Get scolded for the same reason.....
By harshrosicky
@harshrosicky (626)
India
June 10, 2009 3:45pm CST
I am 18 now.........though i never liked this.......my mother hugging me.......yeah she is my mother and i love her but why do i need to hug.....it so.....bad......but she starts the crap....and gives a big family lecture..........
What do i do? should i give into it?
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13 responses
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
10 Jun 09
yes!!!!!!!!!!! u should hug her every day, one of these days you will wish u could.
@vinslounge (1295)
• India
11 Jun 09
Yes, Hugging is one of the most important signs of gesture. Hugging not only expresses love and affection but it also installs confidence and strength in One's mind and body. For example, if you are in fear and distress and if someone HUGS you tight and says soothing word, at an instant you could find and feel the difference. You will be oozing with confidence and will be strong enough to achieve your goals and success. Hence it is absolutely necessary that you hug some person. It is one of the most beautiful gestures that have been developed by the human society. Moreover, Hugging spreads a message of peace and harmony among people. You can literally experience a different kind of society and people if you see people when they start hugging each other. Happy huggings and let it spread across the globe.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
11 Jun 09
VERY WELL STATED. T hat was such a sweet response. i bet u are a hugger, I WILL take all the hugs i can get. THANKS FOR YOUR RESPONSE & KEEP SPREADING THOSE HUGS. H ave a happy day.
@yuvaraj_chowdry (39)
• United States
12 Jun 09
i accept with vinslounge . hugging is a universal language to show or express our love to their beloved ones . so do hug and accept all the hugs from ur friends . spread the hugging habitat ...
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@daliaj (5674)
• India
11 Jun 09
I am sorry to say that I have a different opinion. I have expected a hug from my mom a lot of times, I was so worried and badly in need of a hug from my mom... many times, but I never got it. I would love to get a hug from my mom and I think age doesn't matter for a kid to get hug from mom.
This is my personal opinon. I am sorry if it hurts you.
@harshrosicky (626)
• India
12 Jun 09
My mate never be sorry to give your honest opinion in my discussions.........its a pleasure when people express their true feelings like you did.....amd i am sorry....
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
11 Jun 09
Well I might be OK with the hug part (I myself intend to hug my son in front of my grandkids, one day) but I don’t like the lecture type either…on this I am with you…and at 18 OMG if ever mom started that with me, I wish I had a jet pack on my back to woooooooooooooosh away as fast as I could! But seriously, you can try talking to her, calming her nerves (after all, as a mother she has every right to worry about you) but I doubt she would listen…all mothers are like that…so the best would be to just be polite and ignore her…nod your head, say yes but decide what is best for you.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
11 Jun 09
I'm a hugger and a mom so I get where your mom is coming from. We never stop loving hugs from our kids no matter how old they are. I bet if you just took a moment and gave her a big hug....it'd make her day....maybe even a few days. It would be even better if you took upon yourself to give her a big hug now and then without her being the one going for it. One of my girls really is not into the hugging either so I don't push it (often,anyway) Once in a while she just hugs me for no reason and unexpectedly....makes me all warm and cozy.
@Jimeous (858)
• New Zealand
11 Jun 09
Whether you are 8, 18 or 80, there are some people that don't like being hugged by thier parents however that doesn't really mean that it is something that is doing them harm.
Since you're expecting your Mum to hug you, and now that you are an "adult", I think you should just accept it as part of whom she is. I mean it's not as if she'll be around you once you're on your own.
What would be really sad is if you came back here a few years later and posted something like...
My mom used to hug me all the time but now she's stopped
Sometimes we have to tolerate the "olds" since they are so ancient...
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
10 Jun 09
I'm a hugger and will never understand people not being comfortable hugging their own flesh and blood especially the person that gave you life. I can definitely understand strangers but family what gives??
@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
10 Jun 09
Simpily put some people just aren't huggers. Me included. Does that make me a bad person just because I don't hardly hug my mother. No it doesn't.
@imsilver (1665)
• Canada
10 Jun 09
Everyone is different. You should think about it hard and try to figure out exactly where the issue is and then TALK to your mom about it.. calmly and rationally. Hopefully you can get her to see where your coming from. Maybe you two can come up with another form of expression love. Like, for example, and old actress (Carrol Burnett), would tug on her earlobe during her shows and that was an "I love you" signal for her mom. Find something that BOTH of you are comfortable with.
@meiyeec511 (405)
• Malaysia
11 Jun 09
I'm a Chinese, we do not have hug habit. I'm not sure the feel.
But what's in my mind is that's your mother, it's good for her to hug you. May be this is the way to keep closer between you and your mother.
No matter how old are you, you are still a child in your mother's eyes. She will treat your as a child forever.
@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
10 Jun 09
Oh I know the feeling. I have never been the huggie huggie person and sorry to say I never will be. My fiance is the same way. Of course we hug eachother but with our moms it's totally different. Both our moms are the same way so I just make a joke out of it that if you guys love hugging so much you can hug eachother. They always get a hug out of us on most occasions like Christmas. But otherwise there is no hugging involved with the two of us with our moms. I really don't understand why moms are like this nevermind that my moms whole family is like that. With having a back injury and having them hug me and touch my back just doesn't fly with me. So no huggies for them either. I usually sneak around that part. My dad and my fiances dad are exactly alike. They don't do the hug maybe once every 5 years.
@maezee (41988)
• United States
11 Jun 09
I'm not really a touchy-feely person, but YES! Mothers are like that; they are usually really affectionate - and it hurts their feelings if you try to deny them hugs & whatnot. Just do it.
I think you should just go along with it to make your mom happy. I mean, you NEVER get too old to hug your mom, do you? Your mother is always going to be your mother - and if it makes her happy to give you a hug every now and then, can't you just pretend like you enjoy it? Just for her sake?
@Anora_Eldorath (6028)
• United States
11 Jun 09
Harsh-
You give in and hug your mom. One day she won't be around to hug you, you'll still be going, and it will be those moments that you'll remember fondly. And your mom will always lecture you as long as she's alive. It's part of being a mom. We don't think of it as lecturing, but giving our children advise on how to suceed in the world around them, but I'm sure we all took it as a lecture too when we were children. It's funny, once you become a parent you say to yourself "Always a parent, always a child". That's the cycle, unless one does not have children then they never become a parent, but you're always someone's child. Take heart and know her hugs are her way of letting you know she loves you very much and wants the very best for you.
Namaste-Anora
@cainam (493)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
you're lucky that you have an affectionate mother. i was never been hugged by my mother evr since i could remember or even an "i love you" was never said by her. i don't want to be hugged now coz i'm not used to it but if i we're, why not. maybe you'll just realize how you're mother feel when you're already a perent like her.. parents usually do'nt like their children to grow up because they don't want to lose their little boy/girl.. maybe you can just tell your mother that don't hug you in public. she may understand you if you'll explain politely.
@xoxcharityxox (567)
• United States
10 Jun 09
I don't like people being overaffectionate with me either. My mom is the same way. I just try to keep my distance and ignore it if she gets a hug or an i love you in. I know it's not her flaw, it's mine. I can't express emotion with family very well. Try to figure out why it bothers you and if there's anything you can do to fix the issue.
