Do you believe that GOD has prepared the one you will spend your lifetime with?

I think I believe in it because after all we all fall in love and face some problems during that period, but there are many examples of people living happily even after that. Even there are cases when someone think that he/she will not get true love in their life but ultimately they will also a get a suitable match for them. Even though I don't think it is pre-planned but there is god and is taking care of everything going around and so making something which can resolve different problems. I am single but still have hope that there will be someone special for me too and I will meet her in the future.

hello sharksfin! mmmmm, quite confusing....but here's my opinion regarding this matter. God give us free will, so we are free to do whatever we want but be careful not to overuse this free will. let us always remember our responsibility to Him. yes its true, it is better to ask God's guidance in choosing the one we should marry. its not bad to ask for it, as it is written in the bible ... ...'a prudent wife is from the Lord" proverbs 19:14. so meaning if you want to have a good husband/wife then why not ask for God's guidance? in my case, i think i'm lucky enough to find a really good husband that i believe a blessing from God. i don't need to fall in love with other coz my husband now is my first & last bf. see God gave me the one i ask from Him. i don't know if its just a coincidence but i remember that when i'm younger, i always pray to God that i hope the one that become my first bf will be my husband...and it happens. so regarding your question, all i can say is let's always seek for God's guidance and assistance in whatever we do and for sure we will have a better life...just always put your trust on Him! have a nice day! :-)

If god controlled everyone's destiny wouldn't that mean people can't take responsibility for their actions?

Well I'm a person of faith, and I think that god has someone for everyone, but we still have to put forth a little effort ourselves then god will help to lead us in the direction of our true companion, or life partner, as you know god helps those who helps themselves, that of course mean that if we want things to happen for us we have to help ourselves, and put ourselves out there a little, and make sure that we are in social situations so that god can help to lead us in the right direction, we cant just waite for things to happen of course. But unfortunately for me, I had and still have a what some would consider a different kind of life, and its not that easy for me to put myself out there, and like a lot of people I dont have a lot of money, so theres a lot that I'm unable to do right now, anyway my point is that its not easy for me to find someone, and I belive in love, and if I didnt love the person I couldn't even consider marrying them no matter what, and like you, sometimes I wounder what gods true plan is for me, but all I can do is continue to stay positive and hope and pray that god will someday show me what and who is ment for me.

hmm..this is also my problem before...I used to get attracted to non-christian guys. I remember this quote: "everything is permissible but not everything is beneficial", meaning if you insist on your will, God would still allow it, but you'll miss God's perfect timing and will for you...you will suffer the consequences of marrying the wrong person..because he will suck the life out of you. Just be patient, remember the verse in the bible.."If you delight in the Lord, He will give you the desires of your heart", you will know for sure if the right man comes along...god will give you the discernment just ask for it, be specific with your prayers. (^_^)

Hi sharksfin! Do you beleive in paradise? The reason I ask is because say for example you are widowed and then you decide to remarry, does that mean you will have two husbands in paradise? since the bible talks about faithful people being resurrected. The bible does not expain about this alot but it makes me wonder if God has just one person for each of us or if nobody at all. I mean we fall in love and date and marry but paradise will be alot different than the way we live on this earth. Well just a thought, happy mylotting!

I really enjoyed your discussion. I was actually with a man for 12 years, i never married him but we had 2 kids together. Well it went bad, and now i have been questioning alot of things. Like was he not the one i was soppose to be with, and if it wasn't meant to be why was we together so long, just to have kids together.

People come in and out of our lives for a certain reason, but basically they all teach us lessons--sometimes people are destined to hurt us, but they only become instruments for us to become better persons and learn from the experience. So that means not all people who comes to us is whom God sends, sometimes there is still the right person in store for us. It's important that we should always follow God's will and consult Him in every decision we take or people we meet because His way may be a hard road but definitely it's worth all the wait.

