How Can One Take Legal Action Against A Stalker?
By pyewacket
@pyewacket (43903)
United States
June 1, 2009 4:51am CST
I'm quite serious here.
I apparently have my own stalker and have for years while being active here at MyLot. At first the person was seemingly friendly with me, and would make decent replies to various discussions I had made. Then the person turned against me when he found I had a disability and was receiving benefits and started making caustic, flaming, sarcastic remarks...he was reported..banned. But then he resurfaced three more times, each time a different identity and different user name but definitely the same person and each time would come to my discussions with more caustic remarks that had nothing to do with the topic discussion I initiated but just to make trouble and each time banned.
Now he's back..again...he claims he has no idea who I'm talking about when I mentioned his former names..I called him out, yet he hasn't denied his former names either. I recognized his MO...his way of writing and his "tone" his "voice"--it's him again and while he's been here a month he only has a few points as the ONLY discussions he's responded to are my recent ones--he's back, my stalker. Thankfully he's another distance away, but I remember him stating in one of his replies to me in a discussion that he wished he had known me in 1996 as he was visiting his sister in MY AREA and would have loved to visit me.
Folks this is getting creepy with me. How can one track down a stalker who is miles away, but who is obviously has some kind of sick obsession with me and won't leave me alone? How can I take legal action? I don't have money to pursue any kind of legal action but there must be some way to stop this sicko from bothering me. He even had the balls to ask me as a friend. I won't be surprised if he surfaces on this discussion. But I really do need serious input here. Help!
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42 responses
@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
1 Jun 09
I doubt very much that there is any type of legal action you can take on an open forum where no actual damages have been done to you. However I had a look at this person you are referring to and I honestly think they have a mental problem. How they got fixated on you beats me. My advice is to absolutely and completed ignore them. Every comment you make to his/her responses only fuels their crazy vendetta against you. I think that ignoring him/her would be the best way of dealing with the problem. People like that crave attention and you will drive them crazy if they get no reaction from you.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
2 Jun 09
Yes the person is "mental"---LOL When he and I were first "friends: he was actually very civil and nice to me but when he found out I had a disability and receiving benefits that's when his tune changed and the taunting began in his replies to my discussions
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@chillpill90 (1936)
•
1 Jun 09
well first off you need to make mylot aware of it, you need to make them aware that this guy is harrassing you. There is a way in which you can get him trackd by the police, i know if you were from the uk you can get free legal aid. I know that if you go to the police and say he is stalking or harassing you on the net they should ask you on what site and his username. Then when he signs onto my lot they can give the police his IP address they can then trace it to his location or house and arrest him for stalking they can also find out his name. If i were you i would see if it is possible to do that and also get a restraining order. Hope this helps.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
1 Jun 09
I've made mylot aware of how this person is harassing me which was why he was banned so many times but he keeps resurfacing. You have given me an idea---I might actually consider contacting my country's FBI about this on their website--there must be some way to track the person..
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
1 Jun 09
Also here in Italy there is a special branch of the police that has been created for this now too. Online stalking is becoming a major crime here.
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@chillpill90 (1936)
•
1 Jun 09
yea people think that just because its through the net they cant be traced but they can.
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@moondancer (7431)
• United States
1 Jun 09
Pye, I watch the judge shows just about everyday. I have seen where a person has taken someone else to court for harrasment, defamation of character, slander, and anything else that could be added from the abuse suffered online in web sites.
I would suggest that you print out everything that the other person has said that was bad to you. Start with the first of it and go through until you are done and have it all.
You may even be able to prove stress from it all and get money from that, just show any doctor bills that started after the posts from this person. Dr. bills and bills for medication like nerve pills or the like.
If you have the name of the person and can find them to have them served for court then you have a shot at suing them.
They will have to stop all activity concerning you or your posts. You need to do some research to know just exactly what to sue for. Wording is very important. You can not win if you do not sue for the right things.
I wish you lots of luck...oh and witnesses or signed notorized letters from others that know will help.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
2 Jun 09
Unfortunately this is an "international" thing---it's not like the person is here in the USA but a completely different continent all together--so a bit tricker--since he was banned under his other names there is no "evidence" of his former comments though I did copy/paste a few and have them in storage in my emails
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@moondancer (7431)
• United States
2 Jun 09
In that case, then you can copy everything and get in touch with the police here and where the other person is and get it all stopped by using them. The police do not take kindly to people misusing the internet. This person depending on far out his reach goes and what all has been done, will most likely go to jail and may even be banned from ever using a computer again.
