I need help gaining weight!

I am just the opposite of you. I have been trying to shed some weight but it seems that I am destined to be on the bigger size but not obese. I love to be able to fit in to most designers clothing but can't as they seems to go for those slimmer bodies. I wish I can be like you, eating a lot without gaining weight. It is a dream come true if I can only reduce some weight. My only advice to you is to eat more and surely you'll gain your much desired weight.

I had the same problem, thankfully though, I managed to weigh 120-125 now, my weight still jumps, but now I'm at the proper weight, so it doesn't concern me much anymore. But I felt SO uncomfortable in my body, and whenever my weight would jump up 5 pounds when I was underweight, so many people would compliment me, "Oh you look so great! So healthy..."But I would feel like CRAP! Whenever my weight jumped like that, I wouldn't feel great at all! Mainly because my clothes would all be too tight, and then I would stress about the cost of buying new clothes, and well, the stress put that weight off again. SO, what I ended up doing, is that whenever I went to buy new clothes, I would get 1-2 sizes bigger, because one, they might just shrink in the washer/dryer ANYWAYS, and whenever I had a weight issue again, I wouldn't feel so much like crap! lol. I know that was a bad way to look at it, but it was true, example? When my jeans were too tight around the waste? Yeah, my stomach would hurt and I would feel ill, thankfully not enough to throw up (now THAT would start the rumors lol) and I would still worry about something ripping. Yeah it was just 5 pounds, but it ballooned me like you wouldn't believe it! But what ended up happening is that I became more active, which I had to do at work, what with working in shipping and receiving, and I just NEEDED to eat more to keep my energy up. Maybe start a new exercise program, a cardio program, and then you'll just notice that you need to eat more....or start smoking MJ lol. Always good for the munchies. Your choice of course! Good luck.

Hi Have you maybe asked your doctor if you have a metabulism problem? some people burn a lot more calories than other people do. As for me, most of my life i have been fat. Many people in life have mistreated me and when I am mistreated, I tend to want to eat to forget my problems. Unfortunately, many of the things that I eat are fattening. Perhaps you might want to change what you eat, to eat more foods with a lot of calories, and to eat more often. You are a pretty young lady and I wish you the best. Albert

Hey, you know, I noticed a lot of people telling you to drink protein shakes and eat more and etc to put on weight. To me, it seems as though you're perfectly fine as you are, but maybe you should let the people who accuse you of being too thin to mind their own business. 5'1" and 90 lbs is a healthy height/weight ratio, and even if it weren't, everyone's different. It's what's healthy for you. So keep eating healthfully and maintaining a cheerful outlook and active life. And the next person who gasps and says you MUST be anorexic, ask to see their graduate degree in health. No degree? Then "You are extrememly rude to judge me by my looks when I eat more healthfully than you do" usually works pretty well. :)

Since it sounds like you have tried somewhat yourself (you said you do eat a lot, or at least "love to eat"), it is important to bring this up with your doctor. I'd recommend also getting a recommendation for a dietician/nutritionalist, who can guide you. I was quite sick once, which caused me to lose too much weight (unmemorable time of surgery that went bad). I saw nutritionalists and GI docs. I doubt you'd need to be fed through a tube in your body. ;o( But one of my first starts was adding in ENSURE (which was also recommended and started at the hospital). I had 3-4 cans a day along with my meals. This helped, but don't expect it to do miracles. It is a healthy drink. Most important again is to talk to your medical doctor/specialist for the safest and best way. Let us know how it goes.

