what for you is a perfect marriage?

Each person must give 100% and only take 20% from a marriage. That way there is a pad with which to deal with the rest of life.

a perfect marriage is too good to be true. and i don't know if it exists. but i believe some couples have achieved certain levels of good to great marriages in their lifetime, otherwise everyone who ever got married would claim misery and discourage everyone who are planning to get married. hehe here goes my imagination... close to being perfect or a happy marriage is having a good foundation: love, trust and respect. over time, a good relationship in the marriage is nurtured by good communication, understancding and being open. marriage is also a partnership. it would be ideal to be friends, lovers and business partners. it would be nice to have a supportive and helpful spouse whether in domestic activities or in business or work. to complement each other is to give each other strength when one needs it, in times of stress, depression or any problems. sharing is important, not only of the joys but also of responsibilities in child rearing and home making. it would be nice to be two individuals with separate identity, but live together as a couple with the same goals in life and in tune with almost everything. you can't take away the disagreements, but it should never be more than they are, a disagreement. at the end of the day, all issues should be resolved. no day would be complete without an endearing smile, a warm hug, a sensual kiss and all the little things you can do to express the love you have for each other. it would be ideal if one and the other completes each other. the wife is the husband's bestfriend, confidante, lover, playmate... and vice versa. they should be in tune emotionally, spiritually, intellectually, and financially. having kids should be a decision of both, and a welcome addition to the marriage life of the couple. i wanted to add some more but my imagination is running out on me and somehow writing this post is making me miss something i have missed before... hehe

No marriage can ever be perfect but it can be happy. The secret to a happy marriage lies in the couple. There should be sincere love, respect, trust, understanding, care, concern and support. There should also be forgiveness and no one should remember wrongs. Each one should look after each others' needs. The wife and the husband should serve each other and not dominate over the other. They should always remember to consult the other before coming up to a decision so the other one won't feel left behind. Couples should always keep open communication. These are but just some guidelines to a happy marriage.

Well first off I've been married/divorced 3 times, sooo hopefully I have learned something, as I am giving it one last try come September. However, this time around I really feel that I have met my match, soulmate, partner for life. And he feels the same way. One of the main things is that we can talk about anything without being judgemental, we compromise, we take care of each other. And mostly we understand that the other has a job that is dangerous at times, so we enjoy the simple things in life and we don't sweat the small stuff. We are both firefighters, just in different capacities, he fights structure fires, I take on wildland fires. So we understand the importance of living each day to the fullest and appreciating the other.

I AM FAR FROM BEING AN EXPERT ON MARRIAGE since i have been divorced for over 30 years. .i think the perfevt marriage would be to never grow tired of being together, keep the same interests & doing everything together. sounds like a FAIRY TALR, HUH?

A perfect marriage is simply being able to live with your spouse's deficiencies, however glaring they may be. If you're able to say that your husband is a lazy slob, but you can think of living with no other man, then for all intents and purposes that may just be the perfect marriage for you.

Everything is perfect, it can be perfectly imperfect! - Seriously, my idea of a good marriage is a marriage in which there is absolute truth and trust from both partners. - Derek

Hi Helscream, I agree that we aren't going to find perfection in marriage but some last a long time so there has to be a secret somewhere. One of my sisters passed away two years ago, she and her husband had been married for over 67 years and were one of the happiest couples I've ever known. We would visit them every few weeks and it seemed they were always happy as long as they were together. I think the answer might be in appreciating the little things in life. Sometimes we have the habit of only seeing the faults in our partner and ignoring all the good points, when we should be doing just the opposite. A good marriage to me is accepting each other just as we are and learning to laugh at the little things. Blessings.

I know everybody always says "communication is the key" but that is the honest truth. Without it you may as well through away the baby with the bath water. You have NOTHING!!

Hey, Well I actually think that a perfect marriage for me would have to include perfect honesty and trust. We should also be able to communicate with each other and not argue with each other at all. That would be really sweet! Make sure you have a good day, God bless and Happy Lotting!!

A perfect marriage is when two different people comes together to explore the difference of each other with maturity, understanding, love, caring, comprehension, honesty and intergrity.

A happy marriage is one that you can sit down and have an honest conversation with your spouse and know that he or she will sit and listen to what you have to say and not judge you, they will hear you out and value your opinion, thoughts and ideas. He will give you a chance to be yourself. Marriage is about communication, about believing in each other and about compromise.

The perfect marriage to me would consist of two people who are willing to accept the things that they can not change and the carriege to change the things that they can. Marriage is hard work. You have to really work at it. The harder you work at it the better it will be.