Do you think your mom or dad was over protective?

Sometimes parents are overprotected because they loves us they don't like bad stuffs happen to us. For our own goods. I love righteous parents in goodness they guide their children and they are the models.

My dad was too overprotective! When I was still living with them, he'd usually dictate to me what I should do. My curfew was even earlier than what time I was to be out of school and be home by. He won't allow visitors to visit me at home. Whenever I check who's knocking on the door, he'd yell at me with curses in front of the person knocking. He would usually not allow me to attend parties or school excursions. He would always reprimand me when I was talking over the phone. And there are still many more to mention. But, I never rebelled. I felt bad, naturally. But, it never came to me to rebel because I knew I still need to finish school. And I need to respect him as my father. He may be wrong but rebelling is not the way I know to resolve the sitch.

Hmmm I guess being too protective could do that, I know my mother was over protective with me but strangely enough not my older sister, unfortunately for me it sent me into a world of insecurity and being a very shy person it didn't help me at all....

my dad was so over protective before, i was not allowed to go out with friends unless its valid for him...i was not allowed to go to discos or eat out when its night even though i can take care of myself. it was rough living with him...yet i finally understood him when i had kids, i am being protective now as well..over sometimes but i already understood the extent of his being like that before..so i am not mad nor upset about it.what he meant was well.

My parents had their own business, so they were too busy to be over protective, although we were never neglected and they always made sure we knew right from wrong and had plenty of love. What your mother went through obviously affected her badly, and in trying to make sure you didn't have a nightmare childhood, she overcompensated and only succeeded in alienating you. I know the damage this sort of thing can do in families, because it has touched our own family. All any of us can do is play with the hand life deals us. This situation is more common than you think, but at the time, those who are being molested think that their situation is unique and it is somehow their fault. Try to understand that your mother tried to do her best for you. That, after all, is all any parent can do.

My parents were the opposite end of parenting. Not to say that were complete pushovers, but because I was the youngest of 3 siblings, and throughout my teen years I had a very male dominant/rebellious attitude, they were more lenient and decided that life experience would be my discipline. At the time I thought it was great, however, in retrospect, I wish I had a little more discipline--perhaps more focused encouragement towards accomplishing something--from them. But then again, would have I been receptive to more discipline and the typical 'you'll thank me when you're older' mantra? Most likely not.

Your mom was just afraid and don't want to happen to you what happened to her in the past. However my parents are not overprotective, when we were young we just don't like to go out and mingle with other people outside our house, we just chosen to stay at home, play at home or study either on school or at home. We were being friends with our classmates and not with our neighbor, we just don't trust our neighbor. We were allowed to go out when we have the blessings of them, they never showed protectiveness to us because they trust us, but we know our boundaries so we just always follow their orders and be disciplined and be a good children that is why they are never protective to us.

Do you think your mom and dad were over protective? Hello tamron, in answer to your question I do think that both of my parents were over protective, just like you I couldn't hardly do anything unless I sneaked away to do it:). I do think that our parents over protective ways have a huge bearing upon the kind of people that we turn out to be. In your case it was a rebel but in my case it seems to be good girl going bad. Well I haven't gone all the way bad yet but if something don't start to turn in my favor soon I just might decide to become that bad girl that only looks out for herself. As for your mom being molested I"m sorry to hear about that. But it's understandable why she'd be so overly protective of you. Apparently she didn't want the same thing to happen to you. Her way of showing love to you might not have been in the way that you wanted to see it but if was definitely there in her overly protective ways. Sorry you had to go through that but hopefully you learned something good from it. With me I try to allow my children to have more freedom than what I had but they still wind up thinking that I'm being overly protective of them. So maybe it's something that can't be helped. Anyhow, happy mylot, You should try to have a good life now. That is really all that I can say........Thanks for posting!

I think you are right.and i have this same problem.My mother is over protective for me .Anything she think i couldn't done well by myself.She always want to help me everything if she can.I know she is loves me than anyone esle.But sometime i needd my own space.i am enough old can thinking about my own stuff.i know she just know to protect us.by the way I LOVE MY MUM.she is a sweet wowan i never seen

I had just the opposite issue. My mom had an affair with my dad's friend when I was 14, and than she ran away and had another child. I had such a lack of parenting wih my depressed dad, and my absent mother, that it allowed me to do anything I wanted, which seemed fun at the time- but now that i look on it, it was bad. I was a 14 year old who made her own choices. Now that i think about it, I wish I would have had an over protective parent, or one who even paid a little positive attention to me.

I don't think so since I was allowed to do what I wanted to do.

parents love their children sometimes is difficult to understand,and only when you become a parent,you will be able to understand.

I think all parents are protective with their children.

well you can see why she was protective of you and you need to nderstand that. Yes it is possible you was a rebel becuase you was always been told not to do stuff. But everyone as there own mind and thinking of actions is a thought that everyone can control.

My parents was over protective too. In fact, my mom is until now. I don't blame her though, she watch the news too much. The world today contains bad guy and wolf covered with sheep clothing. It's hard for her to be at ease whenever her kids go out. We might resent our parents for the way the protect us but believe me, when the day you be one, you'll feel the same way they do.