WOW. We have the same problem. I am 5"4 and 100 pounds. Like you said, people always assume I have an eating disorder or just exclaim, "Girl, you need to eat!" The only problem is that I eat all the time! I'll eat about ten small meals in a day, and I continuously snack on sunflower seeds and other non-messy but healthy snacks when I read, am on the computer (I'm actually eating some now), or when I do other things. I literally am always eating, which makes working uncomfortable because I can only eat three times within eight hours. The sad thing is that I can only maintain my weight like this. When I had my wisdom teeth taken out a few years ago, I had issues and my teeth were in extreme pain for two weeks and not two days, like normal. Because of this, I wasn't eating all the time like I usually do, and I became very sick. I was down to about 87 pounds and ended up going to the hospital for dehydration. As soon as the tooth pain was gone, I gained all my weight back within a week, reached 100 pounds, then stopped again. It's as if my body is saying, "No, this is where I'd like to stay, thank you!" :) To be honest, since you aren't sick or disgustingly skinny, I wouldn't worry as much about putting on weight...just stay healthy. I agree with you that it is very uncomfortable when people judge you for something you really can't help. In fact, I posted a picture of my husband and I on our wedding day in a discussion and had some person say I was too skinny. It hurts because I can't help it...and although I'm very petite, I'm the healthiest person I know. If you really feel you need to gain weight, don't rely on fattening foods to get you there. That would be very counter-productive. You might try exercising to gain muscle weight...although I've tried that as well and it doesn't help me personally. 90 pounds may be the weight that your body is comfortable at. Good luck in either direction you choose. :)

As a therapist I have been asked clients to gain weight so many times. For most thinner people this is difficult because they have that sort of metabolism. It is not usually the answer people want to hear, but learning to accept oneself exactly as one is, is the best possible way forward with this. Then, if weight it meant to be gained, it will be. If not, then because of self-acceptance, then it ceases to matter. I would say, look at the way you feel, not the way you think you ought[b][/b] to be. Fritz Perls, the Gestalt Therapist wrote, "I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, and you are not in this world to live up to mine. If we meet, it could be wonderful. If not, then it cannot be helped". If people ask questions let them. You know how you feel. - Derek

I can put on weight, and lose weight just like that. I would suggest.. uhh. Eating at fast food places for like a month? ahha. If it makes you feel any better I think you look fine just the way you are, ;) In fact, if that's you in your default picture you're quite hot.

You're not alone.. I was way skinnier than you back then.. I only weigh 86 lbs with 5"1 3/4' height. But now, I weight close to 100 lbs, still underweight, skinny. I've always wanted to put weight, but people think that I just have the right built for my height.. I haven't tried everything, but working out helped me out.. And eating the right food at small amount and like more than 3x in a day.. Big amount of food for every meal is not advisable especially if you have fast metabolism.. I've tried drinking the protein supplement, you know like for the gym buff, I was not consistent, but I think it kind of worked. I think it's more having positive outlook and being determined of putting some weight... I hope these all helps..

I have worked with many people who wanted to gain weight, both with hypnosis and personal training. I would first suggest working out...resistance training mostly and minimal cardio training (maybe 15 min/3xper week) to avoid burning too many calories. Work the large muscles of the body - legs, chest, back, abs, with moderate weight and working up to heavier weight. Work each muscle group 3 x per week. Now, the difficult part...in order to build more muscle (don't worry, it isn't likely that you have the hormones to build muscle like a man), you have to take in more calories than you use. This can be tricky. You might want to try eating high calorie foods, including "good" fats (nuts, avocado, olive oil, etc...). Try 4 meals per day and add 2-3 "weight gain" shakes (can be found at any health food store). I would also suggest that you get a trainer, at least for a few sessions...to ensure that you are doing the exercises properly and at the right amount of resistance to reach your goals. Although I mostly work with people wanting to lose weight with hypnosis, I have also worked successfully with weight gain as well. Find a hypnotherapist in your area (try to get a referral from someone you know...). Hypnosis can help you refocus your attention toward what you DO want, rather than what you do not want...and make it much easier. If you want to learn more about hypnosis and how it works, read my blog jbergkvist. blogspot . com. I also make custom/personalized hypnosis cd's that are very effective, in the event that you cannot find someone where you live. Just contact me if you have any questions about any of the above :) The MOST important thing you can do is be consistent. Eating a little bit more and adding a little exercise on a regular basis will bring you better results than doing alot some of the time. Hang in there and don't give up!!! You CAN do it!

