Confusing Boyfriend??

Should you break up with your loved one but don't want to lose him or her then have a reconciliation but if you just want to be civil with each other, I think it's also alright to be friends but of course with much limitations this time.

this boyfriend of yours seems like a slimy guy, so break up with him fast, a clear break with no hanky panky . He seems to want to break up with you and still use you to satisfy himself, if that is what benefits means. If he broke up with you and does not want you to see anyone else, this is the dog in the manger attitude. Kick him out of your life before its too late. Be firm if need be and go out and enjoy yourself with other friends. You need to get a hold on your life soon.

yes that happend to me i was so made he was the one that broke if off and then he tryed to acted like we were still going out we got in this big o fight i was so mad i just chage my number i was so tired of him calling me i hope that got his attion.

I think that a lot of men want that sort of relationship. They probably just want to be out of the 'relationship' so that they have no obligations to anyone else, don't want to be nagged anymore etc etc, therefore they break up with someone but they still want all the good stuff. Personally I would tell him to get lost.

I think it is not good having that kind of situation. you are not anymore in a relationship with each other and then he still control your movements? better off from that person, he will just give you problem, why not look for someone who can give you happiness and freedom? Don't be a prisoner of your own self. It's your choice to know anybody else.

Sounds like that person wants what they want but don't want you to have the same freedom. I think I would tell this person that if there is a break up then that is what it is a break up. No benefits. We can still be friends but if they are going to see someone else then you too will see others too. I would say other wise hit the road and don't look back. You have feelings too and need the love that comes with a relationship. Sounds to me like this person don't respect you.

I think that you should end the relationship completely. It's very dysfunctional. It is extremely selfish and controlling for someone to ask you to put your life on hold for them. This person is using you. They don't want a relationship with you but yet they want keep all the benefits. Apparently this person is only concerned with the physical pleasures you can offer and cares nothing about your personal qualities. The reason they don't want you to see anyone else is because they are afraid of losing the control they have over you. If you were to start a relationship with someone new, maybe someone better, you would probably stop your interaction with your ex. Of course this person wouldn't want you to see someone else! In my opinion, a person who wants you to be "friends with benefits" or wants you to stop seeing other people when you aren't even in a relationship probably doesn't care for you at all. They are not considering your feelings at all and are only concerned with their own satisfaction. They are basically asking you to sacrifice your chance at happiness with someone else. You would almost be comparable to a slave to some extent. If someone tried to persuade me to be in a relationship like this, I would tell them to go to hell...but that's just me.

Thats messed up lol, I never had this happen.. If my BF broke up with me and then said this ithink i would laugh in his face " LOL!" just like that, ask if he was sick in the head maybe, and say byee Lol... Anyways, you shouldnt go along with it, he is using you as some kind of doormat or go to person when he is bored tell him to die slow, and try dont talk to him anymore imo... and for him not wanting you to see other people .. question him, why would he not want you to see other people, you guys are not dating.. tell him you just dont understand :) toodaloo

That's a very unhealthy situation! Basically, if a guy is saying he wants to break up and be friends with benefits, it means this:- He doesn't want to put the work in on our relationship anymore - But he still wants to "get some" whenever he feels like it - He wants the freedom to be with other girls And if he says he doesn't want me to see anyone else? Possessive jerk! Time to cut off all contact. Delete his number from my phone, or if I see a call or text from him, do NOT respond, no matter what. Women shouldn't allow someone to treat us that way - we deserve better than that.