Why are some mylotters so rude?

yes, there was one, that i felt was a rude response to my response, that was on my first few days here... it had really gotten into me. what i did was told the user that i find her response rude, and explained my side. well i did got a reply to that and the user apologized saying that response was not meant to be rude. at least that was made clear on both sides. sometimes because we are of different nationalities here, our responses sometimes are misunderstood on the other side. the best thing to do is to clear things up right away, if you are offended, let yourself cool down a bit before responding back so as not to say something that you will regret later on, say something about how rude the response is to you, and then wait and see what the user will say. because sometimes they did not mean it and it is misunderstood only.

This is the third discussion board I've seen that concerns of the other members' rudeness. I hope this doesn't go on.

well there are few here who are really rude.......but cant really help it, whenever there is goodness there is wickedness.......so just leave them alone......i don't bother answering them sometimes as they will get back with another rude response and the chain follows.......i come to mylot to relax and have fun........if i keep responding to such baseless people i guess my entire point of coming to mylot is defeated......so chill and have fun......and leave the rotten apples aside.....

Well, rude in what sense? Just check the following: http://www.mylot.com/o/guidelines.aspx If it violates something in here, just go ahead and report it. Mylot is very strict about the integrity and doesn't want any trolls around here. Mylot says: Anything derogatory that is directed at a myLot user is strictly prohibited. Just be nice and have fun! And yes, even I have received some sarcastic comments. But I simply ignored them. Some people doesn't know how to behave and others think that thhey are the king of the world- just ignore them- a bit of sarcasm is not against the mylot rules. But if it gets around you like a nuisance, better tick him out! Regards, Ajith.

I don't think I've ever gotten a rude response...I've gotten some people who disagreed with me about something, but not in a rude way. I won't be rude here, and if I am PLEASE TELL ME!!!!!! I never would mean to come on strong. I think MyLot is friendly, but when I read some of the comments, I do pick up on some rudeness. Take Care!!!!

Just ignore the rude response and discuss with sensible people.However, I can accept someone who disagrees with me, which I think his/her behavior is not being rude and on the contray I can learn something from it as long as his/her opinions can make logic sense.

I actually got told several months ago that I'm a hateful person and I'm going to hell because I choose not to celebrate Christmas. I thought it was pretty rude. Most of the time I try to ignore rude comments, but when people are particularly rude or ignorant, I will explain to them just exactly why their response is idiotic. I also don't tend to put up with rude comments about people's race, religion, gender, etc. without giving some kind of reply.

seems you get this in all groups/societies. theres always someone like that. theres like thousands of discussions here they can comment on and yet they will choose to ruin one persons for no other reason than to be mean. i had that once on my discussion and i tried nicely to tell them to just leave it go and i would. but they continued in almost everyones comments. i finally just quit responding and moved on. i also took them off my friends list

I don't think Iv'e ever gotten a rude response. That actually surprises me a lot. I have been a prt of a lot of forums and online discussion sites and have never recieved such freindliness and helpfulness as I have on mylot. It is a big shock. I am sorry you have not experienced that from mylot. Maybe it will get better for you.

I havent experienced that but I have read comments from a guy which totally made me angry. When I questioned him on his opinions, he could not give a valid reason as to why he said what he did. I found him really rude and offensive and I made sure that he knew what I thought about him!! This site to me is just for chatting and helping people out by giving them sensible suggestions, not being rude and offensive.

I'm sorry that you have dealt with this. Unfortunately it happens everywhere... people use the computer screen to fight. It's cowardly really, but there is not much you can do. I report people like this and block communication if possible. Other than that their is not too much you can do. I wish you luck and I hope that some of this clears up for you!

I never had one.But i think you should not fight with them and just let them.It will be end if nobody serve them.The rude mylotter will like if you serve them bad back and fight with them.It just waste your time.

Im sorry but I do have to say that you ask for it. When you post something, it is ovbiously something that you want to hear the honest truth about, and sometimes the honest truth hurts. That is what this type of site is for. People can be completely blunt and honest and really it doesn't matter to them because they are saying how they truly feel, and it doesn't hurt them at all. People can be rude, but you just have to deal with people. That is the way that society is. There are many different types of people out there and you just take the bad ones with a grane of salt. Im sorry that someone has been rude to you, but most of the time it is just better to not repsond at all and just let it go.

Just be patient and brush it off - 80% of communication is non-verbal. Now imagine the internet and web discussions like these? Where does the non-verbal communication come from? NOWHERE. My point is that there are a lot of avenues for misrepresentation. If it really irked you, maybe you should tell that person/ask what they mean and maybe explain why you find the statement rude. cheers.

I think the vast majority of people on here are friendly and welcoming. It is inevitable that there will be some bad elements posting too. The best thing you can do is ignore them, do not reply or even acknowledge them. They will soon disappear and try and find somebody else to provoke. I have personally never noticed anybody being rude to me, I would most likely just laugh if off if they did. It is just like in real life, you don't stay around rude people as they are not good for your morale.

haha ..i had.. just try to be calm and cool.. waste no time with them if you think their comments do not help..

Of course I had. I had one discussion about how rude people are at work or something like that... then this lady had comment on my discussion. she was mention that customers always right, and she is right customers is always right but NOT ALWAYS... She also said she fought with manager of McDonald over chicken nugget that she took home without a sauce, and she threw a bag right at the manager's face. And then she said as I am servicing customers then I have to do what they said and understand what they had been all day... well, I understand that she has so much stress on mind but I dont think it is right to throw everything at someone else that he/she didn't even know you. Sometimes, I just want to throw word right at her but I just ignore cuz she doesn't even know me well and I dont either. So I dont think fighting with other by typing is not a nice way to do so and it is not fast enough either... just forget about it and move on. If I could avoid then I just avoid and If I really can't then I will think about what I should do next.

I've gotten one rude response that I could consider rude. I may have gotten more but if I did I didn't worry about it. This one response was of someone assuming something about me, I stood up for myself as well as another member commenting to back me up. I think the person had been banned possibly because I haven't seen them since. Don't worry about things like this, sometimes it's just a person having a bad day, sometimes it's a misinterpretation on both parts, and then sometimes It's mylotters protecting the rules, we're all kind of like that.

My Lot folks are people. You know that out side the online world there are good people, rude people, people you make friends, people you just know, all kinds of people. The only thing you know for sure that you have in common with the other mylotter is the fact that you are here. Try to just let those rude folks go about their business. If you try to state your side it usually make it worse.

Flaring up over a stupid post is a waste of your time. I'm rather new here, I haven't seen any rude posts yet, but it obviously doesn't faze such rude people that posting rude comments get them rated down. But then again, they probably put money ahead of community. I usually review forums before signing up, and I'm glad I do this. Once I came across a community full of kids just bashing each other for no reason. They were full of trolls and it was unpleasant because the mods did nothing. I was a moderator on a big clan site for a game, and these replies are an everyday event. Usually I'll reply to such rude comments in such a way that they'll either apologize, shut up, or leave whenever I get on. It's almost comical. Once a 15 year-old kid picked a fight with me over calling him 'mate'. He insisted that he wasn't my 'mate' but he was only my 'friend'. Go figure, innit? So mate, find humour in such tiny issues and your day will be happier and stress-free.