What would you do when the one you love doesn't love you back?

Philippines
June 12, 2009 11:51am CST
I think i'm in love with this guy (my officemate). But unfortunately, I know that He loves/ likes my other officemate. They are very close to each other , although my girl officemate have a boyfriend.. I am trying to give signs to this guy that I like him, but he doesn't respond positively.. Sometimes he would be sweet to me and sometimes not.. But I have noticed something.. I think that he is awkward when i am present in the scene.. He teases me differently in the office.. What does his actions mean. Is there no chance that he will like me in the future? What will I do?But everyone in the office feels that this guy likes my girl officemate very much...
8 responses
• Malta
12 Jun 09
Well, if you really fancy this guy I suggest that you clearly listen to what he wants. Does he really like you or wants to be with you? Maybe you can ask him directly to get to know the answer, instead of building up castles in the sky. At least you would not have the remorse of never asking him out. However, you will need to be prepared for rejection. Although it's very hard you will realize that in the long run, you two may have not meant to be with each other.
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@ghazwan (32)
• Australia
13 Jun 09
your are wasting your love and your respect and time for loving this guy because he loves other girle and this girle loves other guy,and your guy knows that, so he is desperet and will do any thing to make her love him even using you to make her jelous and to tell her that he can get another girl, but inside he still love her, and the only person who will be hurt is you.So make your decision and leave him and continue with your life till you find the one who will love as you love him.
@emmanola (482)
13 Jun 09
I feel the guy is only doing the normal thing by concentrating on the person he likes better. I feel some women may become jealous easily if they perceive that their "man" is giving (undue) attention to another woman. The guy may be aware of this pitfall and playing his card well. Moreover, office romance is "romantically dangerous" if not well handled. Some employer will never condone it and I suggest that you tread cautiously. It seems it's better for you to look elsewhere for your own man. The reason is simple, if you're able to finally get the guy to accept you, it's going to create enmity between you and the gal he likes presently and between the gal and you. The ground you are treading on is a slipery one indeed! It takes two to tango is a popular saying. I feel true love is a win-win give and take situation. Love is sweet and lovely to be shared. However, if you want to give out love and the one you want to give to is not willing to receive it, then there is a fundamental problem that should be tackled first.
@renlay (36)
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
I hate the part that he shows me that he likes me but he doesn't really. That really sucks. Anyways, if it doesn't really work between you and him, well, try to move on instead.:)
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
It hurts when the one you love ignore your feelings. I been through the same feeling and it is really painful. Add to the pain is that he is attracted to others. You got jealous most of the time. You must get over your feelings towards him if you don't want to get hurt more everyday.
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
if a guy loves you... he'll stay. he won't do such things that could possibly turn you down and there is no way that he wouldn't find ways in order to be with you. however, if he does not love you then it would be the other way around or he may show nice actions to you but he's only after of your friendship. think about it. :)
• India
12 Jun 09
First of all , whether you are determined with your love with that guy. He loves someone but you loves him. If that guy treat you indifferently then he is loving the other and for her,he is teasing you and make you a fun doll. Don't ever give up and also don't speak harsh. Speak politely and gently ,so that he can't reply your speech.(Gentle opposing).This is from your side. Slowly and steadily, you have to create your thought in him. Don't care about the other girl. You have to be bold and prove that you are better than any other girl. If you can prove that, not only him also everyone will like you. Then he is not at all a matter. He will turn up to you. Then you can gently propose your love to him. Note: At any time, don't get angry at that guy and the girl. You always has to be gentle and confident . Every men loves that!
@luna198 (96)
• China
13 Jun 09
Just do it,love is a bright and beautiful thing,let him know,let yourself know,don't just think ,fantasy~Only you do it,you can know the results~Wish you have a wonderful love~