Do You Predict WRONGLY What Others Are Thinking About You?

Hi there wolfie! I don't stop and think about what people are thinking. The only thing that I can't handle are compliments and I still am not at ease with them If I have to consider what others are thinking I'm sure it would bias the way I did things, like speaking or dressing or whatever. If I'm at ease with myself then I just assume others are too and if they are not well, there are other fish in the sea I thought that was not how you were thinking these days my friend and that negativity was a thing of the past? Is that not the case?

I actually go back and forth between feeling like everyone is thinking badly about me to just not caring. For me its a matter of what I have to be proud of. When I am busy and keeping my mind sharp and acheiving goals, even small ones, I dont care what people think because Im too busy with my life. But when I have failed or I am just not good at something that I thought I would be that is actually really important in life then I start to get that itch from everyone's eyes. I am way too hard on myself alot of the time and if I dont get something right then I feel like a looser and that no one would want to be around me anymore. And alot of times, if im not with true friends then people will treat me how I feel. And this kind of feels like validation to my fears. The main thing that keeps me up is having a freind who I can help with simular issues. I need a partner who can achieve a higher goal along side me. I wish my husband was that person, and some times i think he is but he is just not a good communicator so we end up fighting all the time. I wish we could communicate. I think I need to fix myself by myself before I can work with anyone. But I dont know. Oh well, time will tell, I have ups and downs. and the downs arent so bad, just discouraging. I hope you find your inner self that gives you peace! :)

Whenever I go out these days, shopping or whatever, I'm now thinking that I present as the fat, older unattractive woman. I see a dumpy, frumpy woman in my reflection in store windows. I don't know who she is but it's me. I used to be quite attractive with lovely long legs, a quick wink at a handsome guy, a ready grin and a twinkle about me; that lady has gone now and the person that's taken her place is mainly noticed because of her size. Perhaps though I'm being too harsh. Perhaps no-one notices me at all any more.

mmh...in reality i don't think that people think about me negatively when i met others for the first time may be you can understand when you are talking with him/her and so you can understand they are thinking negatively or positevely about you!!I think in this kind of things it is not possible to define it in general such as when you are to work or other places and you have normally relationship or professional one with others so normally i don't think nothing about my appearences or somehing link to that..may be when you come out with a person you have interest i meant private situations may be you can ask that to yourself if she's thinking good or bad about you?so may be this can be the case!!In general i don't ask to myself too much about what they are thinking about me or appeaences scuh as you have a good behaviour and good relation with others and so it is pretty impossible that all the people think positive or negative things about you it depends from different people way to see others, situations so on...

I don't always think that someone is thinking negatively about me, but, I can usually tell what people are thinking about me because of their body language and the inflection in their voices. Purrs, Catwoman=^..^= & Mija

when someone looks at me i automatically think negatively about myself. i am very self deprecating as it is. i think i say worse things about myself to myself than anyone could say to my face. i guess it is instinct. i have been trying not to care what others think about me. i don't ever try to think they are thinking good things about me. i actually hate that i think they are thinking anything about me at all. why am i so egotistical to think that their thought process includes me?

I always predict rightly of what people think of me when they first have a look at me.They always think that I am a very proud person and try to act big with me.The next thing I can predict from their eyes is jealousy.Instant jealousy.I just cannot help it.May be it is the way I look.It always takes a couple of meeting for everyone that I am a fun loving easy going person but without any nonsense.

I used to be exactly like that, I even found it hard to believe that it really was me that my husband wanted to be with for the first few years of our marriage. Even if someone paid me a compliment I would wonder if they really meant it or if they were being sarcastic. I have changed a lot now. I think I reached about 30 and realised I no longer cared what others thought of me, I became true to myself and if people didn't like it, it was their loss not mine. It took a long time but I learned a lot about myself and others on the journey. Take care and remember you are special.

I try not to assume because assumtions can be so wrong. I like to decide more based on interactions and facts. Sometimes wemay have a sense of sorts about what we presume but we shouldtry not to think the worst since there is alarge margin for error.

I used to feel that way much of the time, wolfie, but either I've gotten too old to care anymore or I've developed a thicker skin.Some people see me as unapproachable while others open up to me freely. I suppose I've learned that it's not about what others think of you so much as what you think of yourself.

