Is it better to have loved and lost or to never have loved at all?

I have loved one guy and lost.And I hope I have never loved someone. I was heartbroken and it was too hard for me to forget him. So I think it is better to never have loved at all.

I completely dont understand what do u mean by 'loved and lost'.If u love somone truely,no matter whether other person is reciprocating ur love or not,u will love them.when the other person reciprocate,then only u will enter into the relationship only there comes the losing and winning..

in my opinion you are saying correct that just thinking of losing in life cannot make you to take risk and really that is wrong feeling or attitude of yours toward life. we should experience once everything in our life without thinking about the result as i think so and if it is the case of love which is like a wonderful think that everyone should at least have once than you should not think about the result. basically it is not the case that in one attempt you get the true love so never think that if i trust this person and if i fall in love with this person than i may lost it or this person may ditch me so just take risk of love and than think of lossing instead of just sitting at the edge of sea and thinking of precious stone to be in your hand

First: We are human beings after all and we all want to be loved so if someone is loving someone else both people will be happy with each other. If there love are lost then they will suffer sometimes one of them cannot take it lightly an dhe/she might do something bad so this is one of the disadvantage of being loved an dthe love is lost. Now the advantage is that we bacome more experiencd in life, we can be more mature if we encounter such situation in life and hence we will be more vigilant when we can see the same situation being cropped up. Secondly: If we never love someone in our life, we will be missing something definitely in life. As we are here to love everyone with unconditional love. If we never love someone dearly then we will never be understanding the sacredness of love, the beauty of love, the honesty in love and hence we will be lacking behind in this context. However if we never love, we will never suffer if the love is lost so this is the advantage. But I believe that It is better to be love or to love an dthen the love is lost whereas to never love someone in your life, atleast you can understand what love is and from that you can allow yourself to decide if you want love again or never, atleast one will be able to understand love.

I think it is better to have loved then not at all. What's life without love? If at least you experienced it once in your life that is good. I think alot people don't get to really love at least once in their life and that is a real shame.

I feel only truly alive when I love someone. I've proven this to myself so many times. But this doesn't mean that I must constantly depend on others to become happy. Love does not mean loving only other people. It also means loving yourself. When you love yourself, you'll find that more people will also find it easier to love you.

I wish I don't have the experience of being betrayed by friends or loved ones but life has to go on, doesn't it. I kept going and searched for love. I found him and now we are married for 8 yrs going strong. If only I gave up, I wouldn't have found him. I wouldn't say it's better to have loved and lost it, but life without love I think not everybody can take it. Even if we don't have anyone to love, we do love ourselves. So life without love, doesn't sound like living at all. At least for me.

Yup! everybody has to experience love... it goes with it, sadness, pain, and yes, even temporary madness. And you'll nevery understand your own existence withuot having love in ur life.

Hi, I believe everyone needs to get a taste of love and lost. Nothing will stable forever and everything you have will loose or go away from you someday. Love is a prize and lost is also a prize too... they both walk in the same road. Once you miss it, then you will loose it... and I, myself experience so much about it. I always give love to everyone that I know... but no matter how I take care of it or how it was good, it will go away really soon. dont know why

Well that might be true, especially if your someone who has never fallen in love before at least not yet, anyway but thankfully I do have a loving family whom I care for deeply, but I have not had the experience of being in love with someone the kind of love you get from a relationship, or a significant other, but hopfully it will happen someday.

I believe that it is a good thing to have the experience even if things do not go well. We learn from our mistakes, that is what life is all about. It really does seem to make things better if you know that you have someone in your life who really cares about you and supports you. That is what loving someone is all about, caring, sharing, and being supportive. www.wantingtowork.today.com

hello there dlsasmartypant..... i think i would agree with you! loving is a happy and sad experience...... some leads to a happy family and some are not.... but this does not mean that we should stop loving..... we shouldnt generalize the things that is happening to others....may happen to us.... life is life!!!!!! we are not robots! we have free will! free to choose whom you want to love..... but we should also remember the responsibility that comes together in loving a person.... we must learn to accept the things that will be happening.... may it be good or bad..... loving it a nice experience!!!!!! dont be afraid to show your love to others.... smile life is beautiful.....

Yeah it's better to have that one than never experienced loving someone at all. Though you will lose the one you loved at least you know how it feels to be inlove and you'll never have regrets losing it. It would be a pity to those persons who haven't been encountered this before.

I think it is better to have true love. I mean real unconditional love not the love for what a person has (money,fame, fortune, ritches etc...) just eacho other. I know love doesnt supposed to hurt and true love wont.Open your heart if its real give it achance and go with it. But once you experienced what you thought what true love was then lost it thinking i was played a fool. Where do you go from there. How will you ever truley happily love again?

Very true and your argument says it all. I am happy that I am at the same wave length as I am one of those that believe in that kind of thinking. Risk is part of life and if we don't take it we are not really getting what we want in life. Another thing is fear, if we are not to conquer it it our life would never move on. Love is just taking risk and also conquering fear. These two go hand in hand and if you can conquer both then you are on your way to achieving what you want in life.

It is a very difficult situation to be loved and lost. I have seen closely how people will feel and react when the lose the love. It is a pathetic situation. So, I think it is better to be loved at all rather than to be loved and lost.

you're perfectly right that it is better to have loved and lost than never had loved at all provided of course that the other one of the pair isn't married . like how it was said courage to fall in love isn't the absence of fear of getting one's heart broken but the acknowledgement that something else is greater to experience than the pain of falling out of love .