Confusion in love feelings
By michelegml
@michelegml (55)
Malaysia
June 9, 2009 8:27am CST
Have you ever felt like at times you think you love someone yet you are also confused if the person is the right one for you. And how do you know it is love and not lust or mainly more for companionship when you are lonely or something. How do we gauge what we feel inside that it is actually love or just purely confusion of the heart. Can anyone advice on this?
5 responses
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
no one can tell if he/she is the right one for you unless if you'll have a romantic relationship. there is no such thing as "right one." it's only a matter of making things right for the both of you at a very right moment... :) it's lust when you're only after of physical attraction.
@michelegml (55)
• Malaysia
12 Jun 09
Yeah but also the question is what is the right moment and right situation to do so. Sometimes it could backfire and still nothing comes out of it.
@x_Jo_x (1040)
•
9 Jun 09
Absolutelty! I have felt like that quite a lot. I think after a while, you just kinda know. Like when you really feel like you HAVE to be with that person. When you think of little stupid things they do, and it makes you smile. And when you know all their little discusting bad habbits and still want to be with them no matter what, that is love. When you can accept someone for the good and for the bad and your feelings for them never change that is love. In my oppinion =)others might think differently. What are your views?
@michelegml (55)
• Malaysia
12 Jun 09
Yes I agree but even if you do love that person the question is whether the person feels the same or not and that is what is stressful too.
@mkchaves (530)
• Canada
9 Jun 09
hmmm.. when its just lust well, i think it will just pass by. I dont know. haven't had that kind of feeling before but the feeling of thinking if ur loving the person, every people have gone through that i guess. hehe.. if its lust it will just pass by, he/she is not really that important to you and u're not that interested in her/him. but if it involves feelings, you tend to spend more time in knowing the person, getting to know his/her interests, talk a lot about him/her, u miss the person, you may want to be with him/her all the time. things like that. I think. hehe
@michelegml (55)
• Malaysia
12 Jun 09
sometimes the question is that is it healthy to spend more time and then realise the other person loves you but dont have that kind of wants and needs to yours?
@tatiana07 (497)
• Philippines
9 Jun 09
you just know if the person is really the ONE for you..you can feel it in your heart..if you don't have doubts with him/her,you trust him/her our life and you can see yourself growing old with that person then he/she's really the ONE
happy mylotting
@michelegml (55)
• Malaysia
9 Jun 09
Still something touch to decide unfortunately...If only it was that easy to have that kind of hunch straight away but then it can also be something we might have missed out cos we were blinded by the fact that everything is good and ok.
@vanilla_28 (176)
• Malta
9 Jun 09
I guess that only time can tell. If it is just physical attraction or luswt it will disappear in a few weeks times. On the other handk, by spending time together and sharing feelings, opinions, interests, friends you'll get to know more the person and understand better yourself. If you find yourself missing this person, or mentioning his name with your friends when he's not present, there could be more than just lust.
@michelegml (55)
• Malaysia
9 Jun 09
Well I guess if you spent some time with a person you start to develop the feeling of care but then again still create some confusion as to whether is this what I want and do I really love him in that way? Tough decision sometimes to make.