To be honest, I don't really focus on what other people are thinking about me. I have a good idea of who I am and what I am about. As long as the people I deal with, or come into contact with me are not overtly rude or make dealing with them an unpleasant affair, then I don't really consider what their opinion is away from that. I generally am very polite and nice to people. If they judge me on anything else and decide they don't like me, then I really don't want them in my life.

Hey Wolfie I can relate to how you feel but then again I actually had a reason to feel that way but I have encouraged myself with positive thoughts. I concentrated on the things I'm good at and worked on ensuring I continued been good at those things. I tend not to think what people think of me anymore but present this confidence that they don't have time to think about my physical appearance. So what if they want to say bad things about me. How does that benefit them? I think you should start out by coaching yourself in the mornings before you go out by saying positive things about yourself to boost your confidence and tell yourself that people's comment shouldn't determine how you feel about yourself. No one can see you as a freak if you don't see yourself as one. There are times when yes you may not be in a good mood or you may think that you may not have dressed ok and you think that everyone who looks at you are saying negatives. These days will come but try not to let those kind of days become too often or else you are going to be bordering on the brink of paranoia. So in answering your question, No, you are not the only one who thinks people are passing negative remarks about you.

I used to feel that way when I was a teenager. I felt like I was so different than everyone else and that they were making fun of me and talking about me. I have out grown that many years ago. In my experience and what I have learned is that most people really dont even pay much attention to what someone else is doing. I think it is all about how you think about things. It is called cognitive thinking. Sometimes our thinking from child hood is not necessarily right. The key that I have learned is that you have to change the way you think about people, situations and most of all about yourself. Life is much too short to be thinking about negative things. Try this for me if you would when you start to think negative stop yourself in your tracks and think something postivie. When people look at you look at them straight in the eye and say hello and give them a smile then walk away with your head held high because you as a human being and there is no one in the whole world who is like you. You are a beautiful person! I have a friend who thinks people think negatively about her also and she is in a deep depression. I am there for her but in the end it is all up to her how she thinks and how she can change her way of thinking. I read many self help books and they helped me to realize that many things I thought are just what I have made them to be. I Hope this will help in some little way. Just know that you are no alone in feeling this way. Good Luck to you!

Why do I feel the need to jump through my screen and give you a hug? I used to be paranoid like this but I got better. I think you will too. One thing I learned is that the way we respond to peoples looks will influence what they may or may not think or say about us. For example if a stranger glances at you and see's a closed off expression - which often looks stern or grumpy - they will think that you are maybe not so nice, arogant, snobby, instead of realizing that you are just shy. Or if they catch your eye and you immediatly avert your gaze they may think that you are thinking nasty things about them... People are usually a lot more insecure about themselves than you think - even the ones that look like Ken and Barbie. One of the harder things I have learned to do is hold another persons gaze and smile.

Personally for me, I think it often just depends on the situation. There are many times when I think we all feel uncomfortable when we see others looking at us, especially if you have a default or something that is noticeable as well. But honestly most of the time people might be looking at you out of curiousity. You should just pretend to not notice and go on about your life, and everything will be OK.

Well...hmm..I used to; but I don't think I was wrong. ;) That changed when I started developing great love for myself. Don't you feel that when you think others are thinking the worst about you, it is actually you who are thinking the worst about yourself? We can't really know what others are thinking. They might be mulling over the insipid details of their own boring lives. :) Think of yourself as a unique and wonderful person and you won't feel that others "see you as a freak." Cheers and happy Mylotting

Hello wolfie. I have not noticed much of this, but if I do find someone talking about me, I would stop to join them for the conversation so that I know what they are exactly talking about. Of course if I don't have any doubt, I will just ignore them. Sometimes I can be aggressive when I feel offended by their talking bad against me.

The only thing I'd worry about is people thinking I'm dishonest. I'd hate anyone to think I was a liar or thief - apart from that, I'm too old to care! I gave up worrying about whether I was attractive many years ago, and I stopped being negative years ago, too. My family members were always telling me I was pessimistic, so I made a conscious effort to start seeing the good side of everything. It made a lot of difference, and now I find I'm able to have more empathy towards others because I'm not looking at the 'bad' in them anymore. I think if we have confidence in ourselves, we're more able to laugh off what others may or may not be thinking about us. (I think you look lovely!)

sometimes i do. i think im weird and ugly. people think the opposite. but idk i feel like their lying. idk.

yea ive done that before. like with teachers and tests