Help! I need advise!

Frist of All she broke up with you...So you do not have to feel guilty about anything. Secondly she had her chance and she didnt take it. You dont have to explain anything to her or give her and reasons of why you arent going back to her. Tell her no that your happy with what relationship you have right now and if she cant except that then so be it. But never feel guilty about it because you didnt do anything wrong.But Dont make the ex think you want her back otherwise that will cause problems and be your fault because she felt as if you was leading her own. Just let her know that you just want to be friends or whatever but nothing more and make it very clear so she understands it.

it is up upon your feelings, if you feel that it is best for you to return to your last relationship then it is good for you. it is up upon your conviction and how it works for you, choose what is best and what makes you happy. being in a new relationship will take allot of adjustments.make sure to choose the best thing to do.ok

She is the one who dumped you and, if you ask me, she probably only wants you back because she sees that someone else wants you. It's all a game. When she gets you back, she'll dump you again. Oh well, her loss. If you don't feel it for her anymore, why put aside someone you care for -- for her? Tell her you have moved on, and so should she!

You already have the answer to what you need to do. All you need to do is say your 3rd and 4th sentence to your old girlfriend. You are not responsible if she gets hurt or not. Your feeling guilty is not necessary. You obviously cannot date both girls so which one are you willing to hurt? The answers are not always easy to follow through on, but they are there and the sooner you do it the sooner you can go on with the relationship that is working for you right now.

If your happy with the girl you are with now, stay happy with her. Don't give your ex a second chance.

Dont give the ex any reason to think she has got a chance with you as it will cause heartbreak for you and your new partner. If the ex is trying to win you back ask her why, remind her that you broke up for a reason and it was her that chose to end it. Tell her that its her loss now she didnt want you at the time so you moved on and have found your soulmate, if she cant acceot that just tell her to delete anything to do with you ie phone numbers, e-mail etc. Make sure your girlfriend knows whats going on as if she doesnt you will hurt her by not being honest with her! Good luck I hope you got the answer you was looking for!! =D

what i would suggest is to refrain from getting in touch with your previous girlfriend. you have the full right to be happy. it is a good thing that you are not married to her and your free as to whatever you want to do. you are still in the safe zone. what matters is that you have moved on and you can help her move on by letting her know that you don't have anymore feelings for her.you would be doing her a very big favor.

If you really love your new lady and you don't love your ex, it is simple, Break the news gently to your ex. It is natural to feel for her but if you don't love her, then going back to her you will soon resent her.

She was the one that broke with you, so why do you feel sorry for her? Did she feel sorry for you when she broke up with you? Come on!!! Go on with your life and you new found love. You are doing the right thing.

you must know: do you like your previous girlfriend?

I feel like you should stay with the girl you have now. The first one shouldn't hae broken up with you. You have to wounder why she done that to you. So, I would just let her know that you have moved on with you life and she need to do the same. You need to stay with this girl you have now. So, just tell her the truth, even if it hurt.

In my opinion,in that case,i think if you accept your previous girlfriend,that would very very unfair to your current girlfriend.Since you have not any feelings with your previous girlfriend,and she broke up with you at the first place,then what is the reason you should accept her?If you are just feel guilty,than why does she not?If she does,then she wouldn't make it so hard to you. Just someone said,past is past.you have already had your ture love,then cherish it .As for your previous girlfriend,why not just be a normal friend.

I would definitely be careful in this situation as to not drive your new girlfriend away. But as you have said that you have been good friends and you love her. Even if your ex wants you back you should not let it get int the way between something really great which is you and your new girl. As you no longer feel the same way about her, taking her back won't help things in my opinion. As you both might not be able to work things out and also you will lose the new girl. I would take a good amount of time and think of your options and be honest with yourself and choose who you are most happy and can see yourself with. I know that the truth will hurt for either one but in this situation that is the only way to get things resolved.

It sounds like you have moved on from this former girlfriend and that is making her jealous. I don't recommend that you give into the pressure that she is trying to make you feel. If you like a new girl then give her your attention. If you find yourself missing the previous girl friend then I would advise you to not see either of them for a while so you can make a solid decision without either of them trying to influence you.

Since you've broken up with the first girl, you don't owe her anything and since you are happy with the new girl, the first is out of luck. I wouldn't let her get to you, no matter who broke up with who, it is over and you should stay with the second girl, who has done nothing that you should hurt her to try to figure out what to do about the first. You said yourself that you love the second, so you've made your mind up yourself, I would hope! Good luck with it, makingmoneysoeasy!

You canot go back because you feel sorry for her. Rlain to her that relationships are not based on pity but of a sincer love for another person. Explain to her that your feelings have changed and you are seeing someone else but, you will always be her friend be there for her.

From where I'm sitting I think it's pretty easy. But of course I am not in your situation thus making the saying true that "it's easier to see at hindsight". You deserve to move on, you deserve to be happy, you deserve to choose, and you have the right to refuse (your ex). If you will go back to her just because you feel pity for her, I don't think that's good grounds for you to go back into each others arms. However, I have a question, is this girl you're courting showing a big fat chance that she will give you her "yes?". If you are in doubt then that's probably the reason why you're in some sort of dilemma. YOu probably want to make sure that you wil end up with someone. However again, this is not the question of who's going to be 100% yours. It's about pursuing what you want and whom you love. If in case you lose both girls, then I guess they are both not for you. So just like what you did to your previous relationship ---move on. Everyone comes and goes for a reason. :-) Good luck!!!

the easiest way to put things in perspective here is to concentrate or put in importance the amount of respect and love you have for the girl you are courting. as to your former girlfriend, if she happens to be your daughter, wouldn't you advise her to let her former boyfriend know of her regrets of the breakup only once? i mean tell her not to plead? that's demeaning, right?

Yes, I have encounter that scenario. My hubby and I have been friends for 11 years also before we became bf/gf then after 4 years, we got married. He was also caught in between to made a decision if he has to go back to his ex or should he pursue me. I really hope he didn't feel sorry of pursuing me and be married to me. But our relationship has been very light since we know each other very well we have a very strong foundation of trust and love with each other. It really helps that we have gone so much to go on with this relationship. If bad things happen, we will always think the long road we have already travel to sustain our love for each other It is really a decision you have to make.If you choose the one you are courting, try to ignore your ex. Believe me, she will get tired and will find her way to move on. But as long as you still give her your attention, she won't be able to move on and will continuously disturb you.

This is kinda troublesome for you cause there's two ladies involved in the situation and you are in the middle of it. I think what you should do is to explain the matter to your previous girlfriend that you don't feel same way before the way you should be. What have happened in the past is already in the past and she should have just let go of it cause there will be no more chances for you to go back the way you were before anymore. The more you plead to her feelings the more you hurt her so you should just say it or else the situation could go even worse.