What do you do when they aren't trying?

That is too bad. I had to drive 45 minutes yesterday to visit someone who doesn't have a car. It was nice to be able to do that. I'll do it again in the future too.

Hey Im4real79! Nice to meet ya! I will tell ya why she wants to keep you as a "friend"! She just wants to be able to brag about all the things she has that you don't! And as you know that isn't a friend! That is really cruel! Dump her, stop taking any calls or texts! That's what I would do!

Girl. I am going through the same thing. My posts tell it all. My "friend" lives in Pennsylvania and she has two kids.Which I understand, but she has time for the rest of her friends who have money, cars and can take her shopping. I am low income without a car and I can't drive her anywhere nor can I afford to taker her shopping or to expensive dinners. She will drop everything for her other friends, but when it comes down to me. She can't be bothered. I am the one who initiates the calls and text messages. I try to make plans with her, just to be turned down once again. I have tried numerous times over and over to make plans with her and she always cancels on me or makes a lame excuse. On the rare occasion when she does call it is with her bragging about what she has. Occasionally she will ask to see me, but I do not have a car to drive up there and she knows it. She refuses to drive down to me at all. So we end up back to square one. She only calls me or talks to me when she is bored or has nothing else to do. I can never call her because she will say "I am too busy to talk". If I try spend time with her, she'll say I am busy. But yet, if she wants to do something on the occasion she expects me to drop everything. She is selfish and only cares about what she can get out of people. I finally had enough and I told her about herself. Well, now she is acting very icy towards me and refuses to call me and send 2 word text messages. She has done a lot of dirt to me and I forgave her over and over and over. She keeps telling me she has changed, but she hasn't. She treats everyone else like gold, but me like dirt. I am to the point where I don't even want to be friends with her anymore. I am tired of being taken for granted. I deserve a friend who actually wants to be my friend and will not hurt me or make me feel like nothing just because I don't cater to her like some queen.If they don't want to be our friend, why do they even bother talking to us. Why do they keep taking us for granted? Why don't they just end the friendship, instead of avoiding us and making excuses not to hang out. I really don't understand people like that.Your friend sounds so similar to mine. Maybe they are twins. LOL

You start to think that if they wanted to hang out with you that bad, they'd be calling and contacting you. So where the heck are they??

Yeah I know, I feel like I am only of use when there is no one else and I feel like I am only useful for appearance purposes!!

That's still better than me, I'm still just wondering what's the point?

Yeah, I'm sort of feeling as if I've been rejected after a first date, lol.

That's sad, but you know what, I probably did the same thing as her. When I met my husband, suddenly friends weren't important anymore because I wanted to spend every waking moment with him. Well I regret that now, because now he works so many hours and I'm bored to tears whenever he's not home. I wish I had a friend or two I could call and go hang out with whenever he was working late.

Friendships are as hard as relationships. They are NOT supposed to be that way but unfortunately I think they are. First you have the needy friends that need, need, need and then you have the ones that you have to kida chase down, sorta like what you are doing now. Its never as nice as you see in movies or as you think you see it when you see other people. Its the same as relationships again, where what may seem like the perfect realtionship to outisders is really a big ol horrible mess on the inside. I had te needy friend several years ago and had to finally break loose. Now I live so far away from everyone that I sometimes even miss her but while I was in the "relationship" I felt like I was being used. So for now I am a "single" friend. At least for a while. Well see how it goes. I get lonely but at the same time its nice not to have to go running to do favors all the time.