Would you get involved in a long distance relationship?

LOL. I'm happy it was the latter too! Absence can make the heart grow fonder as well as it can create more distance between a couple; it depends on the heart in question! :) All the best to you and your husband continue to grow together.

Well my dear, I have no doubt that you and your family will make it a very special one. Remember the journey that brought you to this place and always be thankful for it because God has blessed both of you. Cheers!

Thanks! We're actually celebrating our 1-year anniversary tomorrow!

Very important point here. There are relationships where people are all about themselves. The relationship is centered around their happiness and they are not really in it with the goal of making the other person happy. When you are in a relationship and it is mostly about "getting yours" you are not really thinking of the other person's happiness and working to make them happy. Now.. I am not saying that you are not supposed to be happy. You need to be with someone who makes you happy but in doing that you work to make the other person happy too.

I thought the definition of love is wanting the other person's happiness as much as your own. If you are in it just for yourself, it never works for long.But when two people try to make each other happy, it works.

You do get to know each other better on some levels because you spend a whole lot of time talking and seeing that you don't see each other you tend to sometimes really focus on the conversations and see it as the only way to keep that person close. Through these conversations, you share things and listen to the other in a way that can really draw closeness. As hard as it is sometimes you have to decide what you want to take from this experience. Do you want this person in your life? Are you willing to hold this person close while making arrangements to be close to them geographically? Then you take it from there

Thank you for sharing this. It is my belief that love comes from God and it is through God that we love everyone and everything. Because we trust him to guide us through our life we endure and wait for him to show us the way. I use the same principle in my relationship. I don't know of anyone who wants to stay in a long distance relationship for the rest of their life. If you meet someone while you are in two different countries or states and you grow in a friendship with them and decide hey... I want more with this person; even though we are apart let us work together to come closer, then why not? Why not sacrifice, why not endure? Is it worth it? That is up to you. It will not be easy and at some point one or two of you may question whether you should stay or not but at the end of the day, love will have no boundaries. Trust, faith, respect, communication and belief. Take care and again thanks for the post.

That's what sacrifice means. From both the ends, only then it will surely work out no matter what problems comes in between.

Sacrifice yes. but be sure that the other person is doing the same. it must be something that both of you are committed to and working towards the same goal.

A long distance relationship has two faces. It can be a bridge to cross to come closer or you have someone in your life whom to see some time to time and enjoy their company but neither you nor them really want to live in the same place or together so you continue with it. It depends on the person and the situation. There are some people who do long distance all the days of their lives because they prefer it that way. That is okay.. that is their choice as long as it is what both parties want. Personally, it is not my cup of tea to want to do all the days of my life but others would. If it works for you guys.. okay...

Yeah, surely I wouldn't last in a long distance relationship. I salute those who can.

Well at least you are honest..so you know what works for you and that my friend is a very good thing.

I think that it works for now - someday we will both want more right now we are both working and trying to be financially stable..its kind of hard to just up and move without a job in the works esp when its as far away.

The distance can be hard yes and while you are trying to get your life in order it is good to have the space to do that. But if you are not thinking of coming together to be together then all you will end up having is a long distance relationship if that works for you.

That is the good part about having someone close and the hard part about long distance relationships. It is definately not for everyone. If I don't have constant communication with the person and the trust is not there I could not be a part of it.

Yeah! I already know that trusted to each other is very important in relationship. I admit that I dont have trust into my first relationship maybe I am not truly inlove with him. but, in my present relationship, I trusted and love him very much because he changed my life.

Oh.. well that is nice and I hope that the closeness continues. If there is not trust there is no relationship because a simple thing like communication gets tossed aside because all you think about is what is he doing behind your back and if he loves you. Continue to communicate and build the trust between you and good luck !

Hey.. have faith and focus on what the two of you share and could continue to have-not the challenges you face. Those can be dealt with if the two of you join forces against those challenges. Sometimes when a mountain faces you as a couple you have to chose to hold tight and climb the hill together or just turn around and run like hell! LOL. Good luck girl!

well hopefully...and i have FAITH in GOD...I know he is there for us to guide... thanks

i want to experience the thrill of being in a long distance relationship. i want to share my thoughts with a person i haven't met or seen. that would be interesting.

Ahh I understand now. That is fine. However should you and this person start getting really close would you want to both of you to come together instead of having the long distance relationship?

Now this is first! Excuse me If I may be so curious-why would you be looking for a long distance relationship when people in long distance are trying to bring each other closer? Just trying to understand your point of view if you don't mind sharing.

Stability comes from within the relationship you have with someone. That is my opinion. You can be in a long distance relationship and have a more stable relationship than your friend who has a close range relationship. It is a lot of work and not for everyone. You just have to decide what is good for you.

You miss the person all the time. You long for them and sometimes it can be depressing when you want them right there and right now and it cannot happen. But working together to bring the two of you together is what makes it easier to deal with because you see each day as one day less before you see your loved one. You also use each day as another day to get to know this person and love them even though they are thousand of miles away.

well adjusting is very important. Sometimes people feel that long distance relationships can be so alien. At some point in time you will be apart. Some longer than others. Work towards making it as short as possible. It's about investing time in something that will benefit both of you in time to come.

Thank you so much...Wish you a good day and nice weekend, Happy mylotting. Good points and its helpful in the future.

It is like any other relationship if you and your partner make it that way. Happy Mylotting to you too.

Wow.. I am sorry it went down like that but happy that you found out sooner than later. See some men and women don't get it at times. It's one thing when you both realize hey.. we care about each other but this is not working for us. Howeverrrr...when they chose to go down the path of playing games that is when they lose a potentially good friend even when the relationship did not work out. Hey.. I'm sorry if you were hurt but I'm glad you found out early. All the best to you.

That is where communication comes and you use all that is at your disposal and then some LOL. to your advantage. you are not planning to stay long distance forever (I hope) it is a bridge that you must now cross to get closer.

And I will advise you to make the best of it! Cherish it and run with it LOL When you spend that special time with him, remind him how special he is and how happy you are to be with him. Don't waste a minute! All the best to you.

Indeed my friend. Love is measure through certain things and endurance is one of them in my book. It is very easy to say "yes"..but will you honor it especially during the challenging times and trust me.. there will be..

I respect your honesty. Sometimes we don't realize that all someone wants to hear is the truth and they would be okay. It would be easier for them for us to say how we really feel instead of saying what we think they want us to say.