When do you think is the best time to tell your kid he/she is adopted?

If I had a adopted child I personally wouldn't tell them, because most of the time they want to find their real parents and when they find them they get disappointed and also they wouldn't be the same.

I think a child should grow up knowing they are adopted. I think they should be told so early in life that they won't remember being told, it should just be a fact of life that it seems they've always known. Adopted children sometimes become very resentful toward their biological parents for giving them up if they're told after they're old enough to "understand". If they grow up knowing they're adopted, the adoptive parents probably have already instilled the thought that their biological parents loved them very much but weren't able to give them a good life, so the child has a "knowing" or a "feeling" that they have two sets of parents, both who love them very much. Trying to hide the adoption can lead to all kinds of problems. If they have a medical crisis and need a blood or organ donor, or if they have medical problems it's helpful to know the biological parents medical history. A crisis is a very bad time to have to tell a child about the adoption, so do it early, get it over with, and avoid potential problems.

Hi, Laydee! I think my cousin got the information in the very best way. From the moment she was adopted, her parents made it clear that they got her because they chose her when someone else was unable to raise a child. If she wanted help to locate her birth mother, they would help. She always loved that they wanted her that much, and she never wanted to find her birth mother. At least she knew the option was open to her. She later had a son "naturally, and adopted a daughter who was also told from the start that she was chosen and valued.

i would think when they are in thier teen, too me adoted child are specail. but it depend how you think they will handle it. and be honest about thier reall parents. if they want to look for them, i would let them decide too or not.

Wow. Good question. I'd love to offer an opinion and believe that I was right, but I really don't know. I wasn't adopted and have no clue how I would react if I found out from my parents, by myself, maybe through a freak accident where I needed blood, etc. I want to lean toward saying maybe they shouldn't be told at all. But I believe this would be more about the parent's fears that the child wouldn't love them anymore more so than it would be about the actual child's possible problems with it. I have to agree with what I read up top and tell them early on in their life; although, old enough to where they could understand what everything meant. It would be an uncomfortable situation for all parties involved, but families should be about honesty, even if brutal, and a secret like that kept forever could really harm relations if it slipped out once that child became an adult. Yeah, it would definitely have to be for the child's benefit, and as such, it would have to be a time in his or her life where it's understood that adoption doesn't mean they're loved any less, doesn't mean no one wanted them, and doesn't mean that the family they think is their family isn't their family. And do it over ice cream ;) I'd want the kid all sugared up before I dropped that bombshell lol

earlier the better, tell them the truth may be when they just started to understand about life or their own responsibility.

If I had an adopted child I would tell him or her that he or she was adopted when the question of family is discussed. It might be when the child is five years old if he or she is mature enough to understand. A great way to mention that I adopted him or her would be using a picture book and then having a discussion afterwards. I would tell the child that I wanted them but their birth mother was unable to keep them. Therefore I took them and am very glad that I I did. If the child came from overseas I would tell him or her that is why I have given them such a great knowledge of that country. I would tell him or her if she or she was about seven or eight years old about children that I have taught that were adopted.

I would explain them very soon because if they have known about it since being little, they won't get that mad at you. If you have adopted a child and keep the adoption secret 'til they are teenagers, they ain't gonna be too happy when you tell them about it. It's also a lot easier for the child if s/he has known about the adoption all the time because they most probably won't think it's such a bad thing then.

I think we should tell that fact as soon as the child can understand. The the sooner the better, because adjusting will take time. So by telling him/her as soon as possible, it will help the youngster to accept the veracity very fast. And she will live a normal life - no lies haunting him/her. Happy MyLotting!

If no necessary, I shall not tell the truth that he/she is adopted forever. You know, for me, if he/she know the truth, he/she will be depression or want to find his/her real parent,which aslo make me so despondence and affliction. Maybe, he/she will not tream me as familiarity one,stand off me intentionally. what I can do when faced to the status ? So telling the truth is not good not only for he/her but also for me. Why not keep the secret untill my leaving the world ?

the most important is to be kind as good as possible to him/her and when they are adult,you can tell them the truth. at that time they will accept you ,because you are very kind to him/her