are you mean to others sometimes?

I'm guilty of being mean to others sometimes. As much as I try to understand the situation and the person, sometimes, I am just being pushed to my limits. I am provoked. I am being taken advantaged of. We're only human. We can't be too hard on ourselves. We have our bad days and we're entitled to feel bad.

Everyone has his reasons for acting mean sometimes. We all do it once in a while, it's just natural. Sometimes people act mean just because they're trying to defend themselves, or to reply when other are mean in the first place. Some just have bad days, some do it because they're idiots and think it's fun, some do it because they're afraid others will act like that first and they want to avoid being the victim again etc. So it's not ok to judge a person because you never know what their reasons are. Of course, when I'm involved in a situation it's hard for me to look at everything objectvely... I always act according to my feelings when I'm in a situation like that and I can't sit and think about all this... Usually I get mad at those who are mean with me and I either reply with the same behaviour or ignore them. Most of the time the other start acting mean, so because of that I created a sort of "shield" and now I act cold with anyone because I expect them to react in a mean way... so instead of being nice and end up being treated like a naive person, I just keep my distance with every person just to make sure...

Oh yes, of course, otherwise people would be walking over me all the time. See, by being mean we are either denying something to another person or saying something which I want to say, but which will hurt the other person. OK, sometimes we can of course tell them what they want to hear, but most of the time it is not possible coz it will hurt me in the process. Like someone asks you to help on an office project and you say no, coz you have your own work…some would think that being mean while other would think it OK. So it really depends on the person you are being mean to.

in my opinion,we human beings will do wrong things offen.sometime we are mean to our friends,it's very normal,because we don't know if our friends' behavious are right,sometimes our mean is the best solution.

Oh yes, I feel like I am a bad girl sometimes. Nobody is really perfect and sometimes we act things out irrationally because of intense emotions. I know you feel terrible and guilty. But I do hope you can apologize to whoever that person whom you did wrong.

I am sometimes sharp with my voice in the way i speak to people,especially if it was something that was obvious like they asked me a question that has an obvious answer that they should have known.Or if someone keeps telling me the samething over and over again,i hate people keep repeating them selves.

I do have the tendency to be mean at times. It takes great self-control to avoid hurting other people only because of this tendency. Sometimes, it's really hard not to be mean when the people around deserve the treatment but still, nothing gives us the license to be harsh with words or with our dealings with others. It's better to be nice all the time because it makes us feel good about ourselves.

we all do forget sometimes that we are being mean to others. because maybe of the situation we are in and the sudden burst of anger that rushes our blood thru our heads that we then tend to forget that what we are doing is wrong that aside from it, you are even hurting the person. though, sometimes we become mean because they are the same way, but i know thats not the solution. but again, the thought settles, we are just only human. and its up to us to either apologize or just leave it there. like me, i am not perfect. i know i always or maybe seldom do bad things and utter mean things to others, but im trying to apologize for the wrong things ive done. thanks for this discussion friend and good day! jhelai

It all depends on the attitude you get carried on with. If you have an atmosphere full of mean people, then you gotta show your mean attitude. When you always try being polite all time there would be an edge where you explode when some is really on your last nerve. This will be for your own good as you let out what you had inside for a long period of time & the opposite persons fate to face this. This act of yours maybe right or wrong, i dont know but in the end that is good for you.