Why my heart keeps saying he's the one?

You know, we have that in common. We're stubborn when it comes to love. As much as possible, we follow what our hearts say. Which, is not wrong, at all. But, always remember, if it is not causing you any good, it's not meant to be followed. Sometimes, we have to use our head (common sense). I admire that you are not swayed by rejection. Your love is that strong. Just, make sure that you leave something for yourself, though. That is very important. A cyber friend advised me the same... "don't hold on too long for that someone you love (want to be with). Live... love OR receive love. If he'd ever show up again, there's the possibility that you can end up together." Live your life for now. Don't worry about being true to a relationship or not. Try not to think about who you should be. Maybe, it's just your head convincing you that you want him. Stay far away from him and don't make him feel that he's that important. There are men who realize who they love when the girl starts to drift away. Make him miss you. Ever read what Oprah said about men? Lemme know and I'll gladly share it. I commend you sharing your story with the MyLotters.

Hmm the guy thinks you are the one and you think he is the one, I would suggest hold on for some time, try asking him what does he likes so much about his ex, what were the reasons they broke off learn from her mistakes and make sure you don't repeat those...Be friends for the time being and as and when he opens in front of you about his ex try to understand what makes him think so about her. After you get to know the reason try making him realize that this is not going to happen all the time and she is not going to come back, dnt tell that you are there so he should hang on with you otherwise these words will break the friendship too. let him have some time and make him realize that you love him and best luck that he finds the "One" in you.

The feeling will remain as long as you see him. Try to get along with other friends. He can't move on yet after the break up with his girlfriend, for the meantime if you really can't avoid seeing him so treat him as your best friend. After all friendship is a good foundation of love, who knows he might fall for you later.

I must say I agree with some of the rest opinions and advices. Love is a 2-way traffic, and there is no way you can force someone to love you. Well, in this situation, you can choose to wait, or you may choose to let go. If you choose to wait, then you must understand that love cannot be forced. You can just continue to be his friend, and stay by him. Do let him know that you will be waiting for him, by hinting him. However, if this really hurts you a lot by waiting, I will advise you to move on, and not see him anymore. Yes, it may hurt initially, but time will heal all your wounds. It will be better not to see him, or maintain in contact with him, as this may dissolve your resolution to forget him... Do learn new things and join new society/programs to know more new friends and keep yourself occupied. The choice is really up to you. We can give advices here, but ultimately you will be the one who know what you want best...

if your heart is telling you that he is the one, maybe you should tell him what he wants from your relationship, if he is too shy to tell you then you need to help him out by encouraging him to tell you what is on his mind,otherwise you may not be right that he is the right person for you until he tells you how much he feels about you

If you feel that the person understands you and that no matter what happened they would still stayu by your side and love you and protect you then that would be the person that you could call "the one"

you can not turn your heart off like a tv or an appliance.if you love this guy unless he does something that just turns you off your love for him will probably grow.i wouldnt give up on him.it may take awhile but he will realize his ex girl friend isnt coming back and he will have to more on.hopefully his feelings for you will grow stronger as your relationship grows even as friends.and hopeful he wakes up and realizes what is in front of him. Maybe say a prayer here and there. what could it hurt ask God for his guidance. my advice is just be real to him and continue to learn,share,and grow in your friendship for now and be patient.tomorrows another day he may wake up and smell the coffee. lol Good luck and God bless.

Hello, Nowniz, Shall I post my honest views? Your man has never been in real love with you.He was just using you as a time pass and relaxation and entertainment(sorry to say this) You can die for a man who is really in love with you. But fretting for a man who is not in love with you, I think it is totally absurd. It is a big world with millions and millions of good men out there. Will you not find a man who is totally turned on by you? So wait for him and you will soon find him. This relationship is mere a passing cloud, not worth to continue. This is my humble opinion,thanks.

Hi Nowniz, TIME is the best medicine or remedy in our life, so give time to him and yourself.. LOVE is Friendship ...So most important..how hard it is to win you love, but is your faith said that he will be yours one day ... then be patient and enjoy your life

HMM You have felt same as me. Actually I had same story as you but from different angle.Actually A girl toofelt same for me. First we used to do combined study. Slowly I felt that she is in love withme.She tried to catch my hand, sometime she touched my feet with her feetand behaves like it was done unknowingly.I felt She was falling for me.But I had already told I loved somebody else even then she proposed me one day.I disagreed and told her to be just friend. After then We have never met again nor she has called maybe she has forgotten me. You can also do the same like what she has done. Or FOLLOW MY STEPS 1__Try to be friend like usual but try toi be close than others and try to make him fall in love with you 2___Some time call him for dinner in your home when you are alone or just go to morning walk or eveningwalk with him. I mean any Once you love sombody for the firsttime you can never forget that person. I have experienced it.Instead it will make you bad person ihadto smoke to for that.so try to get in his heart.ok'' BEST OFLUCK and add me for more bikal@ymail.com.BYE 3___Talk to him again very franly what does he feels for you