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@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
1 Jun 09
Hard copy everything on the stalker. Document everything. Dates, times, usernames, profiles, and get more ink and paper for the printer. Then check other sites and document any info you find there on the stalker, like location, age, gender, marital status, etc. Gather as much information as you can.
Once you know where the stalker is stalking from, contact the police in his/her home town by phone or email. Mail copies of your hard copies to the police in that town. If possible, email copies also. Keep an original set of the information for your files.
Request that this person be investigated and charged with illegal or unlawful use of a computer. Request that they be prosecuted to the full extent of the law.
This person can be found and tracked by many methods. Some of the those methods are only available to the police and FBI. They will find out if this person is doing the same thing to other people. You may not be the only person being stalked.
So report this stalker to all authorities like admin, police, FBI, Homeland Security, etc.
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@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
1 Jun 09
as far as i know you have to contact either a local detective or FBI
and they'll have to contact mylot asking for records on who's using that username.
there's ways he can get around being directly pegged,even if mylot bans by IP.
i'd take screenshots of what is posted though in case it gets removed.
@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
2 Jun 09
urgh that sucks.
i would guess FBI be the best bet then.they might be able to say what to do on that.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
2 Jun 09
I've been reading up about cyberstalking in general and I see nothing about international issues since I'm here and my stalker is in another continent
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
1 Jun 09
My goodness Pye I didn’t know this was still going on! I did come across an imposter of yours a while back but I believe he has been banned; so it looks as tough he has resurfaced! I am not sure what the correct way to handle this is but if it were me I would contact your local police department and inform them; hopefully they will deal with it or refer you to the relevant department. Gee I hope you sort something out; I feel bad for you, how creepy!
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
2 Jun 09
No this has nothing to do really with an impostor of mine and the person isn't even in this country but uh, in your country
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@polachicago (18716)
• United States
1 Jun 09
I assume that he is using the same IP address for his reincarnations and Mylot can traced and block his IP.
Mylot is also obligated to deliver all possible information if ask by legal institution. They may not want to give you all information, unless they have more evidence. Make sure to print everything. Make copies and send one set to Mylot admin...
Also start checking all of his responds and copy mean responds to others...
I wouldn't be surprised to learn about his age....(maybe 16?)....
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
2 Jun 09
Since all his former identities were banned that means any "evidence" of what he formerly said are gone as far as I know though I might have some copy/pastes of SOME of his comments stored in my emails...nope he isn't 16 years old but in my age bracket
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
2 Jun 09
I have reported him to MyLot--as far as IP address--he could be using different computers each time
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
8 Jun 09
No thank goodness--but one never knows what kind of sick twisted person he may actually be
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@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
14 Jun 09
Good Grief Pye!
I haven't been here in how many months and when I left you were fighting off this idiot, and now I come back and you're still fighting him off.
What a jerk he is! and Creepy!
You really need to ignore him, as much as I know how you feel and would be willing to squash him like a bug too, but he must love the attention and how upset you get. That's exactly what he's after. And look at all the attention just here? He loves it and I don't believe he's scared in the least. Even with getting all the FBI, Cyber people, Police, etc..it doesn't matter to him, I'm telling you he couldn't care less. Ignore him and tell everyone else to just completely ignore him. Totally.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
14 Jun 09
Yes seems the same old thing huh even with you being away for a long time. He doesn't scare me or upset me...I do get mad though and would love to kick his...uh...well you know. I did contact a cyberstalking site and they gave me advice--I'm collecting evidence and do plan to report it to the FBI--for all I know he could be doing the same crap and stalking other women--Yes he does seem to thrive on attention though
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
2 Jun 09
Uh huh--AGAIN--hey maybe I have a boyfriend...LOL
(Pyewacket excuses herself while she goes and pukes)
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@AnnieOakley1 (5596)
• Canada
1 Jun 09
There, reported all of his nasty responses to you.
He should be off to banned camp AGAIN, soon, and he knows it. Just more proof that he is a reincarnation of a previously banned user.
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@jdyrj777 (6528)
• United States
4 Jun 09
Im feeling ya. I had one too. Simply because i refuse to believe that being guy is ok with God. Lol!!!