In a word NO! I'm a fatalist. I believe everything happens for a reason. If you took that theory and applied it to real life you would end up with a lot of unhappy singletons! The fact is, people from all walks of life challenge religion for love...and have done for years. My grandmother and grandfather met very young and fell in love but my gran was catholic and grandad Protestant. He converted to catholic just so they could marry and then never went to church for the rest of his life. I am not religious at all though I was christened Church of England and sent to a catholic high school. I met my hubby at 18 and we have had a real rollercoaster of life together - and not once questioned our love for each other. I believe we met at that time of our life so we could face these challenges in life together and remain strong as individuals with the help of each other. When we married, we commited to each other - in a beautiful country house in the Lake District (UK) - not to God. Our vows were to each other and after 11 years together are stronger than ever. A good friend of mine by comparison was so strongly into catholicism, would beat herself up if she missed church. Would drop me if church asked her to do something. She always insisted she would only ever consider catholic men to date etc and under no circumstances would go against her beliefs. She's met a complete idiot 2 years ago who is not catholic and cheats on her constantly because he has "issues", treats her like cack, and she doesn't bother with her religion anymore. I know what I think and I'm sticking to it!!

Well I think that when you fall in love with someone and asking God for his will to be done means that, If this person is really the one your suppose to be with let it work out, let everything come together for the good of the relationship but if its not the right person give you the strenght and wisdom to see that, that person is not the one for you. Asking for his will means that whatever the outcome even if it makes you sad and disappointed you want his will for you life to happen. It doesn't mean that you can ask for him to let the person your in love with be the one he wills you to be with, its just you have to be able to deal with that fact that the person may not be the one. We are suppose to learn lessons in life, that is why I believe that some people are lucky and the first person that they are with might be the one for them,and others have to go through many relationships to learn the lessons God wants them before he blessess them with the right one for them. God puts certain people in our lives at certain times to teach us things. If it doesn't work out with a person you've fallen in love with, it doesn't mean you were wrong for loving them, it just wasn't the person God mean for you to be with and to marry. Take the lessons you have learned while in the relationship and continue to pray that God will send you the right one.

People have a variety of views regarding selecting their partner to be with in the rest of their lives. I believed that God has someone already prepared for us before we we are woven together in our mother's womb and it is up to that particular person to find the right woman or man to be with. Finding the right one is hard and long process, some people also believed that if you marry someone else by accident and not by God's will they can still be happy but will not have god's best.God gives us the freewill or choice whom to marry inspite that he already prepared someone for us and it is up to us if we are willing and obey his will. God's will is good, pleasing and perfect.

What would life be if someone wasn't making a bunch of rules and regulations to control you? You underestimate God. Your life has been planned out even before you were born. Yes, your freedom of choice is included in this plan. Do you want things to work out perfectly according to the master plan???? All you have to do is one simple thing. BE WHO YOU MUST IT'S A PART OF THE PLAN!!

I really don't know god how to arrange my life and I don't know whether god like me or not.Sometimes I feel that I am lucky,sometimes not.How to understand it?What is the "GOD's will".I don't know the meaning.I really don't know how to told God my request and hear his response.Could you have any idea for that or way to told him and hear him?hehe~~

hey sharksfin i dont belief in ur wordings it is all peoples thinking. Some religions had faith that god had already prepared our bridegroom,, but if we fall in love then how we met my already prepared bridegroom. its so silly according to me. marriage is one self opinion, it cant came with some others force.

Watch the film Serendipity. I'm sure God has prepared the right one for us regardless of religion or whatnot, but it's up to us to be able to be present enough to spot that person.

I believe in destiny-- I think we were predestined to meet and marry someone and so we can be happy

i do not believe in god actulaly,but sometimes you have to believe destination.before you meet the right one,you may fall in love with some others,and let you know different kinds of friends.so you will know what kind of person do you need.and in time god will take him or her to you.i think what you have to do now is that enjoying loving with the person you love now.

We must know what we need. We must know what we need are so that we can communicate tthem to potential partner. These are the things we cannot compromiseon. We should ask our partner what his/her needs are. We have to find out whether the two of you can meet these needs for each other. We can't even begin to tell howimportant this really is. That how God's will on us to our lifetime partner

hello,what are wish everyday?get a good couple,someone u trust to get married.sorry to said that im muslim.as muslim i prefered to accept all god will like married,life and anything.its not good for u to not accept what god have given to yu.the best thing u should care is how u find that someone that matching with u self.what u like about him.its all depend on yur self.but 1 thing u should believe is,what is yur choice,that is god will.