What is the meaning of this.........
@walnutbrownie (745)
India
June 5, 2009 5:31am CST
Friends i really need ur opinion here.
My best friend told me that"he really likes me a lot and wished he was in love with me" and now this has really confused me,why does he wish he was inlove with me and what exactly does he mean in saying this.
The background is...he's my best friend and we spend most of our times together..say 6 days a week tgethr n we are very comfortable with eachother and i also like him a lot but thats it for the moment..
Plz share ur opnion on what ur think of this and what exactly is he trying to tell me..
Thanks for sharing
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10 responses
@chickiepie (42)
• United States
6 Jun 09
Well like everyone else seems to be telling you, I agree. He has some deep feelings for you, he loves you, but he's afraid to say it. Why? Because the male ego is fragile. No offense to the guys on here. He figures he should gauge your reaction before he says anything further because he doesn't want to get his heart broken if you don't feel the same way. But if you don't love him right now, you need to let him know in a way that isn't going to hurt his feelings.
@walnutbrownie (745)
• India
10 Jun 09
ya..i agree wid all of u here..i was also of the impression he "may" be in love wid me but on confrontation it turned out "NO"..im not good enuff for u .....
so i guess we were all wrong in our judgement.Anyways turns out than men are also a difficult breed to understand lols...while they say" women are complicated" ...
@Bloggership (1104)
• Indonesia
6 Jun 09
Maybe he already felt in love with since along ago. After 6 days getting so close with you, he might be also think "This is the best time to open my heart". If you like him, why don't you try to love him?..
@walnutbrownie (745)
• India
10 Jun 09
yes i like him too..but before i fall in love i want to be sure and now it seems that its clear that we will alw\ays remain frens n not beyond that
@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
5 Jun 09
I think that you should be asking your friend for the meaning of his words. He might be asking you for your reaction but he cannot come out and say it out without knowing how you would take it. Cheers!!
@walnutbrownie (745)
• India
10 Jun 09
Funny part is..thats his first and last word.lol...maybe ths is his plan B, for all we know
@Flirtykumquat (927)
• United States
5 Jun 09
This discussions sounds similar to another discussion that said something about can a guy and a girl be just friends. This just proves that emotions always gets involved. If you do like him and he likes you go for it. I mean if you guys spend 6 days out of the week together that means you guys are really close and know each other pretty well. It's not like your starting from point A your already like at point G. Good Luck with everything!!
@walnutbrownie (745)
• India
10 Jun 09
Ya.. sometimes relationship gets a little funny sometimes between guys & gals..but we need to balance t i guess
@brokenwings24 (90)
• Philippines
6 Jun 09
For me that was really the product when you are too close to eaCh other the tendency is that one of the party will falL inlove to his/her bestfriend becAuse you together all the time its ok when you are both fall inlove to eaCh other buT what if only one party is inlove and the other party is just treating him/her as only as friend.?What will happen to the friendship that you build for the long time?.?I think when you have a bestfriend you have to make an agreement that n0 one will be fall inlove to eaCh other..BuT how cAn you avoid love when you surpressed it the m0re it wants to be fulfilled..
@walnutbrownie (745)
• India
10 Jun 09
brokenwings.. people dont plan to fall in love esp between frens..it just happens sometimes and when it happens..u nver know how n when...as for my case..hmmmm maybe we shud have made an agreement like u said
@walnutbrownie (745)
• India
10 Jun 09
yes ..clarity is required in any kind of relationship.
thanks for sharing
@antisociality (163)
• Philippines
6 Jun 09
Maybe he likes you but it's not enough that he wants to be in a relationship with you. Maybe he also doesn't want to destroy your friendship.
@srganesh (6340)
• India
5 Jun 09
I think,he is beating round the bush.He loves you and wants you in the name of love.At the same time he don't want to lose you as a friend at the least.He is worried of your denial against love and your turning back forever,if you don't have the same feeling towards him.Simply to say,he loves you but afraid to tell you explicitly.Cheers!
@thenextnoel (396)
• Philippines
5 Jun 09
Hi walnut, as a guy I'd like to share my opinion on this.
Your best friend seems to be "testing the waters" to see how you would react to the idea of him being in love with you. I would venture a guess that he really DOES like you but there's a risk of you rejecting him if he says it right away and it might put awkward tension in your friendship. So he tries to gauge your reaction by saying he wished he was in love with you. It's a safety net because if you reject the idea of a romantic relationship then the friendship is still safe, and if you say you're open to the idea can push it further.
The main issue here is are you open to a romantic relationship with this guy? Because he obviously is. I think he's waiting for your approval.
@walnutbrownie (745)
• India
10 Jun 09
well..noel..theres a twist to this..now it seems he is not waiting for any relationships...irony.thanks for sharing
@Caylaxx (96)
•
5 Jun 09
I think at the minute you friend really really likes you and could easily be on his way to falling in love with you. I think he is scared of actually loving you and feeling rejection and thats why he sysd he wishes he was in love with you.
This is a tricky situation for you as you may want to try and date him but you are afraid it might ruin your friendship. What you have to do is have a really long hard think about it, i hope everything works out for you and your friend.
Its rare but sometimes your true love is right under your nose and you don't notice, i hope this ends up being the case for you
@walnutbrownie (745)
• India
10 Jun 09
well i thought the same like u the day u all replied to my post but now it has turned the other way ..anyway..somthngs are better as it is..