I just wanna SCREAM...
By byfaithonly
@byfaithonly (10698)
United States
June 2, 2009 8:36pm CST
Haven't been on myLot for several days - spent weekend busy setting up a new section of my web site as well as blog to go with it and posted several of my articles on gardening there...
That's not what I want to SCREAM about though. I've had 2 really really bad days at work (call center) and today it got so bad I almost blew up at one of the supervisors. Luckily they asked for volunteers to go home early - I couldn't afford to lose the hours but at least I'll still have a job tomorrow...
Tried 'chilling out' this evening and decided to check out a 'singles site' I joined a few years back... Well, now I just wanna SCREAM even more first message I get is from some sarcastic donkies behind that obviously has nothing in common with my views but just wanted to be a donkies behind... Reminds me of why I stopped visiting those places and prefer being 'alone'....
Ok, I vented, ranted, dumped and feel a little better now, thanks for lending me your eyes :)
Do you ever feel like just letting it all out and SCREAMING?
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21 responses
@ktosea (2026)
• China
3 Jun 09
ya...ha...that's normal,sometimes I also feel very upseting and frustrated,I couldn't even find out the reason,I also wanted to scream out,vented and make myself to feel ease.for your reference,I think you need sometime to have a good rest and try to chill yourself,think over the things which bothers you and move on.things will be good,alright?
Anyway,hope you have a nice day
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
3 Jun 09
Very good advice 'move on' I really need to find a new job but it's really hard to do there are no jobs in our town except this call center place which frustrates me even more. I am seriously looking though and thank you I hope you have a nice day also.
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
3 Jun 09
Well if I stopped by one of those single sites I too would want to scream!!!! I sometimes forward the hits I recieve to my best friend so she can have a good laugh....so I know what you mean. Yes....there are times when I just want to scream! Glad you had a chance to vent though! Hope you are feeling better now!
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
3 Jun 09
Yep am feeling better just in the fact that I'm laughing at myself for even posting this discussion. Singles sites are the pits don't know what possessed me to even login there :(
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@BarBaraPrz (47611)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
3 Jun 09
You were hoping someone would say something nice to you.
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
3 Jun 09
I definitely understand where you are coming from. I feel like screaming just about every day of my life from what I have to go through and put up with. It is enough to make you want to pull your hair out and everyone else's around you that is getting on your last nerve!
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
3 Jun 09
Oh know how you feel that's how it's been with me nearly every day since I got this job. We need one of those 'easy buttons' to push to 'deal with life'. REally wanted to call in sick today but no can't do that so am toughing up for another day in the trenches - would so much rather stay home and write.
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@terri0824 (4991)
• United States
3 Jun 09
Glad you were able to release it. Yeah, right now I feel like I could scream, I've only had an hours sleep if that and in my car. My youngest daughter is in the hospital having her first child. They inserted something to make her dilate last night and she kept me up all night screaming in pain. They also gave her ambien to make her sleep and all that did was make her hallucinate. I am now home for a little while in hopes of catching at least an hours sleep before I go back to the hospital.
Hope you have a better day!
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
3 Jun 09
Oh terri hope everything goes well for your daughter. Not enough sleep will certainly cause most anything to make you wanna scream. Hoping you get some rest soon if you haven't already.
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@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
3 Jun 09
That's really bad and I must say those are really immature persons with nothing better to do. As for your work situation, I get those too and whenever that happens at times to me, I just pick up the pace and leave. Leave the situation, I mean, for if not, I would burst off and it won't be a nice situation to see.
Whenever I feel like screaming, I go riding. It helps for me. If not, I'll just stay at home, watch some shows on TV or something or a movie online and just chill.
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
3 Jun 09
zed great idea maybe I need to get tires aired up on my antique 1 speed (my speed) and start riding in the evenings to vent some of my pent up energy.
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@fishkingback (430)
• China
3 Jun 09
Haha,interesting discussion.
To be very honest,i used to shout in my high school when i was a young student,of coure,now i am not that old too. :D
You know,the courses are so boring and meaningless in school,especially in my country,i think there are so little useful things we can learn from the school courses,maybe you wouldn't agree with me,but i really think it is a waste of time to spend years of time to learn those things.
However,my parents did hope that i study hard to get a great grades so that i could go to a good college.I hated those courses,but i don't want to let my parents down, i was so ambivalent and depressive .so i always shout out by the lake with my friends who were in the same situation,and it really worked!After i had done that,i felt much better.
So,if we are depressive,just release it by screaming,but i think you'd better do this at the place where there are nobody else. lol
@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
3 Jun 09
Oh I wish I had a place I could go to scream - I know I would feel better, just need that release, let it out and get on with things. I'm glad to hear this works for you and that you am to please your parents - best example of a good child hope your parents appreciate what you do.
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
3 Jun 09
I can only hope things turn arouind for you soon.
I scream a lot just to vent and get things out of my system.
It works wonders actually.
