how to forget the man you love?

Go read the book "He's Just Not That Into You". A friend bought it for me once, when I was having man troubles. I really liked this guy - we had great chemistry, always had a good time when were together, and he was VERY sweet, caring, involved with my kids, gentlemanly. But then he'd go weeks without talking to me, and then booty-call me or drunk text me late at night. Found out that when he would go weeks without talking to me, he was with other girls. I opened the book, read the first sentence and immediately started bawling, 'cause they TOTALLY described our crappy relationship. GET THE BOOK!

I think that in order for you to forget him the first thing you need to do is think about thaat bad headache that he is causing you and then think about it like this , Is he worth you hurting over? Is he hurting right now? Think about how much happier that you will be when you get the cheater out of you system. Find time for friend or busy yourself so it won't be on your mind so much.

I think what most people do is to find another and love that person a whole lot more until they discover these people also have faults like being a cheater. This goes on for a while until they realize there is something wrong with them and they begin to learn about their choices and why they make them. Cheers!!

I kow everyone says hey move on blah blah blah but its harder done than said. Im in the same situtaion you are in right now. seeing as my situation is a little different considering i do have a child with him but heres the thing that i do, When he calls i dont answer, when i see him i dont speek i jsut keep doing whatever it is that im doing. i intertain myself with things i like doing hangin out with my friends playing with my children and focusing on them and them only. Im not real close with my family so i dont talk to them alot but spend time with people you like and make new friends thats always good. Its hard not to answer the phone when he calls but in order for me to move on the contact with him has to be cut off and when he leaves a message to ask about our son i'll call his mother and let her know and she can tell him LOL sounds mean and rude to do but its just something that has to be done. Its not as easy as a lot of people make it out to be because its HARD to do but you can do it if you want to do it but the thing is that you have to WANT to do it in order to actually do this type of thing.

Hello april_02 , first heart ache I think is a crushing blow to the ego. The only way I have ever gotten over someone was to take time to feel what I was feeling at the moment because the feeling change from sad to anger rather quickly. Letting go is always difficult without going through the steps of acknowlege, acceptance and action. I know I wanted to take action as fast as I could without accepting the hurt I was feeling. I had to learn the hard way. I gave myself a year on a half to even start thinking about dating someone else after my mariage ended. Not eveyone needs that long of a time but I had to do what was best for myself.I realized I lived 20 years without him and I could do it again. I rarely think about my ex-husband, he is not relevant in my life anymore. It has been over 10 years since I had any contact with him. I do not need him and his drama in my life. Take care of yourself first.

Stop loving him, his is not worth your love! You should be strong to forget him, you can do that if you will! It won't be easy to forget him but you have to or else you'll get hurt even more if you continue loving him while he cheats on you. Sometimes so much love can destroy us when the person we are loving is not loving us. I've been in your situation before and what I did is to find ways to enjoy and entertain myself, find ways to improve my skills, indulge into sports and make new friends. Most importantly, spend more time to your family and give importance to their care and love for you. Focus on your family, your career and to yourself. Let time heal that stupid love and move on!