Small Doses of Love

I feel the same too. I have arguments and disagreements with my husband frequently; he drives me up the wall with his habits and annoys me to no end. I know he loves me and cares for me in his ways. And I would miss him very much, when he's not around (when either one of us has to go out-of-town or overseas for work). I have once wondered about whether I should marry a man I can live with or a man I can't live without. I chose to marry the man I can't live without. Crazy, isn't it?

Hello my friend zandi458 Ji, With due regards to your feeling I totally dis-agree. I feel a real love , even for a moment should never be attatched with any strings lie you need help from your hubby, Love is free without any return, or it is not true love. Love needs sacrifices. Just think it over and understand me. May God bless You and have a great time.

HI, U are a better lady than i am. Husbands & i just didn't work out. I loved my 2nd husband so much but couldn't put up w/his bull [drinking & all that goes w/it].I have very little family left so i don't have to worry about that anymore but my parents & i did not get along but i never turned my back on them if i knew they needed anything. IT was a very sad thing & it still bugs me that we weren't closer.

I am in the same state, I don't want to live with my Hubby, but I can't live without him nor can he live without me. I do have love for him, but day to day living is very hard, he is a very negative person that it is a constant battle to maintain my positive look on life. But I do count my blessings every day.

If there's one thing I learned in this world it's all about compromise. It's like an art of negotiation. You can never have what you want unless you give them what they want. Basically it's just a matter of give and take to make the relationship work.

I guess love is love even if it does not fit the normal idea of love, if you know what I mean. People should live their lives according to what makes them happy and if that is not others’ idea of how things should be, that is too bad, I think. My husband and I have been through a lot together and almost split up a few years ago, but we hung in there and we are still together. I admit I find living with him somewhat difficult a lot of the time because he is a very uncommunicative kind of person and I am one who needs to express my feelings but on the whole our life is not bad at all and there is a lot of joy when he and my daughter are with me so on the whole we have a lot to be thankful for. I get along very well with my sister; I love her very much and it’s been a long time since we lived together but I am quite certain that if we had to share residence again we would not last together very long! I need her in my life but I doubt I could live with her again, and that is okay too...

In the relationships we have, we must have some form of love to maintain them.There are definitely some people I love better at a distance. I have days when I love my hubby more than I can imagine, but I have days when he really aggravates me a lot. We support each other in our endeavors and sometimes give more love than others.

Hi Zandi, there is someone I love and loves me in return but we could never live with each other and though he has tried to break it off with me he has come back and said that it is just to negative to throw away the friendship and relationship as he cant help how he feels. We got back together again but as he has his own business and I do have a different type of lifestyle too it works for us both..hugs \lo\lo

I think everyone has a family member or friend like this. Not everyone is going to meet up to our standards all the time. Some people we can get a long really well with and others we just basically tolerate. There's nothing wrong with that because there all different forms of love.

Hey zandi, I am kind of suprised to hear you say that about your husband. You seem to be so layed back and happy and in control of your life and I thought that your relationship was one that was full of love and understanding all the time. My problem relationship is with my mother. She and I just can't ever get past the past! She just lives in it and won't stop throwing it back at me and makes up things that really aren't real and there is nothing that I can say to her that will make her realize that she isn't remembering things correctly! She is only willing to remember things her way and that is all negative, especially when it comes to me. She blames me for everything that has gone wrong in her life and we just can't get passed it and it is causing a great rift between us, which she won't let go of! We haven't seen each other in 10 years and she can't understand why. I just don't know how to fix it and everytime I get close to going to see her to try to straighten things out she starts her crap again and I just give up! I wish there was something that I could do because she is now 79 and I am 56! Time is of the essence for both of us and she will never get things right the way things really did happen and I am at my wits end!

It's so hard I WISH I could help..all of us are going through similar situations,, But the best thing is to have less discussions,and change myself a bit to suit,, we can't change others u know,, we CAN CHANGE our self for sure

I totally understand where you are coming from. I have a sister that totally doesn't match my personality. If she weren't my family and I met her at school/work... I would never be friends with her. If you are stuck with someone and have no choice the best option is probably to try and find a compromise. If something about the other person really bothers you, try to avoid it. I try not to talk to her if she makes me really mad or I might say things that I would regret later.