I get frustrated

If ending a sentence with at is the worst he says, you have no worries. My favorite memory was walking into my daughter's Kindergarten classroom and seeing a sentence on the board using have when it needed has. This was a substitute teacher that wrote the sentence. I told the regular teacher the next day. She said the teachers write the way they talk. YIKES!

To be honest and quite frank, there are some parents out there that either do not have the time to spend with their children due to work, etc. And there are other parents that are point blank, lazy. They figure that the school will teach them the right way to talk, and other things like that.. Yes the media, and other influnces make it hard to keep a child from using slang words instead of proper english. As parents its our responiblity to correct those teachings.. True your child might say that so and so does it. Why can't I? You can just explain to him that you do not approve of it, that you would like his vocabulary to be proper.. A child will be expose to those kinds of situations throughout childhood, we just have to correct it.. Or turn the other cheek if we dont want to deal with it.. I am not trying to put anyone down, this is just how I see things.

You seem to be a perfectionist. But, you know what? You can't stop the world from influencing your son. Am sure all you want is what's best for your son but, in the end, it will all be his own choice. There is no other way but to let him be. Correct if you should but don't push things to him. You can't devote your time looking after him anyway so no matter what you do, he'll simply learn incorrect grammar somewhere. Take it easy.

You better get strong LOL. Yes, I understand where you are coming from, it is very confusing to bring up children. I was just about to add ‘in our times’, but I guess it has always been difficult. What I try to focus on with my two boys, 13 and 14, are core values. The one at the top is definitely ‘respect’, for one self and for others. That gives me and them a kind of a compas, something that helps me decide what to say to them in x’situation. It at least channels my thoughts, and together we can measure a situation or somebody’s elses behaviour along that ruler. If I may give you some advice, don’t worry about the small things, like grammar. You gonna be totally worn out soon if yo do so. Focus on the fundamental things, I believe the rest will take care of itself.

In this modern sociey it is said to be that the parents are good teachers for their children. Every parent will behave like a good teacher for their own children. The parents will teach their children explaing the good and bad things.

Does your child know how to speak correctly? Is he or she just using slang terms? I've noticed that my kids use slang such as "where you at", even though they know that it should be "where are you". My point is perhaps there is really not a problem. He or she may just be using slang terms.

I feel the same way too. what is harder for me is that I am a working mom so I don't really get to spend that much time with my kids. Its not only about the language but about proper manners, politeness, honesty and all the other virtues that I would like my kids to learn. It's true that we can never truly protect our kdis from these influences, we can just limit their exposure to these things and try to correct any wrong habits that they may have picked up. Good news is that they are still kids, you can still correct them. What is hard is when they have already grown up and they no longer listen to you.

I know what you mean about the grammar thing. My parents didn't like bad grammar and if we used it we were corrected. After a while I guess we just learned how annoying it was when people would intentionally speak like that. I don't expect perfect grammar all the time, I mean I know almost everyone uses some form of slang once in a while, but when kids or adults do that intentionally because they think it's cool or whatever the reason, it's very annoying to me. I think the other things you mentioned about kids not being reprimanded for bad behavior and fighting and disrespecting others is a lot worse than the grammar thing. I guess all you can do is correct your son's grammar when he does things like that around you and keep teaching him to respect himself and others, he will know the difference between right and wrong. But like you said you can't be with him every minute and there are probably going to be some lessons he learns on his own, but hopefully he will talk to you and come to you for advice if he's in a situation where he isn't sure what to do.

Just about the only thing that you can do is to correct it when he says things that are incorrect. Explaining to him that some people say things that they shouldn't, and act in ways that aren't okay might help him understand. People become okay with incorrect language because it's such a common thing. It's very rare that you see people speaking completely correctly, and so the general public begins to all fall into the same wrong habits.

I dunno. Doesn't it make you want to slap people when their grammar is so bad. My son learned to speak complete sentences at 2 years of age, primarilly he learned how to read by following along with the closed caption option on our television. I guess you could correct the next person who mumbles their words by asking them what they said, hopefully your son will learn from you more than anybody else.

I can understand what you mean as most parents have the same frustration.Just keep reminding him gently of the right way to say these words.When he gets older just let him know in your ear shot and that of other members of his family and teachers,he must use proper grammer.When he is with his friends he will have to fit in and you cannot follow him around night and day.You won't be a wreck as by that time he will have learnt how to survive in his world,remember that not your world.It is a hard lesson to have to learn it is the world he is growing up in,feel very sorry for you,been through it my self three times so good luck.