Together almost 4 years and the flame is fading away.......

Hey the best part about all that you said here is that you know whats wrong in your relationship. There are many people who don't even know whats going wrong. But as you say that both of you have economic problems, then half of your work is done. Sit together, talk, understand, help and show that you care. Now you might feel that this is a two sided affair and he should also take the initiative but its also YOUR affair, so just walk up to him, understand him calmly, tell him whats happening and you are aware of that. Chalk out a solution. Things should work... I wish you all the best...

too bad that you've seen the positive side of him but you can't even find at least a way to make your love for him stronger.... maybe you're just having a hard time adjusting things. however, a relationship won't work if only one is fighting... it should be you and him together hand in hand. don't give up easily... think about the negative effect that may contribute to your daughter.... maybe you need a bit space from all your problems... treat it as if no ones gonna tear you both apart... that money isn't an issue if your daughter's sake is at stake.

Thats a very good question. My mom always told me not to stress over bills. Bils was here when you came into this life and they will be here when you die. Your first step is to stop stressing over bills. Maybe you need to be more open to your boyfriend. Tell him how you fill about the situation. What's special things? It's a lot inexpensive things you can find to do. A walk in the park, make him a coupon book, or leave little special notes around the house. Think about what you did before your relationship started fading away. The little things is what counts. Deep down you know what will rekindle the relationship just take your time and think about it. Hope it works out for you because a good man is hard to find. Happy Mylotting!!!!

Love is not a feeling as we are many times taught. Just because you may not feel love does not mean it isn't there. Our relationships are like the seasons. Maybe you are entering winter. Now a days when things turn cold people decide it must be over and they move on. Unfortunately, the same thing happens in every relationship, so you keep moving on. If you work through the winter, through the storms, it builds your relationship and makes it stronger. You both have to decide that you are in this together and every problem has to be dealt with as a team. That is why God says the 2 shall become one. Your first problem is that you have not actually made a commitment to each other so it leaves you both on opposite corners rather than on the same corner. Love is a commitment. You will benefit your daughter the most by getting married an showing her your love and commitment to each other.

Think of there situations as part of your relationship. Nothing is perfect in this world everyone of us will experience test of faith. Always keep the bridge between you and your boyfriend connected like your little angel. Try to track back the things that you usually do like the times that you were dating.

I am sorry for you, but I don't have any suggestions or advises to give you. I am not yet married and don't know how the husband and wife relations will be during such times. But I think I may help you by giving some information related to finance and clearing your Bills.

In most of the families I know, financial problems and worries are one of the home wreckers. But I think you are still lucky because you had a very good husband and a very good father to your kids. Talk to him about your problem and tell him that it's tearing you apart. Maybe he will listen this time.

Well you shouldnt stress about that.Bills shouldnt come between you guys after all isnt he trying.Love is quite important although we cant live on love we cant live without it.Try talking about,make him understand how you feel and stop withdrawing because it wont make things better.

Hello there! Well what I can say is that you can still try to talk to him about your feelings and the situation and try to find some adventures where you both can go and have some moments alone. To be alone with each other is very important so try to arrange something like that for both of you.

Hi, my dear friend, I feel sorry for you. I know that must be hard for you. I have known my husband for eight years, and we got married last year. To my disappointment, my husband changed a lot since we got married. He is not the nice guy he used to be. He is addicted to online games. He spend most of his spare time playing online games. He even do not care about my feelings. I don't know what to do. I think you should have a talk with him and tell him about your true feelings.Some measures should be taken to solve the problem.Good luck!

Money is the # 1 cause of divorce - or in this case, break-ups. With this kind of economy, the average family stresses more about money not being enough compared to anything else. My bf and I were sort of going through the same thing -when he had to work a lot more (and one point, two jobs) just to get by. Now he's just working A LOT. One thing that you should do is definitely communicate with him (talk AND listen, don't just hear what he has to say) - lay it all out on the table, especially about your feelings. Men are not easy to read - he could not be feeling the same way you are (as in the flame fading away) or he could be getting bad vibes from you. You need to know his perspective on your relationship. Once that's all clear - you can take your next step. And remember - little things matter. Text him in the middle of day tell him how much you love him/miss him/whatever! Send him an e-card saying how much you appreciate him being around you and your daughter. Tell him he's a great father (and a great partner). Just little things like that - it doesn't have to cost anything. Or it doesn't have to cost much! P.S. Avoid stressing out about bills or the future - live for today, it's a gift that's why it's called the present (or something like that). I'm not saying that you should go all out for today - but tomorrow will take care of itself. Take care! And good luck.

The first thing you should do is to pray.. God answers prayer, with certainty.. A prayer alone and pull the treasures and power of heaven into the life of earth. So dont be shy to ask God. He loves you and your family.

The first thing you should do is to pray.. God answers prayer, with certainty.. A prayer alone and pull the treasures and power of heaven into the life of earth. So dont be shy to ask God.