Do you compare with others?

It is certainly not just your culture at all. I think that most people compare themselves in some way, I think that this is human. I try not to judge or compare, but I do find myself comparing some things. I really try hard not to and I know people who live a miserable life because of the constant feelings of being inferior. I do the best that I can and it is important for kids to learn healthy habits from their parents. A child should learn to appreciate what they have and understand that there are kids with nothing. You have to be thankful for what you have. I would never compare my children. They are unique and precious; again, this is very unhealthy behavior.

Hie daydreamer20, No, I do not compare myself with others. I am happy with what I have and do not look at others things they have. I am pleased and satisfied as I am, would not like other way. I have tryed to teach my kids in the past, that you are not happy with things that others have more than of the things you have. You should be happy with what you got, there are people that do not have what you have. There is no point in comparing your self with others. We do not know how happy they really are, only see the happiness they show of.

There's another way to survive this competition. A way that no one ever seems to tells you about. One you have to learn for yourself. It is not about the race at all. There are no winners or losers. I like comparing with others so as to make a progress!

Hi Daydream, I think parents play a big part. Parents are always comparing the marks of their kids with other children. It is really stupid. In the long run, what is the difference of 1 mark? My mother is also like that, always like to compare, sometimes we quarrel with her because of this. I don't mind making less money or eating simple food, as long as I am healthy and happy, I heck care about what others think. But she likes to have "face" in front of her friends. Maybe it's Asian culture, the "can win cannot lose" spirit.

Yeah,I do sometimes. What can I do?It can't be helped. Even my family does that do me every time. Comparing yourself or being compared really pisses me off. It's the same as being insulted or provoked by someone. Sometimes we tend to not accept it though it's a compliment cause you know that the other side is hurt.

Unfortunatly I find myself comparing myself to other people and in turn trying to compete with them. Ill do it secretly at the gym, or in classes to run faster and longer or get better grades and I dont think its completly bad. It makes me want to better myself, however it does have its downs when a person is better then me and i have to learn to accept that- once one can learn to do that i feellike it is a okay thing to do

My mother used to compare me with other kids when I was younger. I don't like it as its not good as everybody is unique and has different talents. I don't like comparing myself with other people either. I don't compare my bf to my previous boyfriends as I know that he is different. I like to compete for achievements and I strive hard to reach my goals.

Even though many people around me do compare themselves to other people, I do not. Actually I was brought up to be grateful with whatever I have. Sometimes we are not meant to get something even if we work hard for it. The important point here is efforts are made to achieve something in life. The others may look wealthier, but deep inside they may be having problems. The monthly repayments for a house and a car can make one look older. I know of people who are like this. There is no harm in comparing certain things but with at least one justification. For example "Look at xxx, he/she studies and does well. If you spend more time on your studies maybe you can do well too" instead of "I want you to be like xxx, scoring high marks in your exams!" In conclusion I avoid comparing about things which I do not have, because it can create further problems. all the best, rosdimy

Good point! Not all rich people are happy. In fact, they could be in for a much heavier problems. Well i admit that i do compare but i just keep it to myself. I'm just using it to gauge what i have accomplished or what are the things i need to do to make my life better. On material things, it really doesn't bother me much if i have the lesser models like cellphones, computers and so on. I'm quite contented with what i have. I just get envy with friends sometimes when they have achieved a lot of things. That's the thing that bothers me the most because i feel i have disappointed my parents. I sure wouldn't compare my future kids, it's just isn't right.

I don't like to compare myself to other. I know they are richer than me, so what? :) I'm happy with myself and with what I have now. A rich friend told me once, she is envying me because I can always be myself and don't have to pretend to be someone else. She always has to look beautiful, carry a lot of money and dress nicely all the time...those just to make the people around her happy. I don't think that's the kind of life I want to have.

No way,i never compare myself with anyone at those money things. If there are something i would like to compare with people,that would be ability,brain,freedom,health,happiness,etc. Especially health and happiness,they are very more important than money,i really envy those people who possess both of them.Of course,besides them,if we have a lot of money,that would be perfect.

I think it makes more sense to compare with yourself than with other people since we should be ourselves-we are unique, not the copy of others.As I see it,the progress of ourselves is much more important and realistic.The endless desire won't make us happy.Just set proper goals for ourselves and try to make it!

to be honest, i used to especially when i was a teenager. and i could say that doing this could only make you sad, insecure, frustrated, disappointed, and other kinds of negative emotions. i have learned from experience that in order to be completely happy in this life, you just have to learn how to be contented with what you have. but that was part of the past of course.

hi there! i do compare myself when i kid...and realizing that its not good doing it...it makes me worst or make myself not being me coz' im forcing myself to the one i get over with...but now i really dont compare things from one to another...why should i...everybody is unique and one of a kind...one of us has its specialties or special skills and talents...

Why WOULD I compare myself with other people? No one person is alike,..I mean their financail status, etc. That would be like putting 'false' expectations on yourself. I DO, however, 'compare' myself with how I was doing ( mentally, financially, etc) 6 months ago OR 1 year ago.

nope i don't. i always think that im far better than others.hek. joking aside, i don't think we need to worry that. people accomplish things becuase of efforts and time. do that too and you'll reap what you just sow.

Hi daydreamer, I never compare myself with others and I don't believe that we should. There will always be greater and lesser people than ourselves and when we make such comparisons, there is always the chance that we will become bitter or vane. Blessings.

Hi daydreamer, I don't like to compare with others.because i only think about myself,if any one compare to me with others i feel very angry.i say don't compare with others.its very bad habit.

Comparing might not be a good idea regarding what we have and we don't have with other people. Its only a matter of pride to ourselves rather than that of being humble enough to be satisfied with what we have. Every person is unique and that you have to live and be at best like those other people. Comparing is just a matter of envious acts to others, so I never had to be compared and comparing myself to others.

many girls in China will compare with others, like you said, the hourse, the car, the luxery even the boyfriend, the husband, and their children in the future, i think this is the culture in China, we can't avoid this situation, but if you don't like it, just be yourslf is OK.