Do you like large or small families ???

large families that are close and know how to communicate. Then again I love my family and the way we are. We are smaller. Its only me and my brother. I do have 3 step sisters but we don't have anything to do with them. My brother and I are close and of course my mom and step dad. Then there are my aunts and uncles and cousins. I have 2 children and we were about to start trying for another one but found out my husbands hours have been cut which is why I will be spending more time on here now. Anyway I would of loved to have 4 children total but we were on the fence for the longest time about the third and was ready and then this happen. I want my kids to grow up and be close. The way my husbands family is 2 of them don't even live in the same state as the other 2. The only reason I know about things that go on with his brother who we would be closer to is b/c I talk to his wife over email all the time. His mother don't even really try to get in touch with us for somethings. Before I had kids we would have to hunt her down on holidaies to give her their gifts. Inlaws I can complain about them all day long and not be finished rofl.

I would likely have many many children. Thankfully I'm not married yet.

I think this is actually something that people should take quite seriously ( as in in general not referring to any comments as I've not read any yet!) There is a book called "They F*** You Up" by Oliver James about the psychology behind how children are affected by their parents decisions...such as having lone children or massive families. It is often found that if a couple have a large family (6 or more) the children as adults are more independant, are more inclined to live further away from the paternal home and further apart from their siblings, and have little or no contact with their parents than families with less than 6 children. That's not in all cases but is interesting nonetheless. I wanted 3 or 4 children but after having my 2 little boys have been diagnosed with kidney disease so I probably won't have any more because of the risks.

In old times,Chinese prefer to have a large family but now they can not have one due to the one-child policy which the goverment made in 1978,because the China has the largest population in the world.But now I prefer to have a large family,because I want to have a liveliness time with my family.However,I family has only three people father,mother and I.In holidays,we feel desolate due to the small family.So I want to have a large family.

In my opinion, small family is the best. We must optimalize our family by interaction and sharing with other family member. Because we have different way to think to other member. With that way we can close and closer with them. If one have problem, then sharing, so the other can help. But if done with large family i think it is more difficult than small family. Beside sharing and interaction, in small family, our (me and my family) feeling just like to be one, if one had a problem, so the other can feel it too. And small family actually can make family member to be closer, more responsible, more compact and more harmonic.

In my opinion, small family is the best. We must optimalize our family by interaction and sharing with other family member. Because we have different way to think to other member. With that way we can close and closer with them. If one have problem, then sharing, so the other can help. But if done with large family i think it is more difficult than small family. Beside sharing and interaction, in small family, our (me and my family) feeling just like to be one, if one had a problem, so the other can feel it too. And small family actually can make family member to be closer, more responsible, more compact and more harmonic.

I have 4 children and grew up in a family of 6 children, both of which are considered larger, but are not compared to the 9 and 10 of my parents!! I do think that a large family is so much more fun, but it is an individual choice and up to each family to decide what is best for them. Personally, as I was having mine, and bringing them up, I know that I should not have had 4, but I did and can hardly say that I would give any of them back, but things sometimes happen that you just don't think about at the time. Some are better with larger families and some should not have children at all and choose not to, and that is their choice. The good thing is that they know that and don't have children that they don't want.

Hello 3orabi! My parents both come from big families. My mom is the eldest of 6 siblings while my dad is the 5th of the 9 brood. I am the only child. Given those facts, I would definitely want a big family when I would have my own. I think that it would be fun as I see most of my cousins and friends who come from big families.

Preferrably i want small family. We are all 7 in the family including parents so i am wishing that i will be having less than that 5 is enough including parents to me. Small but it is not as hard to bring up the children compared to large. If you are planning to have large family you have stable income to support.

Well, then I come from a large American family. I'm the oldest of 7. I will admit that there have been times I hated being from a large family. (My dad liked to walk around with his chest puffed out quite a bit!LoL) but, in the end I think it was cool growing up with a lot of siblings. Now I have people looking at me like I have a rather large brood and I only have 3 children. And when I say that if I ever reach the grand total of 5 children before I'm 30, then I will have my tubes tied. People about have a heart attack that I wouldn't consider 5 children so large of a family. I guess it depends on your prospective really.

actually, it is in the way the children would turn out as adults that makes me say that since there would be more supervision in a small family then i'd go for small families. but, as i said, some children tend to forget about their parents when they grow old and this is one of the reasons why some parents opt for large families. as with the no. of children you plan i think it is still too big. my parents planned on having 3 and when that wasn't reached we turned out 5 kids! so, who knows, your 4 kids may turn out to be 6! just kidding!

In our country a couple could only have a son or daughter.If more it will go against the law. But I like large families, It will be very lively to have some children. The generation of my father there are 6 children in general. The population is too large now, so we can't have children more than two!

I dont like to have large families. If we have that kind we have more responsibilities to our families until to their older times. Its not easy to handle many things especially now a days that global crisis are felt to anyone so I will not agree on it. Small family is easy to handle and care than bigger ones .

I prefer small family and to me I would have 1 son and 1 daughter because I think the child in one chile family is very lonely.However,many children will put a strain on parents.

I like large families. I like many siblings although it is sometimes annoying to have many siblings it is still fun because there are many people who can talk to. Large families is like a community. But if I am the one who will be having a family of my own I want to have a small one maximun of four mininmun of two. Atleast you can guide your children while growing.

There are pros and cons to each, and I think it depends on the situation of each family as to whether they decide to have a small or large family. My partner and I have decided not to have any children, though in the future we may adopt or foster, depending on our circumstances. As long as there is love in a family, and an ability to support all members of the family equally, I don't think there is a 'better' size.

I grew up in an agricultural valley with four generations of family. As an American, being closely connected to my extended family had already become unusual. I felt loved, nurtured, and looked out for. Sadly, on a world wide basis we had 2 billion people cycling between malnourishment and starving where disease and suffering is the rule. So. Even if you are personally wealthy I do not think that you can ignore the health consequences of world wide over population. At most I recommend 2 children per couple. It seems that emotionally healthy people will grow and develop to their potential if the are part of a close knit community or "village." The bad thing about urban development is the loss of a close knit community. One small exception is the co-housing communities that are sparcely existing in parts of Europe and America. Most small towns in America of less than 1000 people are in trouble and their children move away... I hope this helps.

I have a big family now.I am part of a family of five children and I liked it just fine. Although I think that it is hard on parents to have that many children and give all them the attention that they need. I am not saying that people are bad parents. I guess it just makes kids be more independent. When or IF i have children i will have one or two tops. I do not want to have more than that at all.

I personally like a large family. One child a complete no no. My own family is a family of four. My grandfather had two other brothers and three sisters and my great grandfather had three other brothers. All lived in a joint family till almost the time I was born. So coming down to my generation we are a big family of cousins. And I love it that way.

You Arabs have a lot of money, so it's easy for you to feed a large family. 4 children is just a medium size family for you, I think. For me, if I have lots of money, I prefer to have two children.