What do you look first in a relationship? financial or emotional stability?

parents always say be careful in selecting couples. because life does not just settle for one or two years only, but for ever. select a pair in life, which I consider first is religion. I choose the pair that are the same. I then consider the other. a stable financial course can not make happy, the important thing is responsible, either, and attention. difficult to get a pair that matches thecriteria, there is no perfect. pair such as what we can, we must guard and do not occur until it is not desired.

Dear friend, Only I do much consider now is how well we both can go without much hazzels or worries and how well we both could understand and love each other. I hope finance is a part I do hope mental peace is another one whihc is needed if finance and better affection is stable the rest is well to go further.

emotional stability definatly coz money isn't everything.My partner and i have no money but emotionly were strong and happy

As money is very important in today life. money became an essential content of ones life. But only money donnot make ones life stable. yes i also think one should be both financially and emotionally stable. care, love , belief, all play a important role in ones life to live happily. and all these are a part of emotion.

People might disagree with me. I belong to the old school of thoughts. For me love is all conquering. No amount of money can buy love. I can speak as a male what I feel is more important, financial or emotional stability. For me emotional stability takes precedence over financial stability. As a male, I take it as my own personal responsibility to take care of my partner. Coming from a very conservative society, traditionally males and females have been assigned their responsibilties in their families. While the males are supposed to go out and work in office and generate income, the women folk at home are expected to be good home makers, rearing the kids. Mother's are the first teachers. So its inhuman to expect her to take on a dual responsibility. By being good home makers, I am not in anyway under mining their importance or their lack of intellect. But by this precise division of responsibility, between husband and wife, there is peace in the family.

That seems to be a bit materialistic but then again I guess reality has to figure too. Hooking up with someone lazy and wasteful is not such a good idea. I think that compatibility needs to figure in there as well in terms of race, religion and education. A couple needs to have the same values and principles if they are going to share their lives.

In case of a girl,its better to choose financial stability over the emotional stability.And for a man it should just be the opposite...It is a pretty conservative views but it really a important point... I will prefer both!!! Both of them is very important in carrying out a relationship well and with no problems...

i of course look for emotional stability. where there is love and care then there will be financial stability. cause with emotional stability we will learn with what we have and we can afford. but if we are out of love we tend to spend a lot just to fill the avoid of emptiness in our hearts that makes us to need more money in life. i have proved that to myself. when i am very much happy inside and always been love i don't look for material things in life.

Too many people have unresolved issues and to seek emotional stability is a sign that the person seeking is loaded with insecurities; a sign of mental illness. On the other hand; with the unexpected changes life presents, having the ability to cushion those changes requires a level of financial ability. Fiancial stability with emotion distress is not a good combination, so best is to seek a partner who is head over heels over you; of the same age group; with a level of education and competitiveness that creates in a person a level headed provider who is a supportive in one's equal attributes. In other words, make sure that you are mentally healthy, able to provide for your own comfort before you seek out one who is equally mentally healthy, level headed and able to be a support to another persons goals, that are equal to yours. Two good books to read before entering a relationship are; A Fine Romance, and Toxic Parents.

Hi neelianoscet...I think that emotional stability must always come first. AFter all you can have someone who is financially stable but an emotional mess that will wreak havoc with your life and the lives of everyone around you. It is much better to be stable emotionally. You can always look for another job or take another job.

First of all I want to if he's financially stable. I mean there;s a possibility that someone that you meet would be your husband, right? so It is better to know it first before you anything else.

I know that finance is the root of everything these days.Nothing really happens if we are not financially that well, But for me i wont give much prefrence to finance but i want emotional stability in my relationship as far my concern, becaus i have seen the effects of financially well settled couples and even financially weak both are never happy with their certain reasons, but still if we compare it we will find that emotionally well settled is always happy because they have each other to rely upon and look after in any situations.

I guess it is both. I can not just be one. The two are very important things in a relationship. If you would really want to build a relationship, you need money to survive. And for you to survive the daily trials, you need to be emotionally stable. Both are very important components of a relationship.

emotional stability is definitely more important to me. i am thankfully financially independent so i don't need a partner whom i can rely on financially. of course he must be able to feed himself, to say the very least. however, i don't mind as long as he can earn his own keep. emotional stability, on the other hand, is far more important to me. i will only stay in a relationship if i feel for my partner. if he is the kind that blows hot and cold, i don't think the relationship is going to last.

First of all, there should be feelings. Finance is the first thing I will consider if a guy is asking me out. Then the communication with him should be not hard.

Yes, I agree that I consider my partner to be financially and emotionally stable. I give importance to emotional stability than financial stability. I care more for how well he treats me and how happy he makes me.

When I was younger, I looked for love only. I didn't worry about money. However, now that I am older, I want a stable and secure life. Forget all the money worries! I got tired of scraping every single day of my life. Love is grand but it doesn't pay the bills. That is what my mother always said. I guess I turned out more like her than I thought.

I've seen people who were financially bankrupt and had a great marriage. I've seen people who were lawyers and doctors and had a marriage in the gutter. My observations have been that if you a moral, and wise partner, you can work through finances. I would go for faith, wisdom, and morals, far more than anything else.

i look first in a relationship is emotional stability. this make me feel better.i have communication with them, their chacrater and attitude to their friends attract to me,this let me make friends with them. communicating with them, i feel relax,happy with them ,so i have onfidence to remain relationship with them. this factors lead to successsul relationship is higher