Strangers in your friends list.
By sharksfin
@sharksfin (1091)
Philippines
June 9, 2009 4:03am CST
Do you think it is just ok to invite someone you know but doesn't know you to be in your friends list in FB or any other social networking site? If it's the other way around, say, you're the one being invited by someone you don't know, would you accept their request?
There are people I know (through some acquaintances or close friends) but don't know me and when I find them in FB or FS or Multiply, I get to have this desire to invite them to be in my friends list but I keep reminding myself that they don't know me and that they might just reject my request. Not that am scared of rejection but I am considering if this is even ethical. Cause, usually, when someone I don't know invites me, I tend to ignore the invite because I don't the person to have anything to do with my page. Of course, am not saying this is right, that's why I need anyone's opinion on this.
Hoping for more comments.
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3 responses
@pingi68 (304)
• Italy
9 Jun 09
i have accepted lots of invitation from people that i don't know.
i think it is a good way to meet other people.
if then i dont' like this person, i can always block him...
and i also send invitation to people that i don't know, and lots of them
accepted without any problems.
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@Rollo1 (16679)
• Boston, Massachusetts
9 Jun 09
I was wondering what you meant by knowing someone who doesn't know you. I guess you mean that you have heard of them through other friends. That really isn't knowing them, it's more being acquainted with someone they know.
I guess it depends on your definition of friend. As you said, they might reject a friend request from you, since they don't know you. Here's how you can break that ice though.
First, on your Facebook settings, choose to have your info, wall and profile available to "Friends of friends". Then be sure to comment often on your friends' pictures, status messages and links. They will see the comments on their feed and if they want to know more about you, they can look at your profile. Another thing you can do is to ask your friends to tell their friends about you, and they may suggest adding you to their friends list.
For some people, garnering a huge amount of friends on Facebook is a goal, others like to use it for just keeping up with people. Not everyone is going to be open to adding people they know only slightly, but some will. Try to be as engaged as possible on your friends' pages and people will get to know and like you, and then you can ask to be added.
@sharksfin (1091)
• Philippines
9 Jun 09
Thank you for your advice. I really want to add someone who happens to be a friend of my sis. This guy is a huge crush of mine in Church. He's the lead vocal of the worship team. He's a close friend of my sister's friend and he's actually friends with my sister. Just, I don't want to like invite him and tell him am sister of blah blah...can I add you to my list?
@thumbd (71)
• China
9 Jun 09
hey sharksfin
For my part I think that would ok. I accept their request most of the time. Although I don't know the people who I invited or someone invite me, but we're in the list now, we could know each other beter from the "discussions my friends started" part.