Are you a working mum or stay at home mum?

Every mom is a 'working mom' whether she reports to an employer or not. . I work plenty and I certainly do not stay at home but I don't get a paycheck, at least not one I can live on lol. My daughter is five, and I also have a 17 year old son and a 19 year old daughter. I don't have any plans to go back either, I did work full time before kids for about 10 years. That was long enough for me. While I did like the money, I didn't like having no time for anything else. I do think it affects kids because someone has to take care of their needs, and when it's daycare instead of mom and/or dad, even if it's quality, it is not a parent. Yes I know sometimes people have to work in order to make it, but when you think about how much daycare and commuting costs, and the OTHER costs other than monetary, I guess it depends what your priorities are. I actually know many people who are able to make it on one income just so they can have a parent home, and these people don't vacation all the time and they don't drive new cars or have RVs or live in mansions but they are happy.

I am a stay at home mom, I admire working moms, I tried it for a while, not out of need but because well I wanted to and It was hard, trying to juggle all of it. I am glad that I had the option to not work anymore and am also glad that I at least tried to go back, so you know I do not say what if. In my line of work I have to travel a good bit, it is difficult for me to find a job that does not require travel with my back ground. When I went back to work, for six months, I was gone almost every week for two to three days. It was hard and well I missed my babies way too much.

My husband just told me yesterday that when my girls go back to school he wants me to go back to work. He wants me to go to the same place I was at before. I just don't know if I want that stress. Of course I miss the people I worked with but I would rather work where their is little to no stress. Instead of bringing that home with me. I do like the money. It would be nice to not have to stress so much about that. I would want to be home to help the kids with their homework.

As long as you still spend quality time with your child/children, I don't think there is anything detrimental about returning to work. I grew up with a mum who worked, and neither my sister or I suffered from this. If anything, it was an advantage, as we grew up to be very independant at an early age, and never missed out on any of the extra curricular activities provided by our school (camps, concerts, excursions etc), as our mother was able to afford to send us to these things because she did work. If she had not worked, we would have struggled financially, and would have missed out on a lot more things growing up.

I am also a working mother. I have three children, the eldest is 20 and I have two young ones 6 and 3 respectively. I like working because I am able to earn and take care of myself. However it is a really difficult task to be working and have a home life also. My commute times are long so I leave home early in the morning and reach at home late in the evening. When I get home I have to cook, help with homework and generally see about the children. By Wednesday I'm tired. I feel now that I can stay at home but it is not an option at the moment. I'm giving myself maybe five more years and then I'll seriously consider staying at home. It's just getting to me now.

I am stay at home mum.I think that better to take care them by their parents.Because at the age (0-5 years) is golden age.Phase which they can receive about everything.As parents we know what the best thing for them.Honestly,we need much money,defenitely. but as long as your husband can answered the demands,just take care your children.Because Money cannot buy the together's time.But, for some parents who must working,looking for somebody who closest with you to take care your kids.and quality time is important.

Another thing I think is that the parent needs to be happy. I understand that sacrifices are necessary when you love a baby. But so many moms have such low self esteem because they gave up so much that they had to be there for the kids. I dont think of myself as such a wonderful person that I should only let the kids be raised by myself. I want my child to have many role models. We are all human and we all have our faults. I dont expect my kids to want to be just like me or their father. I would love for them to have more than two rolemodels that they can choose from to follow. More positive aspects to pick up.

I've been both a stay home mom and a working mom. I'd have to say the hardest it's been for me is being home, doing the same routine over and over, there's a definate lack of socialization and mature adult conversation to stimulate my mind. I love my children, and I think it's good that i've been home with them, but it's been hard for me to stay happy knowing that I dont get to socialize and earn some money for myself. I am much happier when I have a job. I feel more challenged and like I have more of a sense of accomplishment. The kids need to be in daycare for at least half the week. It gives them the social interaction and a different enviroment and they learn more that way. I can be their teacher of course, but they get bored in the same house, same toys, same thing over and over every day. They are just bored out of their minds and so am I. I think that the need for moms to stay at home is mostly a man's idea. The sexist ideal of what a woman "should" do. Truth be told, it's not in anyone's favor, it's a pretty big mistake. My advice would be to work at least part time, put the kids in a daycare where they can make friends, learn in a different envirment, have different role models so they know they have options. Remember the saying, "It takes a village to raisse a child" It is the most factual statement I've ever known.

I think that every child is different and takes to being in childcare in different ways. If the parents are working so hard that when they get home they just give their child dinner and put them to bed, then yes, that child and parents are missing out. I wanted to stay home with my children so I decided to work from home. That way I could work when the kids are napping and still be the primary caretaker for my kids.

I am a stay home mum and I left my lucritive career for my kids. Sometimes I do miss those days but when compared to the valuable time I spend with my kids, its uncomparable. I will start working when my kids start going to school. But now they need me. If I cannot give them the time they deserve, I have no right to have kids. Money ofcourse is necessary but may be we can limit our needs a bit. After few years we will have everything but we will miss the golden childhood days of our kids.

well,it is really difficult to take care of babies. In my country,at daytime, mums and dads go out to work and their grandparents take care of babies.I don't think it is good because taking care of children is a life process for every mum and dad. And grandparents are old and they should enjoy life. I can understand that your daughter is so young that you have to stay at home to take care of her. When she grows up, you can go out to work.Hope you good luck.

I went from single working, financially secure woman to stay-at-home Mom after working for 25 years. I would never trade raising my child for anything but I did pay a big price when it came to my financial status. I am dependant on my childs father for support, but we do live together. My credit is ruined at least for a while. I had no choice on that matter. But I will never miss anything when it comes to my daughter. I will teach her everything I can and I am very proud of her thus far. She is my precious little angel.

I was very fortunate because when I went back to work I brought my child with me since I was his educator working in a daycare part time hours. I think if you can stay at home as long as you can with your child.

When I got married I commited myself that when I'll have some kids I'm not going to have them babysat all day long for me,they'll be raised by someone else. My responsability is to not drop the kids and be free. If you are a single mother it can different cause you have to bring food on the table on your own. Kids understand and know things that you overlook, what is sad is that most kids can be emotionaly hurt for life which you can't fix. I have made the decision to homeschool every single one of kids. And I never regreted it. Even if I had stupid comments about it, often the people that are against it is that they don't know what it's all about. Good luck with your choices.

I guess it will not have any ill effects whatsoever. In my case, I have worked all my adult life. So when I delivered my first baby, going back to work was still the best option. Of course, it was not easy, having to juggle between work and family life, especially caring for the newborn baby. But due to financial reasons, I had to be a working mom, even until today, and still counting. I could not imagine myself being a plain housewife. So as long as I am healthy, I guess I'd still work for the next ten or more years...

As a mother like you, as much as possible, I don't want to leave my child alone.. But, I don't want to let my son feel what I felt before, when my father decided not to work and only my mother... I was so hard.. especially when my mom is away earning money which is not so enough for us.. They always fight. So I said to myself, someday if I have my own kids, I will still continue the job, and during my free time, I will spend it with them... Like what I am doing now. My husband and me work.. my husband stays at the office late, while I am teaching until 5 pm only... onwards, I enjoyed my time with my son, even if I am so tired... But I don't know, I can't fee tiredness though.. Time management is so important. Of course it will affect the child.. But it's up to the parents how will they let their children understand it..