How long did it take you to get over your worst breakup?
By emagyne
@emagyne (664)
United States
June 13, 2009 11:00pm CST
I have two actually. One was a childhood sweetheart, dated while i was in school-used to play outside with them when i was small. We broke up and it actually took me six years to get him totally out my system. My second most recent one was last march and im still going through changes. Most i blame myself on because i keep allowing him to come back around just convincing myself that im only looking at him in a friendly manner. We have a child so he has to come around sometime but...oh well.
Im just curious because i have seen people whose been with someone for years and it ends and they shake it off pretty easily. Did it mean they didnt really love that person? Or i have seen people who be with someone for years and when it ends, it takes just as many days it took you up to the breaking point. Does this mean that these people just get too emotionally attached?
My problem is I love deep and my when all that happened, my trust was destroyed. Trust i didnt even know i had. Im still going through it. Mainly because i look at him in my child every day.
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6 responses
@ahmeertahmad (46)
• United States
14 Jun 09
I'm the type of person that never wants to let go if I feel the relationship is worth fighting for. However, if things are going sour I have not problem in seeing why the relationship needs to end. I try to conduct myself maturely in every relationship I have so I always try to make sure things end neatly. The longest it took me to get over a break up was one week. I'm sure my mood was affected for longer than that but that was the time I thought about it and let it touch me. You have to make the conscious decision to let things go.
@josh281992 (19)
• United States
17 Jun 09
Breaking up with someone that you made a mistake on going out with just because you were in an auckword situation was sad. I wish that i never went out with her and the thing that made it worse is she broke up with me but i don't really care. It took me like a month to get over on how stupid i was to get together with someone.
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
14 Jun 09
I can't tell you what break up was the worst. When your in the middle of it....they all feel bad and they all feel as if you are never ever going to feel any better. There have been a couple that I really was just relieved they were over but usually even if i'm the one breaking things off....still feels bad. If someone moves on easily, it really doesn't mean that they never loved the person. it's just that people change and sometimes their love for each other does as well. It could be that it was just time to move on but it doesn't mean that there was never anything there.
@clorissa123 (4926)
• United States
14 Jun 09
Wow, going through heart - broken experience isn't that easy. Because once you love that person, you might consider spend the rest of your life with him. Somehow, incidents going in the way. You never expected that broke up with someone you love isn't that easy. But believe it or not, time will heal your wound. Until you meet another person again, you might totally forget that wound that ever existed.
@galileo2008 (1168)
• Philippines
14 Jun 09
I broke up with my ex-boyfriend 4 years ago, and of course, it was not an easy decision because we've been together for 2 years. I finally got over him after 1 year and I was happy that he had another girlfriend. The funny thing is, even if we're no longer a couple, he was still trying to win me back, but to his dismay I didn't agree.
@xannebull (1793)
• Philippines
14 Jun 09
i did break up with my boyfriend before,but i made sure that i don't have feelings for him before breaking up with him, because if you still love him, then it will be worst, you get to think of him always. so be sure that you don't have feelings for him before breaking up, because it will take years before you could move on.
@xanlui (38)
• Philippines
14 Jun 09
I don't know. I had 3 relationships and the 3rd one was the recent because I just got married last year. The first break up(our relationship lasted a year or so), took me about a month or a lil over a month then I had my 2nd relationship. My 2nd relationship lasted 5 years but after our break up, it took a lil over a month too. Geez, then my 3rd relationship is ongoing. Those relationships are serious ones.