I reported mine too. I encountered her twice here. The last time i reported her. She left awhile and hasnt bothered me again. She also followed me into another discussion about something else with the gay topic. It certianly felt like an assult to me. She has not changed her name but at least she hasnt bothered me again. I almost expect her to assult me after i have responded to this topic.
@celticeagle (168306)
• Boise, Idaho
3 Jun 09
I would call your local bar association and ask them for their pro bono places in close proximity to where you are. Tell them your situation and see what they suggest. I would not communicate with him in any way any longer. I would try to remember all dates and occurences when he was the least bit abusive or off color with you and keep a log. Times and dates and all you can remember. And write out all names he has used and locations, any information on him that you have. There are lawyers in most areas that will talk to you free for the first 30 minutes or so and some that like to run on about the laws too. You may have to do some calling around to find someone or even several to get some information that will be valuable. I wish you luck. I would be curious as to what the legal aspects are. Becareful. Take care and be swift about getting some legal aid. If you have a Legal Aid in your community you might call them as well.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
13 Jun 09
I've been spending quite a bit of time collecting "evidence" about this person and contacted a cyberstalking site that gave me further advice...I don't know if legal help would solve the problem per se...I was advised more to next contact the FBI...this can be considered an international event since the person is in an entirely different country--but the FBI can get in contact with authorities in his country
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@celticeagle (168306)
• Boise, Idaho
14 Jun 09
I would definitely check it out. Be sure to have all your ducks in row and tell them your concern and how long this has been going on. Couldn't hurt.
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@PrarieStyle (2486)
• United States
1 Jun 09
I don't know if you can take legal action or not, but if myLot would upgrade and put a simple "block user" function on the site, like almost all other social networking sites have, it might help solve the problem.
I know other users here also have annoying stalkers they/we would love to be able to block.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
2 Jun 09
I know--I wish there was a block feature here as well
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
3 Jun 09
I did not realize you were having problems like this. I am not sure what you can do, but I sure would be keeping a log of things that are happening. At least if you find someone that could help, it would give them a place to start. I would at least make a report with the police.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
13 Jun 09
I've been collecting "evidence" like crazy and did contact a cyberstalking site for advice and plan to follow through with what they told me to do
@irishmist (3814)
• United States
4 Jun 09
That really sucks. I wish I could help, but I don't know what to suggest. I feel really bad that you have to go through something like this. I hope you can find a way to get him off your back. I have to wonder why somebody would do something like this. Don't they have a real life outside of mylot, and I have to wonder if perhaps he is doing it to others on mylot as well.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
4 Jun 09
No--he probably doesn't have a life and has a sick fixation on me--it doesn't scare me...but would like to squash him like a bug! LOL
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@gudboygudboy19 (5)
• India
4 Jun 09
dear Pye,
u dnt have to worry abt in which country he lives/ his changing IP's . u just complaint to ur local police/ to the cyber crime department of the police. they might have caught trickier international stalkers.they will contact the police of the stalker's nation and will punish him.u just dnt worry abt the technical things.since u r the victim , u must complaint, not in forums like this but to the police.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
5 Jun 09
Well I do plan to contact one of the cyberstalking sites and perhaps they can give me advice how to go about this
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
14 Jun 09
I'm not nervous or scared by it...more pissed off and want to kick his butt....LOL
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@nick61295 (18)
• United States
3 Jun 09
tell the police, call your local police station and tell them that you are virtually getting stalked. Tell the police officer the complete story and they will come to your house. If he leaves a comment anywhere on the web and you know its him, you should call the police emidiatly and tell them where you found it. If they can track him through his IP address then he will be put into court and charged for stalking.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
6 Jun 09
I contacted a cyberstalking website for advice and see what they have to say about it and what actions to take
@Brice0102 (14)
• United States
5 Jun 09
If he is calling you names, then just ignore it. If you don't answer him, then he will think that you're just away from you're computer & stop. But if he's threatening you to "come to you're house" or anything, that's where the police can come in.
If he ever says that he's coming to you're house, save the messages, call the police, and show them that. They could easily track down his adress & "Take him Out" =)
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
6 Jun 09
All I know is, is that if he does "reincarnate" as another user I do plan to ignore him--he seems to thrive on any attention
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