Sometimes I go out back and yell loudly.
Neighbors think I am crazy though I bet.
Hahahaha!
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB!!~
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
4 Jun 09
Well I'm glad I'm not the only one that does that - problem is where I live now if I went outside to yell the neighbors would call the police. It's a bad area and the few 'good ones' around would think someone was being killed or something.
@hoghoney (3747)
• United States
3 Jun 09
I hear you sweetie...you know sometimes when I get that way I will hop in my car and just head to the woods or grab a fishing pole and hit a nice priviet spot and just let it out for about an hour...been there done that...or take a drive on a gravel road and just scream til you find your way back..Sending some BIG HUGS your way babe...Lovs ya.
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@hoghoney (3747)
• United States
4 Jun 09
Your welcome hun...and yes a long nice gravel road will do wonders..crank the radio up all the way, open the windows and go for the gusto girl..even if you dont let out a scream it can really clear the head or make you think of all kinds of stuff..I get alot off my chest on gravel roads...and come back peaceful when I am done...I only took three gravel trips last month.lol.
@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
4 Jun 09
Oh I love that - drive on a gravel road, never done it for therapy but can just imagine the benifits. Someone else gave me an idea going to take some time this weekend and drive out in the country, take my camera with me - I'm sure I can find a good gravel road.
And thank you for the hugs - they are greatly appreciated :)
@BarBaraPrz (47611)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
3 Jun 09
Yes, and I do sometimes scream. Doesn't solve anything but feels good. Try it.
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
3 Jun 09
Now see I think that is solving alot right there - it feels good. I am going to have to find a place I can go scream and not have the neighbors call the police :)
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
4 Jun 09
You know what - you are very right about what you said on the response at the top here. I was looking for support and ya know what I GOT IT. I so love myLot and all my friends here...
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@BarBaraPrz (47611)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
4 Jun 09
If there is a train crossing near you, that'd be a good place to scream (as a train went by).
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
3 Jun 09
Sometimes I have a bad at work also... cuz I work with customers every hours and every day... just like you. sometimes, they just blow me off so early in the morning that I can't even get myself up yet... I dont know why they do that for. once I have a bad day then my whole day just ruin. And I try my best not to yell or scream at other people who didn't know anything... sometimes I take off at my husband!!!!
If you have a bad, take a deep breath in and out for a few minutes then it will help you feel better soon
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
4 Jun 09
Oh you are right - that first phone call a bad one and it puts me in a bad mood all day. Maybe I can talk to my supervisor and ask her if I can have the freedom to take a minute or two after a bad call to 'breath' - we were so busy today no one had a chance to breath between calls. It was horrid and I am exhausted.
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
3 Jun 09
I've worked in a call center and that's the worst job. You get customers that can be idiots and then you have bosses that are complete morons. I wonder if they went to college to learn to be an idiot. They have no life experience and sometimes no work experience in what they are managing.
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
4 Jun 09
Oh you hit the nail on the head there - morons! Yes they have experience but they have no management skills and certainly no training on dealing with people. I think that should be one of the first things they do, require some training but this place doesn't care about the workers - we have the highest unemployment rate in the nation so there are 1000s of people waiting for any job they can get - including this one :(
@Hedwig (283)
• China
3 Jun 09
I am preparing for the upcoming final examinations and the loads of books are driving me crazy. I also want to scream and let it out. I have been in the library for the whole day and at present my mind is still full of numbers,theories and so on. I feel so exhausted and really hate the text books so much. However, no matter how much I hate these books , I still have to study them tomorrow because I don't want to fail any of my examinations.
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
4 Jun 09
Oh will be keeping you in my thoughts that you do well on your examins and will get some much needed relief after they are over.
@marcyyyy (517)
• United States
3 Jun 09
Yes!!!!!!! I've also worked in a call center and I have actually SCREAMED out loud, more than once!!!! I took 60-80 calls a day and one guy got me so mad I threw down my headset, screamed, ran to the ladies' room, and broke one of the doors!!! I didn't get in trouble, but one of the supervisors heard me, and was real nice to me. She knows how hard that job is. People were so used to hearing me scream or yell, that they would just ignore me!!!! I don't have that job anymore, and when I left, I got a WONDERFUL JOB! I've never looked at singles sites, I'm married, but I can only imagine the frustration...stay single!!!
@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
4 Jun 09
Yep stay single is great advice :) I just don't have time or energy to mess around with it.
You were very lucky to have the supervisor you did. A couple of the ladies I work with understand and were very sympathetic and encouraging today - amazing how a few kind words can help in that situation.
@cchitnarain (136)
• United States
3 Jun 09
I'm glad you feel better now!
Oh, I feel like screaming at least once a week but catch myself from letting little things get to me. Otherwise
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
4 Jun 09
YOu know I used to journal a lot and your right it does help - think part of my problem is I'm ADD (don't tell my kids) and I do things for a little bit then have to move on to something else - maybe I'll take that up again.
