Are you careful of what you say in your blog?
By katsmeow1213
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
United States
June 4, 2009 5:21pm CST
When writing in your blog, do you stop and think about who might read it, and whether or not you should put in particular details just in case that person reads it?
Well, tonight a friend mentioned I should have a blog. I hadn't until now. So I figured, why not? I absolutely love to talk about myself, and don't mind typing very very longgggg novels about myself, lol!
Most of you here know I'm very open and honest about my life. I've been through some stuff in my life and I don't mind talking about it and sharing my experiences. I'm not ashamed of it, or mad about it, or anything.
So I start this blog, and decide I'm going to start at the beginning.. I'm not sure why I started there, I just wanted to.
While typing I'm thinking about where I'm going to advertise the link to my blog, and it pops in my head that I can put the link on my Facebook page... oh but wait... if I do that, my mother will see it. She's just recently added me as a friend on Facebook after not speaking for 5 years, but we haven't really said a whole lot. There's a lot of things that have happened in my life, and she and I need to clear the air (which won't happen, we'll both just pretend like nothing ever happened). But if I'm open and honest in my blog, and she reads it, she'll have her feelings hurt. At the same time, it would be really hard for me to explain anything about myself without explaining things about my mother.
I struggled for awhile over whether I'd leave my mother out of my blog, or not put my blog where my mother would find it. In the end I chose to be honest in my blog, and I'll leave the link off Facebook, and if she happens to come across the blog anyways, well... I'm being honest. I'm not being hurtful, and I'm not trying to purposely point out all her faults. I'm just being honest about what has happened in my life.
Have you ever had to avoid saying something due to a person who might read your blog? Have you avoided showing someone your blog because of something you said about them?
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9 responses
@gemini_rose (16264)
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5 Jun 09
I started a blog once but quickly became fed up of it and deleted it. I just keep my own diary. I think there is always a risk that someone will read something like that and not be too happy about what is written and for those reasons I would never write really personal things on something like that, it was bad enough when my dad read my diary as a fourteen year old!!
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
5 Jun 09
I kept a diary when I was in my late teens, and most of it was about whatever guy I was seeing at the time. I actually read it to him on an almost daily basis. That's how wide open I am! I think it bothers some people that I can be so wide open, but it's in my nature. I can't stifle that, so I have to be open and honest. If she sees it, well... I've lived without her in my life for 5 years now, and had planned to go my entire life not speaking to her. I think I can handle her getting upset with me. I'm not lying about any of it, I'm even embarassing myself!
@sharksfin (1091)
• Philippines
5 Jun 09
If it will hurt her feelings but you still want to be real honest, then, say it in a way that won't sound too embarrassing for her. It's just in the way you say things, actually.
I have been using my blog to say what I mean to say. Including things I can't say in front of the person involved wishing and hoping that they'd read. Am not the confrontational type so I put everything in writing. Somehow, it helps but not all the time.
@nekonyanta (892)
• Philippines
5 Jun 09
Hmm... Well I can't exactly say that I've had that problem since the host that I'm using, Live Journal, has various privacy settings that allow you to control who sees what on your blog. I've kept my blog on that site for five years and have had a couple of people whom I know in real life stumble upon it, whether by accident or because I referred them there, and I didn't really have a problem about the wrong people reading the wrong things since I've always been careful with screening my posts. 
@clorissa123 (4926)
• United States
5 Jun 09
Honestly, I have thought about it over and over before I really started a blog. I afraid someone might recognize me online while I am talking about them. Maybe they will call me immediately and ask me why. I don't really want to hurt someone, or offended them anyway. So, either I have to change the character in the blog, or I have to use a pen name instead. I guess that is the best disguise.
@ronezhang (4)
• China
5 Jun 09
Of course, I will care that. In my blog, I write about my life ,my feeling, the weather and so on. there are also some friend's communications. Good or bad words.I read all of them. And the most importand ,I love my mother.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
4 Jun 09
My blog is more for professional reasons then for personal. But here at mylot or facebook I don't put up anything that might hurt someone in my families feelings. I would prefer not to have any confrontations over what I feel I think I must share. That would be for my diary if I had one! LOL
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
5 Jun 09
Well, I don't know about that! I did write some articles somewhere! I don't know it is blog or something! I am sort of good at writing some short novels in my native language! But there were no personal experiences.
@Ingkingderders (3832)
• Philippines
5 Jun 09
I say be honest! I have put somethings in my blog, that I admit if a certain person reads it.. then he wouldn't want to talk to me again. LOL. But the thing is, THAT IS my blog, and I would write what I was thinking and what I am feeling.. If I hurt that person.. I'm very sorry, but that is how I really felt.. Sometimes I really think that blogging is a really good thing, specially for persons like me, who can't really handle confrontational situations.. It's a way of speaking out your thoughts and feelings.. Write what your heart is telling you to.. don't censor yourself.. cause in the end, it won't be your blog anymore. Happy blogging! =)
