Ever Had To Live With Someone You Couldn't Stand or Hate?

The hardest thing to do is live with someone you thought you loved only to discover all their bad habits and disrespectful ways and to realize that maybe they do not love you as well as you had hoped. Verbal abuse and violence are very difficult to leave behind and you may find yourself to scared to leave or seek help. At that point my defense was to become very lazy doing nothing for the other person and working 3 jobs which I did for 2 years in order to be out of the house for around 18 hours a day and asleep for the rest. Eventually he got the idea and having emptied my home of anything he could left me. The relief of coming home to a completely empty home and a note informing me that it was due to my selfishness and never being there for my ex was something akin to winning lots of money.

The only person that I've ever had to live with that I absolutely hated was my Moms second husband. He was horrible and I hated everyday living there. I left as soon as I was old enough. Thankfully she finally divorced him and now she's remarried and this one is pretty good. There's been a few ppl I haven't liked living with, my ex-b/f's mother was one of them. She's passed away now and we split up years ago so it's not an issue anymore. I take it as long as I can...then I move. [b]**AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~[/b]

First off, I wouldn't say that I hated him, but trust was out the window, and the relationship had been over for some time. When it actually came out into the open, I stayed for another month. Basically I stayed upstairs, and had as little contact with him as possible. I went and did what I needed to, and we really didn't even say much to each other over that month. But since the relationship had basically been over for some time, it wasn't that difficult. I did stay for that month due to business that I had to take care of before I could move. I have to say, a month was about as long as I could have stood living that way. lol But, I was packing and staying busy for that month, so I really didn't concern myself with what he was doing, we just pretty much kept to ourselves. I think my survival mechanism had already kicked in months before, since I had already started to distance myself from him long before this occured. I went on my own vactions, spent Christmas with my family, in another state, and was gone pretty much the whole month of December. Had there really been any hatred, arguing, etc. I wouldn't have stayed that long, I would have found a way to move out. Where there's a will, there's a way!

Hello wolfie. I used to share the same room with some of my colleagues for a couple of years when there were not so many rooms for us to have one for each. I don't like the experience of living in the same room with the others as there is no privacy. But it was ok for me to live together with them. I am glad that I was given an apartment of my own on campus to live alone without having to share later on till now.

Hate, no. Don't want to be with, yes. Let's see, it's going on 2 years now. And I am avoiding him as much as I can, dithering and trying to decide what the heck I want to do.

yeah, I was a teenager not to long ago. Get a job close to home and do not spend any of your money, save it and move out. Until then you do not have to talk to this person, just do not be rude and soon enough you should be able to move out. If I did not like them enought I would find a job and move ASAP so that I would not have to deal with them anymore.

Five minutes at a pinch. I have no tolerance for people I don't like and could not stand living in the same house. If I was forced to then I think the only way I could cope would be to ignore them as much as possible. I did have a brother I didn't get on very well with but he got married and left home when I was 12 so I only had to tolerate him at family gatherings. There are times I can't stand Mr Croc but at least I know he loves me, maybe the feelings are reciprocated and I suppose there are times he can't stand me. Love conquers all, at least someone said that.

no, i don't have to do that fortunately so far... i don't have much tolerance for the people that i dislike and i can't stand living in the same house with the person... so there are only two choices... either i move out from the place or the other person move... i don't care if i have to live on the place that i really dislike as long as i can stay away from the person... take care and have a nice day...

Wolfie, I know a bunch of marriages that are just like that, I keep expecting to read about them in the paper. I take that back, I did read about one of them in the paper, he killed her. I am a pretty tolerant person so I guess i could go for a while and I love to read which is a great escape. So i guess that would depend on what they were doing that made them intolerable.

I have experienced it before and all i did was to avoid the person. I don't speak and even look at him/her. I just keep on telling myself that he/she is not there. However there are times that its seems too much that i cant help making snide comments from time to time. In the long run, I had to transfer to another house and eventually moved to another city. He he he!

Good day.... Yes as a matter of fact I did. For some reason I didn't know my uncle just hate my guts since I was a kid and I didn't know why at that time. I have to live with him because I need to board with him during my elementary and high school days since my actual home is several hours away and my class starts at exactly 7am and traffic was and still is terrible. So I have to spend 5 painful days a week during my schooling. He just have to find some fault in me and nags and nags to no end. I didn't know how I survived those days but I did. It later come to my attention that he and my father don't get along too well and really had some altercations before and maybe he finds me to be an easy target.

I have never faced such a situation in my life but I have a potential of tolerating any kind of people,so this is my positive point.so in further future also if I will come to face such kind of situation then I can face it.

yes unfortunately it was my husband - at the time. It was very hard to live under the same roof with him while waiting for the divorce.

have been in this situation for many times,but what can i do? when there is only one choice,i can only takeit rather than give it up.all above i have to study and work to make my living.but its really a hateful and disgusting thing to be with someone i really dislike!