My privacy has just been invaded......

Iwouldn't be too happy w/whoever did it & it seems to me it's pretty obvious who did do it. u must have had something on their that made her jealous. I think this should tell u alot about her.I would have to confront her for all the good it will do. damage is done but think about what she might do next if she stooped this low this time. good luck!

Hi HelScream. Just make sure it was your girlfriend who did do this before accusing. Maybe some kind of virus, someone hacked into your computer, or somehow your system glitched. I've had things disappear on my computer, like pictures and urls, and files, and I had no idea why. Nobody was around to even contemplate about. I just logged on one day, and stuff was gone. Then not too long after that, I could'nt even log onto my computer at all. I brought it to the shop and it was totally fried and all from some darn back door virus. That really ticked me off! I never did get any of it back. Bummer. Anyway, the reason why I said to make sure before accusing, because I've already been in that situation. A guy I was dating for quite a few years, one day just accused me of deleting his passwords, sites, emails, etc., I told him it wasn't me and the kicker of it was I wasn't even at his place for over a week. I didn't have or know any of his passwords for anything nor did I want to. It ended up in a big huge argument and I finally said see ya and hung up. All that could go through my head was he didn't believe me, just accused not ask, and from his own mouth, the trust was slighted. That kept me from calling, writting, or talking to him for over a week. Then one day, he calls me to apologize. Turned out it was one of his ex's that did it. I didn't get into the specifics for I was still mad about it. The fact that he didn't take my word from the get go, for I had no reason to lie and have never lied to him, was enough to finally just end the relationship. Good Luck, and I sure do hope you get to the bottom of it. Shed some light for you, and I hope you are able to recover what's important, but I would'nt get your hopes up about it. Less disappointment that way.

as i said in your other discussion... i just woke up this morning, after a tiring weekend and 14 hours of sleep, to find all my files in my computer... completely wiped out. 6 weeks worth of work with no back-up since my last back-up was done on april 15th. i was really close to tears for the better part of one hour while i try to troubleshoot. i wanted to get mad with somebody, i really wanted to but i knew the only people who used the computer last night were my nephews and nieces, all aged 4-12 years old. and i know, whatever they did, it was not their intention to damage my files. i was troubleshooting for several hours, calling some people who can help me out, chatting with a friend to keep me sane, and i still have some work to do on top of everything else. i managed to keep my anger at bay, coz crying and being angry won't solve anything anyway. i was able able to recover most of my files except for the scanned documents that took me two whole days to finish. i know the shock you must have felt, because i was in shock myself and really teary eyed. and i also know how mad you feel right now. invasion of privacy is really something to be riled about. if you are bugged by the idea that the only people who know your password may have been at fault, then just ask them straight. just like you did with your sister. otherwise, you'll just continue to feel bothered about it. then immediately... change your password. and keep it to yourself. i know the passwords of all my sisters' and brothers' email accounts and even the pins for their atm cards. just knowing is a big responsibility already. they know that i wouldn't do anything untoward and they trust me explicitly. if you think your privacy was invaded, then just keep your passwords really very private.

As long as I believe, the archives are stored in your pc and if I have an access of your pc, I can delete it without knowing your ym password and even if I know your password, I can't delete it from another computer. So.... If you want to ask, her then you can directly ask but she will not accept it at first, you have to dig deep to know something about it!

Do you have conversation from the past which you think would make you girlfriend mad? If yes, then i guess by impulse she did erase them all so you won't have access to it anymore. If it contains conversations with your former girlfriends or any flirtatious conversation with anyone, i sure think she'd still get jealous. If you're positive that it's your girlfriend who erased everything, then i guess you have the right to asked her about it.

Be calm!Is it really done by your GF?Maybe it's because of computer virus. But if it's true,you should be straightforward.I hate those who invade others' privacy.

it is weird... i just reply to a similar post like this and the content is really very similar... it is also about a ym thing where the archive had been erased and he also suspects the gf doing it to him... i just reply to it about 30 mins ago... well, i try to find out again about the user and hopefully i can find it again from my activities so that i can compare it... anyway, i am sorry about what is happening between you and gf and hopefully things will get sorted out soon... good luck... take care and have a nice day...

If she is your steady gf and you have know her for long, you should first of all have faith in her. Secondly, you should know her emotions too...i.e. you should be able to read her eyes. So what you can do is just bring up this topic with her without accusing her...you can tell her how surprised and angry you are and you just dont know who did it...keep looking at her all the while and see if her expression changes. You will be able to have an idea from this if she's done it. But I dont think she did it...she had the access to your mails, so you had nothng to hide from her...why would she want to destroy the trust?

Its happened to me too. Someone is opening my ym but I know its not my girlfriend coz she doesnt have time to go online. Im not sure if its her friend or who. Some said maybe my ym was hacked. I just change my ym and not use the old one.

I think you should calm down and ask your girl about this. Don't do it in an accusing way...just ask her. In the future, you should never give out your PW to anyone. we all need our privacy.

First thing. before you get to fired up at her, you better make sure she is the only one who could have done it. Maybe she left your password some where that someone else might have found. I would be very careful about asking her, remember that you catch more flys with honey then you do with vinegar. If she did it she must have had a reason.

i don' think i would still ask my gf, if i were in your position, about this. asking is done when you don't know something. if there are only two people who know your password and one of them denied erasing the contents of your archive then only one person is left. dont't be scared she'll leave you. if you're mad she better see as early as now in your relationship how you are when you're mad than find out later and realize she can't handle it and just leave. a smart girl who loves you wouldn't be intimidated by an angry bf unless she did the erasing out of spite for something you had done. good luck .

Being invaded in terms of privacy is very unrespectful. You have the right to feel unpleasant if that is really what happened. But before judging someone if they have done it to you, you should get their side first and be sure to check every possible things that maybe could have caused what happened. Don't accuse anybody if you are not sure what really happened and if you have not yet heard their side. There are chances that other things might have caused your problem. But if what really happened is invation of privacy, then you really have the right to get angry. But everything can be settled in a good way like having conversation with those people concerned and let them understand what is wrong with what they have done and hopefully never again will happen.

She really didn't invade your privacy because you gave her your password. The only wrong thing she did is she rummaged through what is yours and did some things that stimulated your angry nerve. That's a normal reaction. If it was my long kept and important documents that were deleted, I would go crazy and mad.:K

I would be mad as well if my privacy was invaded. As for your gf...just try to calm down first before you talk to her about it.

well what you should do is dont ask her out right, just ask has she been on that site recently see what she says. SHe might admit it, if i were you i would ask her if she had been on there,if she said no then i would believe her as your meant to love her if she admits it then stay calm and ask why she did it. You need to rememeber that they are just words on a screen and dont do anythin you will regret maybe you gf read them and got jealous!!!