Can husbands be true lovers?

Divya in my case, everything is in a proper order, Praise the Lord!!!. We were lovers before and now life partners. The explanation you have given is slightly non-aggreeable. It is men who openly admit they are unhappy with their marriage and ladies don't give up or admit that they are quite unhappy. I feel its upto us how we would like to treat each other. Mutual understanding is the cause, if its good then "all husbands are true lovers" else it is a problem.

Husbands can be true lovers even after marriage when they accept their wife whole heartedly. Accept them as they are. But generally even lovers when they get married start finding fault with the wives.When the necessary space is not given after marriage the friction starts and there starts the declining of love between the two. Women on the other hand are happy with whatever little the husbands do and loves them without any expectations. But men do not. So even i feel that husbands do not make good lovers after marriage. But remember every rule has an exception where even wives do not truly love their husbands after marriage inspite of the husband being a good lover.

No, husbands cannot remain as ‘lovers’ in the strictest sense of the word. Lovers are for momentary pleasure, husbands are for long-term support. Lovers are like appetizers or deserts…they can tickle your tastebud but you need a husband with a steady income to put the main course on the dinner table, day in day out. I would say the same for us ladies…as long as we are the gf…fun, frolic and wild ways are OK but once we become wives, its just not the same anymore. The trick might lie in staying as lovers even after marriage but recognizing and accepting the changed priorities of life.

I think a husband can be the best of all possible lovers. Who knows his wife better or could love her more when the relationship is right? Time and responsibilty only "get in the way" when it is allowed to be that way. I have found that long-term relationship provides much more pleasing loving as time passes. Karen

Well, divkris, you have a good discussion going on here. My take is this: A hub can be your true lover too only if he wishes to be one. He needs to be intrinsically aware that he has a dual role to fulfill. Moreover, he needs to be ready to play these roles - provider and lover. If he feels restricted by the society and community he may not be able to feel free enough to cater to your need of a lover. He would eventually give up and become only a provider and nothing else. After a while, boredom sets in. Your life falls into a routine and you tend to just go with the flow. The couple has to make an effort to infuse some excitement in their life. Making a lover out of your hub is an uphill task, but certainly doable. You just need to grit your teeth and hang on. One day, your boring husband will ride a white horse and sweep you off your feet. :)

I really think that they can be, but there are so few out there that have the entire package. I mean no one is perfect, we all know that. Even my husband, who I love more than anything, isn't a "true" lover. He has always thought and planned about our house in the future, yet he buys things and makes us more in debt, and he doesn't sit down to consider his love for me. I really dont think he takes time to consider the "emotional" part of our marriage. Most men dont lol.

Yes a husband can be a true lover, we have raised 8 children and have probably gone through all the ups and downs their can be. and through it all he has always been a true lover to me.

hi divkris. i have nothing to repond bcoz u are 100% right. it is very essential to be a lover first, then husband. love can creat anything . thanks

Yes I think they can either that or I am with the perfect man. We are not quite married but as good as the only thing thats missing form us being married is the ring and piece of paper. We live together we have a daughter and another on the way so I think I speak as a wife when I say that yes a husband can be a true lover. Mine is anyway