I think it is not your problem if you eat normally and nutrtion is enough.i think the lath is good and healthy,if you gain weight ,your health will have a problem somedays.i think some type people is usually thin all life though they do many ways to gain weight.my wife is this people,she is about 160 cm and weight is about only 45 kg,so i advise you should keep your weight,everybody admire you

You don't usually find people asking how to gain weight. I have been where you are. I have a fast metabolism which is probably what you have too. Maybe try milkshakes, Protein shakes 1 a day, eat more protein. Eat more food but I know that is hard because if you are like me I can't stand eating to the point of being uncomfortable. I loose up to 5lbs in a week if I don't have dessert each night. So try having ice cream or cake at night for dinner. At your height and depending on your frame you should weigh anywhere between 105-140. I usually assume that when people ask whats wrong with you - you are so skinny they are just jealous- LOL LOL LOL Good Luck to you.

putting on extra weight is never a good idea for girls I guess because sometime later in their life they do get fat:S. So I guess accept your body happily. As you are thin you can eat as much as you like and what ever you like unlike chubby people.

I reco that you see a doctor first. Have yourself checked because it can be related to a Thyroid Disorder. For two years, I have been trying to gain weight and no matter how much I eat, I was never successful with it. Early last year, I found out that I was diagnosed with Hyperthyroidism which was a huge factor to my difficulty to gain some weight. If there's nothing wrong with your Thyroid, it would be best to still see a doctor and to enroll yourself at a gym. I would want to gain weight, but I'd like to eat the right kinds of food and still have toned muscles. Goodluck!

Hi rebelmel First you find out whether your weight is normal or under weight for your height. You need not increase your weight just to avoid others remarks.If you are in correct weight,you should be happy about it. In case if you are under weight,you may eat more fatty foods like icecream,butter cookies etc. The concept is if your food calorie intake is more than what your body burns for energy,then the excess calories are stored in your body as fat cells and you gain weight. So you take more calorie rich foods. Happy mylotting

I don't think people realise how difficult it can be for some people to gain weight. Like you I'm small 4ft 9ins and at present about 94lbs. I'm slim and actually a size 6-8 and have been for 40 years. Being so small means a correspondingly small stomach so I can't eat a lot before I feel full. Great when I'm normal but a problem when I need to gain. When I've needed to gain weight (I always lose weight if ill or under stress) I use high calorie drinks like complan or even diet meal replacement drinks and snacks. I know that sounds odd, but I use them in addition to meals not as replacements. They are a healthy way of adding extra calories and easier to get, and with more variety, than high calorie supplements. As they also contain a balance of vitamins and minerals they are better than eating just high calorie foods that may make the diet unbalanced nutritionally. Try it, it always works for me! Good luck!

Oh, in my country most of girls want to loose weight although they are slim. In some way,you are lucky one. hehe... Hey, in my opinion, you should do some sports and eat more. Then you will be healthy than before. No matter one is thin or fat,being healthy is the most important.Have a nice day!

gaining weight was never my problem, losing is... but i have a very good friend before who had that problem, he was so skinny, he got teased at a lot of times, sometimes being called bamboo, stick, lizard... lol... he never minded anyway, he got used to all those. then after more than a year he decided enough was enough... lol... he wanted to gain weight. he tried a vitamins called "appetens", and did some exercising too, surprisingly he gained weight, and he looked cuter and he got many admirers... lol you could try it too... he said it will make you eat more and sometimes sleepy... also do some exercising too. hope this helps...

I think you are not as skinny as people describe you - others have a bad habit of exaggerating things, you see. But if you personally feel that you weight less (i think a person of your height and age can weigh from 45-55 kg) you can try eating foods that are rich in calories like ice creams, creams, rice, etc. A dietitian can be of help in this matter. But i would suggest yoga or general exercises. By performing yoga regularly you can gain, lose and also maintain your weight! I have practically experienced it. But if you feel yoga is not your choice then you can try normal exercises that will keep you mentally and physically happy and therefore giving a perfect touch to your appearance. All the best and enjoy staying lean ;)

urghh...we have the same problem. I eat a lot but still i can't gain much weight and my bmi is barely normal..