Still looking for new friends?
By bamakelly
@bamakelly (5191)
United States
June 9, 2009 3:53pm CST
I have a question pertaining to how you decide if you are going to look for new friends.
Do you ever have friends that have been there for a while but then you decide that it is time for some new ones?
Would you ever ditch the old ones for new ones or are you a loyal person that keeps all friends all the time.
I enjoy making new friends here and there and I don't want to forget about the old ones.
I have a way of moving around a lot and can't keep certain friends for long stretches of time.
However wherever I land up I anticipate making more friends and trying to make them last for a long time.
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21 responses
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
9 Jun 09
I wouldn't ditch somebody unless they did something nasty to me. But people do tend to drift apart and it depends on how much of an effort the other person is making. If it's a one sided effort, eventually you get tired of working so hard and start talking to somebody who responds back.
@GardenGerty (160978)
• United States
10 Jun 09
I often have to remind myself that if people are not keeping in touch it is because my friendship is not that important. I have a pretty easy time turning loose of them. If my old friends cannot find me, well, I did not move, they have my contact info.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
9 Jun 09
MOVING around makes it hard i'm sure. I want to keep all the friends i have. I HAVE LIVED IN THE SAME TOWN SO LONG , most of my life that i have friends i had in school a hundred years ago[em]rolleyes[/em. I enjoy making new friends but don't have the opportunity like i use to since i don't work anymore & don't see many people. I AM A VERY LOYAL FRIEND EVEN HERE ON MYLOT. i don't think u can ever have too many friends.
@gunagohan (3414)
• India
10 Jun 09
i have had enough friends, but they have forgot me, when they got their new friends, especially the girls...i just wanna leave those girls and get into new dimension of life by doing some good projects with my engineering know;edge..why should i waste time with those people...so i wanna find new friends and unite with them and to do things innovative..
happyu to respond..
happy mylotting
@lovenish00111 (93)
• India
11 Jun 09
Great comment brother. Indian engineers can take such step to waste time over girls. Because they undertand that making girl friend is easy instead of doing hard study especially when u have to do it by completely yourself without any teacher.
The all indian teachers i got are very very useless , i have them and wanna dump them to the worst place on earth.
@lovenish00111 (93)
• India
9 Jun 09
I am from india . Male and an electronics and instrumentation student. If girl wannabe my friend then message me. Meeting will be upon her wish but i need girl friend. Plz some good girl donate me her friendship. Otherwise i will be having direct wife after finishing studY. i have not yet enjoyed the life with any girl friend.
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@jedopi (401)
• Canada
9 Jun 09
We can be friends if you can answer a simple question for me. How do you change your profile picture? No one that I have asked so far is willing to tell me. Could you please help, I'm very new at this. I just started today. Thanks.
@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
10 Jun 09
I would be happy to answer your question the best that I can and I would like to be your friend. However I do not want to go off topic with this. I posted a question that has to do with keeping friends or letting old ones go.
I will send you a friend request and we can private message each other.
It is pretty easy to change your avatar.
Take care and I will speak to you soon.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
1 Jul 09
I don't decide it's time for new friends and go and ditch my old ones. I make new friends, sometimes it works out and sometimes it doesn't. The old friends and I either keep in touch or we don't. The one is totally separate from the other.
@calyxus (825)
• Philippines
10 Jun 09
As we go along with life each new day, we get to meet new people - some become our new friends, some just pass by our life.
As for me, I don't care how many people come to my life or how many new friends I get to have.
What's important for me is the real friends that I had that I had tested their real value to me. There's a saying that goes:
A new broom will sweep clean, but only the old brush knows the corners.
@Anora_Eldorath (6028)
• United States
1 Jul 09
Kelly-
I can't say I go looking for new friends, as much as I allow them to form as they occur. I also have spent the last two years learning really working with the fact that friendships are only there for a set time, though I understand we would all love for all friendships to last life times. It is difficult to learn to let friends go who are ready to move on, but it's something I've been allowing to occur over the last few years. It has made way for new friendships though, simply by being who I am.
I think that is the other key to friendships. I also think the key to friendships is not being jealous of the other friends a friend may have. I've experienced it myself in which one friend would become jealous over the relationship I had with another, and that isn't healthy at all. It leads to a great many hurt feelings, and it puts the friend of both in the middle.
I also don't think any of us truly forgets old friendships, but I don't think we should live in the past. I've seen people get so stuck trying to live in the past by always speaking about their old friends, what they did, didn't do, and some to the point of obsession that it clouds their growth to the point they miss opportunity for growth themselves. A healthy respect for the past is one thing, just don't allow one to linger in the past for too long that one misses golden friendships of the present moment.
Namaste-Anora
@anggareds (96)
• Indonesia
10 Jun 09
Yes, i never tired looking for a new friend. I really need more and more friends in my life, it is not enough that you have 10, 100, or 1000 friends. But if you have a lot of friends dont forget to stay care of your friends by saying hello almost everyday, and wish the best at their birthday
@cassaleo (32)
• United States
10 Jun 09
I am always looking for new friends but have the darndest time finding them. For some reason people just will not approach me. I would love to have new friends that I could chat with on the phone from time to time. People I meet are either in other countries or are just plain weird. I am quirky and like to have fun. I like to joke and just be a crazy at times. I am really silly. I have a few friends from the past but everyone is all caught up in their own lives to care. I look at it like this if I can get a friend out of each activity that I do then, I think I have it made! So who wants to be my new friend LOL?
@hi2rashid (153)
• India
10 Jun 09
yeah i am searching for some true friends. i hav some friends but still not enough
@GardenGerty (160978)
• United States
10 Jun 09
I am firmly planted in one spot, but I do seem to make new friends. None that I ditch the old ones for, though. I just find myself in different places from time to time.
@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
10 Jun 09
I have many acquaintances who come and go in my life. When I make a real good friend then I try and keep them for years as really good and true friends are worth holding on too. A friend of mine came to visit me for a week from Germany and we have been close friends for over 40 years.
@leyisa (486)
• Canada
10 Jun 09
Hi Bamakelly - I think you can never have too many friends...I'm a very loyal person so when I find new friends, I still make sure that I make time for the old ones...Sometimes I try to incorporate them together but at times it's best to keep them separate...The more friends, the better :)
@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
10 Jun 09
I don't think you have to ditch your old friends just because you have new found friends. The more friends you have the better. It is nice to know the differences of each of them and how you are going to adjust to each other. That makes life even more exciting.
@deepzholic (256)
• India
10 Jun 09
hi
who doesn't like to make new friends......we make new friends at ever stage of our life.....in school we have a different st of friends in college different group and a different group at work place.....yes we also share a different relationship all this different groups......for me a true friend is one who remember his old friends.....and does not forget them when he makes new ones.......i never forget my friend...i am still in touch with my school friend and whenever i great chance i try to meet them......social networking sit such as orkut and face book has given me a chance to be in touch with these friend whom i can;t meet because of some reason but i still talk to them.......