Yes,maybe he is the one for you.You can know he is also love you by see how hi is look at you,talk to you and try to touch you.Maybe he still cannot forget his ex lover.I wish good luck for you to get a good lover.Have a nice day.Thank you.

actually, your heart is not the one who's telling you that he's the one, it's your mind that tells you those things. you're just too in love my dear and i don't want to conclude that have already been obsessed with that guy. don't lay low on you relationship as friends... feel the pain until you'll wake up one day you no longer loved him... accept the fact that he's in love with somebody else and not with you. think about it over and over again.

well for one dont be a booty call, he already said that he does not want you to be her girlfriend although no directly but you got to be able to read between the lines a guy regardless of whatever status so long as he is a guy and he likes you he will do his best to make you his girl unfortunately, you even told him you like him and still her refuse what does that tell you, move on and try not to think of him if he is the one he will be the one to come toyou not the other way around.

the guy said his ex-girlfriend is the one for him,so what's meaning? that meaning is there was only one in him heart and he never get along with anybody eles except him ex-girlfriend who was break up some years ago and it is impossible to live each other again,yes,he is a spoony guys,may be you feel better if you try to contact him occasionally instead of high frequency.

No force works in love, try to be just friends and then slowly win his heart, if he forgets his ex, then he will surely start thinking about you, but forcing and making him to love you without giving time, may result in you losign him forever, so keep patience and have faith in your love. Good luck to you to get him...

Love is a two way feeling....U meet a lot of people who you might find attractive....You can even get emotionally attached to some...But then if it is not reciprocated, then it is, most obviously not the right relationship for u....Please get rid of this guy right now...and move onnnnnnnnn...You are only 23 and you have the whole life ahead of you. One of my friends, with exactly the same story as urs, spoilt her whole life because of that guy....so please MOVE ONNN

Wow... I felt like this once before. One thing you absolutely do not want to do is force love on him. Continue to be friends and if its meant to be he will one day be yours. I know this will be hard, but sometimes we go through things so when the right person, not saying he's not the right person, comes along we can love them the way they should be loved. I had to learn this and I did however find a better person. It took me a minute to realize that me and him were just meant to be friends. Its strange though why they always think the ex is the one. What makes her so much special. I believe your mate should be a person who you can cry, laugh, be sad, happy, depressed, aggitated, irritated, express all your feelings with. Your mate should not only be your lover, but your best friend, your biggest supporter. Men really do not see it the way we do. This is a decision you have to make. Just know that love will always be there, it may not be as strong, but it will never go away. I know because I am a true witness. I see him and i feel that love but the love for my husband is 30 times as much stronger. Just make the best decision for you. Way all your options, try to stay friends. If you invite him for dinner and go for a walk and sparkes fly. Congraluations if not take it as a sign that there is someone out that there you haven't found quite yet. Good luck and Happy MyLotting.

Yes, she or he's is the one when we really love the person. There is gladness and joy in our heart. There is power and affection and the bosom of our hearth is so strong. Feeling nothing more than feeling.

well, love is one of those things that you can't force, because once you do the other person will become resentful. do the opposite give him space and take the cues from him. forced intimacy sometimes makes things much worse. you do not want him to start avoiding you or making excuses to not spend time with you. my advice having been in a similar situation is just take a breath and step back from the situation and think about it rationally. iknow that love irrational, and that being in love can sometimes fee; like a mental illness. you lose all rhyme and reason and you are consumed by it. but take your time. some things are worht waiting for. stop chasing him or forcing yourself onto him. pretend that he is like any other friend even when it is killing you. keep him at arms length. try this for a while. and this i not a load of hooey, i have been through this before i knew i loved him the day that i met him and 3 months later we were together. i gave him space and the chance to mourn the end of a previous, somewhat toxic relationship. but he needed to see that for himself. you can only lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink it. let him see for himself that this other girl is not for him. do not bad mouth her whatever it takes. always be supportive and caring and do not always be available to him, even if you are not doing anything, you do not always have to be there at his beck and call. show some independence and continue with your life with your friends. if this is meant to happen it will. if not you will have to follow the 5 stages of grief and mourn what could have been and move on.

It does hurt to love without being loved back as love is something coming out from your inner heart and cannot be controlled, even beyond your self-awareness. Unfortunately I'm just in the exactly same situation as yours so I have no constructive advise for you. Just try to keep all your feelings to yourself and see where it's gonna lead you to, 'cause you really cannot to beg people to love you.