? In my opinion, beating may bring some side effects sometimes. Some children will resent their parents and may act in the exactly the opposite way due to reversal mind.

Yeah, We need to beat to teach some disciplines. But we should not hurt our children in the name of discipline. At the same time we should not release our personal anger while beating.

no i think you to talk to your and take away their possessions