You have a chance to invite someone...

The chances of them finding that particular discussion is pretty slim to nil. Especially since, according to your post count, you look pretty active here. I'm sure that discussion is underneath many other discussions, and as you might remember..Being new at myLot - it's actually REALLY hard to navigate! And it's also really exciting, too, and the last thing you're doing is going through your referrers' started discussions. I think you should invite them, and not even worry about it. Another possibility is that they won't even be active enough here or care enough to bother trying to dig around. I referred my sister recently, and she has all of about 18 posts from the last 2 months or so - and of course I've written my share of rants about her. I'm sure it will be just fine.

It's not that much money.... If it were substantial, then there would be a dilemma. Otherwise, no I would not invite them.... To much potential for hurt feelings..

i wouldn't want to invite a person to be my referral if i have bad mouthed him/her before here... why would i??? the fact that i bad mouthed the person means that i don't like the person... and if it so, why would i want him/her to be my referral??? so even though he/she has lots of potential to earn money and do well here, i won't invite him/her to be my referral unless if he/she can find out about this site himself/herself and join on his/her own... take care and have a nice day...

Oh that's easy. Anybody I would invite here isn't somebody I'd be badmouthing. On the other hand, I'm not inviting the husband here. But he knows I've talked about personal things here and he doesn't want to see them anyway.

Okay, I would go ahead and invite them. Firstly ask yourself this, have you ever looked on myLot to see if anyone had ever said anything about you. If the answer is no then there is a good chance that this person won't either. I know I certainly haven't gone looking to see what is said about me, couldn't give a monkeys to be honest. Also ask yourself this, as you know this person are they the inquisitive sort who would go nosing about. Also how long ago did you say these bad things about them, the longer ago it is the less likely they will discover it whilst general browsing. And if the worse comes to the worse and they do discover it, just apoloise and say that those things were said a long time ago and have no relevance to how you feel this days.

Is it brutally obvious that you were talking about them? If not tell a white lie that is was about someone else if it ever comes up. How many discussions - 1, 2, 50? If it's only a few maybe go back, dig them up and shoot Mylot an email asking to delete them. But if it's very obviously about them and they are not deletable then if it were me I probably wouldn't invite them. I wont even put my referral link on my blog because I don't want anyone following me here, and I rarely say anything about anyone! I just like to have the freedom to say whatever I want. I learned my lesson with my blog, I let too many people find out about it and now I feel totally censored.

I guess it would depend on how long ago i wrote the discussions. Chances are it wouldn't come up. unless she would decide to go back through all my discussions and answer them. I guess it depends how good of a friend it is. I probably would risk it. especially if they could use the money.

I'd probably recommend another site. Better that than hurt feelings. Chances are good that the person will look to answer your discussions 1st.

How come you want to add them then if you don't like them? You could delete the comments you've made if its possible, but i wouldn't risk that they don't come across the discussions because things like that always come back to haunt you. If this person needs the money badly they would be better off doing more hours at work because mylot isn't a quick way to make money unless you spend 24/7 on it.

No, let them join somewhere elae. i would not take the chance of then reading old posts. and then, who knows? You may want to vent again against that person in the anonymity of Mylot. I definitely wouold not take this risk

Well, for me, I will not invite the person here if I had badmouthed him/her in the past. As you mentioned, there's the risk that he/she may uncover the previous discussion where you actually badmouth him/her. I don't think it's good that the friendship is hurt because of this. Especially when it's a personal friend, I don't think you want him / her to be mad at you... However, if you have the courage to tell your friend beforehand that you had previously badmouth him/her in your past discussion, and why you did that, and ask for their forgiveness before getting them to join, that's another matter... Well, I don't have the courage to do so if it's me though.

I would get them to be my referall because if I badmouthy somebody I always tell them, and I will give them my reasons as to why I felt I had to bad mouth them. I will apologise if its needed but if it isnt needed then I will not. Im quite a harsh person butr honest so people know what to expect form me.

Ive sort of got that. My friend was trying to set me up with her friend and ive mentioned it on here and now i cant refere him incase he see's it! Also, ive complained about someone who only says one word responses on msn, so i cant invite her. I try not to name people, that way you always have a slight chance of saying "Its about someone else!!" although if it is something very specific that they KNOW is about them then you have no chance! I really think we should be able to delete things on here. What is the reason why we cant? Because mylot pays us for it, then we would be deleting it after we have been paid? Anyway, i think i probably wouldnt refere them to here. But maybe find out about some other sites and recommend those, so i am still doing a good deed but not losing a friend in the process =)