Maybe Ther Is a Reason...
By jillmalitz
@jillmalitz (5131)
United States
May 23, 2009 11:58am CST
Call me crazy but I think I had an epiphany last night. Some of you know that since my separation I've been living with my daughter and her family. They have frequently driven me nuts with some things they do. But for some reason which I don't really understand, I think that maybe there is a duel purpose for me being here. Traci is frequently hard to understand and I have noticed that Bobby her husband is at a loss sometimes. They have some problems that have been going on for a while. Both are to blame to an extent. She's done some really stupid things and lied to him. There are too many for this discussion but one was the fact that she got their car repo'ed cause she didn't make payments for 6 months - making it look like she did but keeping the money herself to hide so that she could take off on a trip by herself to see a "friend". In short, in our chat I learned a lot about what makes them both tick. So my point here is that as unhappy and frustrated as I have been here, I see that maybe I am here in some way to "listen" and offer what insight I can. I can't help but feel that God wants me to do this. Have you ever had something like this occur to you? What is your opinion?
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@meandmy3 (2227)
• United States
23 May 09
All the time, often I do not now till after the fact.
My husband and I moved from our townhome to a house while we lived in the Chicago Land area, when we moved, we moved into a nice neighborhood, and we lived next to a NICU nurse, I had no idea that she was there for me at that time. I became pregnant with triplets, a high risk pregnancy and my babies were in the NICU for some time, she was their charge nurse.
When we moved again, our immediate neighbor is an ER doctor, needless to say we have needed him a few times as well
When my mom divorced she moved in with us for six months, (this was years ago) she was a God send to us, as well as us being a God send to her. She helped me through so much and well my baby sister really needed me during this time.
Life presents us with opportunities and challenges along the way. We have the opportunity to effect others lives and to help them through difficult times, as well as them to help us in ways that we do not always see at the time.
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@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
23 May 09
Thank you so much. I thought for a minute I was wrong but as you pointed out we are given these opportunities and sometimes we don't even know it. I will certainly try to be more in touch with myself and others now that "someone" tapped me on the should and told me to listen.
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@meandmy3 (2227)
• United States
23 May 09
I am glad you were listening, so often we do not here what is being told to us, we are to busy with everything else in life that we forget to be still and listen. That is the important thing. You are there for a reason, it will help you as well as your children. Hang in there and do not give up faith.
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@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
23 May 09
Thanks so much. It is funny how I feel a little more a peace because of this.
@miamilady (4910)
• United States
1 Oct 09
I am a pretty strong believer in the idea that "things happen for a reason". But, I think it is up to us to decide to figure out what those "reasons" are.
Even if it is more about "stuff happens" for no particular reason, we should try to make every experience a learning experience.
I think that is the only way we can evolve.
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@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
1 Oct 09
Yes, I tend to think so too. I am trying to take what has happened and is happening to me and learn from it. I talked to a minister recently about the possible "plan" God has for me. Maybe this is all part of that plan. Thanks for your response.
@ElicBxn (63594)
• United States
23 May 09
it sounds like your daughter might be needing her mom around for some much needed grownup advice and her husband might need her to have this advice as well
If I were Bobby, I guess I wouldn't be letting her pay the bills from now on - but I'd be that way anyway - controlling sometimes
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@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
23 May 09
I think you could be right. For me it is easy to listen and ask the "right" questions/be non-judgemental. But getting through to Traci is another problem. She apparently has some issues that she is not willing to work on or release. I wish I could talk to her or just let her talk as Bobby did. I have felt for years that she has a burden from which she can't escape. But she completely shuts down when anyone tries to cross that barrier. We will see. A little Divine Guidance sure would help. I agree with you on the bills - he needs to watch her carefully. Thanks for your help.
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