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
3 Jun 09
When something goes wrong with a computer it can be very annoying indeed. It is horrible to have not one but two bad days am work. It is awful not to get on well with a supervisor. I know that an upsetting message on a dating site must have been terrible. With all that happening I don't blame you for screaming.
In my second year of primary school teaching I did some supply teaching. I enjoyed teaching a lovely class of children when a teacher was ill. Then the head teacher asked if I would manage the nursery unit. The manager had gone to do some advising work for one year. I didn't know that the school was just about to have an inspection. A teacher came over from New Zealand to teach Year 5. She found out her class of children were awful. I didn't like it in the nursery either. The head teacher gave her contract to her just after she had found out about the inspection. She left her position and a number of teachers all went off on sick leave. I spoke to my teaching agency and with their comments I wish I had screamed.
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
3 Jun 09
Oh goodness that is horrid what those teachers did - I certainly would have screamed and really loud. I hope the people doing the inspection caught on to what they did.
@miamilady (4910)
• United States
3 Jun 09
I hope today is going better for you. Yes, I definitely have moments when I want to scream. Heck...I DO scream sometimes. Or yell. I have kids. Can't help it. I know that it's not "healthy" for parents to scream at their kids, but once in a while, you just gotta! I try not to do it often though. One strategies that I use to keep my cool is to go for a drive. When I feel myself approaching a level of anger where I think it might get ugly, I just go for a drive.
Try not to let the "sarcastic donkeys" get to ya. Just try to find some humor in how stupid some guys can be? Just a thought.
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
3 Jun 09
Yep humor - told someone above here I'm laughing because I've made a few cents off this discussion about the donkey and ignoring him :)
Have to admit since a month or so ago when I rushed to the hospital, thought I was having a heart attach, my son has been very understanding when I yell/scream at him. I keep it breif and after he asks me if I feel better and leaves me alone - he stresses me a lot but not as much now. Think he finally realized what it's all doing to Mom.
@cursedsoul (925)
• India
3 Jun 09
Aww hun..call center jobs can be very demanding and I had to work at night, attending college during day. Finally I used to 'SCREAM' so often that I just quit. It was decent money yeah but life is so much more peaceful now.
Hope you do feel better now. And yeah, good food helps when you wanna scream.
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
4 Jun 09
Oh I wish so much I could quit and as soon as I find something else I will take great joy in doing that - quiting that place. What's really bad is we get stress from the customers calling and then get it from our supervisors too :(
In the mood for ice cream tonight and am going to treat myself, just have to be careful I don't over do it on sugar and fat :(
@gardenstategreg (175)
• United States
3 Jun 09
yes although I know that having an anger outburst may be necessary I also know that it could lead to the eventual loss of my job which at the moment I could not be able to bear losing simply because i will be unable to find a replacement job should that happen and this just proves a point that the economy is unforgiving for alot of people and that if I lost my job A. i would be unemployed and forced to collect unemployment wages B. I would need to keep living with my mom at home and C. When it did come time to find another job it could already be taken at this point.. yeah the best way without a doubt to deal with anger outbursts is to take a much deserved vacation far far far! away from humanity just 3 weeks in Italy, Brazil, Ireland, China or on a private island would suit me just fine. In fact I think in many cases alot of people just need downtime from stress at work which if left untreated can lead to emotional issues, social issues or....
so yeah best advice I can give is if you notice that your work performance is suffering because of mounting stress then the best thing you can do is ask your boss for a vacation
@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
4 Jun 09
Sounds like your in the same boat as me as far as not being able to lose your job. Oh I would soooo love to take a vacation but not in the cards for me right now - maybe take a drive in the country this weekend find a nice park or someplace to take tons of pictures.
@hanah87 (1835)
• Malaysia
3 Jun 09
I am sympathy with you.I know it is hard to make money but i think your supervisors should not make like that.Yes,i have something i like want to scream out one day.If i feel stress too much,i will try to scream.But i can't!I dont know why,maybe i am too shy to do that.
@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
3 Jun 09
I really do believe that screaming does help to relieve stress - I remember the first time I really did do it. I was all alone and still felt totally silly and looked around to make sure no one was around. I then did it again and each time I felt better and better.
I think my supervisor needs to go someplace and scream rather than taking it out on us reps - I'm sure she's stressed too.
@jayrene (2708)
• Philippines
3 Jun 09
i have had days like that too... sorry to hear about yours, and glad you will still have a job tomorrow. i had ventured into single sites too, but found really nothing that's interesting... was looking for a friend. i have received what i call stupid messages too, they seem to not read my profile and just look at the pic...lol
well, at least you have vented now, hope it had released some of that steam in you...
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
3 Jun 09
Oh I know that one - those look and don't read. This jerk last night did read my profile though and although he thinks totally differently than I was like he thought he could shame me into thinking his way or something. I'm not even responding to his messages - ignoring him, and not wasting a second of my time on him... LOL made a few cents off this discussion about him though :)