when is enough, enough?
@luntian_grace (1373)
Philippines
June 12, 2009 11:53am CST
every day peoples ask favors. sometimes people like a best friend, sister, brother or a neighbor borrow something to you. everyday you feel like everybody is always needing your help that to the extent that it affect your daily activities. what are you going to do? are you going to say no to them? hide if they are looking for you?
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5 responses
@Davidarich (985)
• Australia
13 Jun 09
Enough is never enough if you can do someone a good turn! What a fantastic opportunity a favour represents. Never say "never".
@luntian_grace (1373)
• Philippines
14 Jun 09
i do that but sometimes it just too much. they want me to everything though i think that they can do it themselves. i have a life too, and sometimes i need to drop off the things i need to do to do theirs. i want to help but not like that, that i do everything for them.
@alvingb (265)
• Singapore
12 Jun 09
hi there good day to you. I totally understand how you feel i have been through the same thing you are going through infact sometimes i still do. Well intially i started helping them out but it came to a point i started realising that they are taking advantage of me actually. it was then i started thinking who really needed my help and who actually do not need my help but are actually lazy and just want me to do all their work for them. Well it was then i had to say no to those whom i feel do not really need my help. It was a hard thing to do to just tell them out rightly. Well but i guess sometimes we just have to do it because we want to make people know that we are not who they thinking they can take advantage of. Well after acutally telling a few of them off i actually started getting better. People started realsing the true me and infact started respecting me for who i am and the lazy ones actually started working do things by themselves independantly. Infact this has a dual way effect by telling them off we are actually making them work for themselves which is actaully good for them. Anyway have a great day, and happy mylotting.
best regards,
alvingb
@luntian_grace (1373)
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
you could say that they are taking advantage. i just don't know how to say "no" yet. may be i should practice in the mirror... do you think it will help?
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
12 Jun 09
There's always a limit to things and ple.. It all depends on how far u wanna help them ^_^ It's never easy to say no, when we have always been helping ple right from the start..
And once we start, we tend to feel guilty for not helping even we have the resources and power to do so.. That's why, there are some ple whom always take advantage and exploit us upon this point..
So, if u think it's affecting your daily life, then ignore them.. Because when u cant even handle your daily life well, then how are u gonna be able to help them?? Just think, what happens if u make things worst instead of better, when u really cant afford to help them much, and yet u agree..
This alone, should teach u how to say, NO ^_^
@luntian_grace (1373)
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
yo kun thank you for the word of wisdom. i think that may be i should draw some lines. there are a lot of things that i want to do but i can't if they are always at my back. i want to help but sometimes it's just too much. even superman has a justice league so that they can all save the world and not just him. how much more a mere human like me. i need a league too you know.
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@wolveren (1586)
• Cebu, Philippines
14 Jun 09
There was a point in my life when I tried to help everyone anyway I can. I later on found out at a very young age that in this human state that we are all in. It is totally impossible to please everyone without jeopardizing you own personal life. Even superman couldn't be in all places at one time. Sometimes we have to say no. cheers!
@clutterbug (1051)
• United States
12 Jun 09
Hi luntian, I have been in your position. Sometimes I have told people that I need time to fill up my earthen vessel before I can give help again. By "earthen vessel" I mean your container (your own life.) They can't really agrue with this point. If they come back to see you too soon again, just say that you need more time. I hope this helps. Have a great day!
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