they need me to help prove they were here....but they weren't

If all he is asking for is the documentation of the wreck and he is not asking you to lie and say he was there, then I don't see why in the interest of keeping family harmony, you can't give him the documentation. I would draw the line at saying he was there when he wasn't and things like that. He, himself, isn't being honest with the school and I don't like that, but he is the one doing the lying not you.

All you need to prove the wreck is the police report. Just make a copy and submit it. and yes I understand why it is necessary with all the fraud that takes place with student loads etc now days.

Giving him documentation of the wreck is not making any statement regarding his contention that it had anything to do with his dropping out of school. If they ask you to write such a statement or sign anything, you should refuse to do that. Could you get into trouble for doing it? Maybe, but even if you couldn't it would still violate your own personal standards and principles. Think of it this way. If you are applying for a passport, you need a birth certificate. When you go to the local city hall to get a copy of your birth certificate, all they are giving you is a paper that says when and where you were born. They aren't making any statement to the government that you are worthy of or qualified to receive a passport. So if you give them paperwork, that's the end of it. What he does with it is his own affair. I would, however, take the opportunity to give him a bit of a lecture about honesty, cause dishonesty has a way of coming back to haunt you in unexpected ways. With honesty, even if it turns out badly, you won't spend your life waiting for the other shoe to drop.

I understand your dilemma and I guess the answer depends on how close you are to your sister and whether you want to have a family fight of her husband's dishonesty. Since they're not asking you to lie personally, sending the paperwork is a step down but it's still participating in a lie. It's a hard choice to make....

he definitely is in the right field to have the guts to allow you to lie for him.and yes you are lying.consider yourself as an accomplice and if push comes to shove you would be liable to pay.i am so surprise that you think you are not lying,gosh.a lie is always a lie.you know he wasnt there and yet you are helping him defraud financial aid.what an example you setting.

You have to, if its requested and this matter goes to court, Holding evidence is a class a felony offense and can cause allot of trouble to you and your family. Just give him the info to get him and the lawyers that he will bring off your back first then worry weather its right or not.

Isn't it possible that he dropped out of school due to being emotional over your son's accident? Or maybe your sister was emotional over the accident, so he had to stay home to help her through it, or to take care of her duties for her... or something of that nature? Why don't you just flat out ask him why he put that on his list of reasons?

wow, I dunno if I would or not... were him and your son close? I cannot believe he wants this information to bail him out of this situation unless it truly did cause him some major stress.... I am also a college student and I have financial aid and have went through many things while attending school, my mother had 2 strokes and was hospitalize for 47 days 2 hours away and i drove back and forth EVERY day to see her, also we moved a couple of times, and had lost alot of information for school when my computer crashed and I had to redo everything I had lost, plus my son was has sleep apnea and it is hard for me to find a sitter for him.... I am not sure what I would do if I were in your shoes.... but from what I understand, he does need to actually take the blame himself and stop using others tragic accidents to help him out.

I am going to ask one question, how much did your brother-in-law actually help with your son's wreck, or with visiting the nursing home, being with you during this time? If he wasn't there for you, why are you going to put your self in this kind of stress. I would produce the bill you say you have and say thats all I have, the rest is up to you. I am not responsible for your actions. If you dropped out of school don't blame my child or myself, you made this choice of your own accord. Now you have to deal with the circumstances. You need more proof find it yourself. Its out there find it. You don't need to set time aside for this if he is trying to pull something with the school loans to get away with it. If he messed up something he needs to deal with thoe circumstances. You didn't make the choice to say he dropped out because of your son or being there to help when apparently he wasn't. Sometime in life people need to take responsiblity for thier own ACTIONS. I pray that all works out for you and your son, that is what is important.

Well this is a catch 20/20... On one side you want to help your brother-in-law out but at the same time you dont want to lie... especially since he really was not there for you that long... but i understand what its like to have many things get in the way, and are not able to contunie school at that point in time... Yes it would be lying to say that your son's accident was the total cause for him not to drop out of school... have you tried to explain to him that you want to help him but you do not feel confortable lying???