How to maintain long-term friendship?
By zhdy89
@zhdy89 (301)
China
June 2, 2009 8:17am CST
Have a good friend,and contact again I felt she being cold.I miss the close friendship very much over the past,why the friendship no longer exists?She said call me back soon,but I was waiting for her long time,she did not make it.
5 responses
@unicorn4154 (153)
• Malaysia
3 Jun 09
its really simple to make..first you must have TRUST. that the most importnt thing you must do.
@samirkavade (407)
• India
3 Jun 09
Trust is not the only matter or sole agenda or issue of this discussion. Both freinds do trust each other but dont have time to spare and I think this is the prominent issue for this question..!
@samirkavade (407)
• India
3 Jun 09
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@samirkavade (407)
• India
2 Jun 09
It is not a matter of maintaining. It should be like happening and rocking and let it go like it goes. The moment you try to interfere in doing something new it gets spoilt..Right
@samirkavade (407)
• India
2 Jun 09
Dont feel that way. You know humans today consider themselves to be the most busiest species in the world but it is not so. Just imagine birds who build thier nests for months and then lay eggs and feed the kid by finding food with difficulty and then raising them and teahing life skills.
But keep in mind when you return smile you get smiles. So even if the other person hurts you and specially if he or she is your friend then still try o smile back and some day the person will understand your importance. According to me it is not good to blame other person about not being in contact. But we should look into ourselves and find that even we could have found that we could always make an initiative to contact, but it is like an ego factor where you think "Why should i call, she should call as she has left this place and left me..!!" And the result is both sides both friends think the same and they never get in touch..!So beware of such things and always be the first to take initiative to find your friend's contact and be in touch with them..!I hope i am not rude.Please i am sorry if i was in this reply..!
@zhdy89 (301)
• China
2 Jun 09
If I have a personal commitment to what I will do,even for my son,I agreed to what is not easily,if it agrees to do it.Of friends and family,I may give them too much,so they rarely take into account my feelings.I always try to forgive them,but the result is often the final is always hurt myself...
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
2 Jun 09
for me, in every relationship, communication is very much important. since you've been friends for so long, surely, u know each other so much and one thing that could really strengthen your relationship is through appreciation, know the things that would excite her so that both of you can have fun...
@zhdy89 (301)
• China
2 Jun 09
More than 20 years ago,she and I are best friends,now about eighteen years we have not seen now.Although the parents of two families from very close,but I even if back my parents home for two months,I did not see her.I am very concerned about the friendship with her,for so many years,it is difficult to feel any news of her.I met her mother several times,and she told me she knew me home.
@leiann_561 (332)
• Philippines
2 Jun 09
For me, always make the first move to communicate with your friend. Because there is nothing great than making a simple conversation with her even for a while. I think if you will have a bonding moment, you can rekindle the friendship that you both had
@zhdy89 (301)
• China
2 Jun 09
Her parents and my parents live in the same compound,every time i return to visit relatives in Xinjiang,where I would stay at least two months time.I know that her back her parents home every week,but I do not have to go back several times to see her.For more than a decade now has not seen it,I have not any words telling my feelings...
@sunag03 (40)
• China
3 Jun 09
Always call him and visit hime,care about his health,academic performances and work.In his birthday,send him some gifts,say "happy birthday".when he is ill,go to see him and say "you will be ok soon".
@samirkavade (407)
• India
5 Jun 09
May be she didnt have enough time to see or respond to your sms. Or may be she have some misunderstanding with you on some issue pending from ages. Let me tell you one things. Girls are really hard to predict. And sometimes they keep some hidden issue hidden for ages and burst out when you expect the least...!!
But always keep your cards closed and wait for the decesive moment..!Call her up and talk what is the matter? Does she not have time for her dear friend?? May be she could be in some trouble? Or some busy work or some employer chores to work out!
@samirkavade (407)
• India
3 Jun 09
Thats so sweet of you.Such simple things can win hearts of friends and they do remember us for these small deeds.So keep the good work going on.
