How do you know when it is true love?
By trinee
@trinee (514)
Trinidad And Tobago
June 13, 2009 7:14am CST
Some of us use the words "true love", when describing what we share with someone special but how do we know it is true love. Should we be so bold to proclaim because we just know that we feel it or should allow it to stand the test of the time and survive a fair amount of challenges within the relationship before we can say that we have true love. Or.... is it that true love arises from our daily decision to stay in this relationship knowing that there is no other place we would rather be than with this person and there is a mutal love despite all short comings and imperfections. True love for me is knowing what I know about my mate, accepting that I don't know everything but choosing every day to love him unconditionally and cherish him and allow him to do the same for me. How do you know when it is true love for you?
3 responses
@applecartronnie (1984)
• India
14 Jun 09
when you feel comfy with that person and you know there is a future. and you wanna be with that person day and night and day and night and you get better and better :) and you love that person, one becomes more important than you and you just wanna look look look at that person.
@GADHISUNU (2162)
• India
13 Jun 09
First I would like to have one thing cleared. Are you seeking to know about true love to differentiate between love lust and infatuation? Assuming this to be so I am amking an answer. I invite you to question me if I have not addressed your intended question.
If you asked me how I recognized true love from just an infatuation- then it is like this: When you are truly in love with a person all your vacant moments are taken by thoughts about that person. You enter into imagined converstaions with that person and try to answer for both. If you can have a real one(conversation) but are tongue-tied when see him/her then there will be more of this-imagined mentally worked out conversations. You will invent reasons for meeting and talking to that person. Or simply being with that person.
All what I said is true of a first love. The subsequent ones if the first one didn't come through, may lack that spontaneity, because you would be more cautious. Strictly on an experiential note I wouldn't be able to comment on second or third love because once I couldn't get through the first I went in for an arranged marriage- wher it is married love. That by His grace is good enough that I am not reminded of my first much. But the feeling is definitely a lingering one. I do get into those memories in my off-mood days.
