repairing a friendship
By willy6
@willy6 (498)
Jamaica
June 24, 2009 4:01pm CST
Sometimes we are hurt by our closest friend, when friendship break down that is no reason to throw years of companionship down the drain, you should open the line of communication with your friend. Nothing will happen unless you can communicate with your friend, so do what you can to start the discussion.
You should use whatever medium you can. Instant messages, texting email, phone or if possible meet each other face to face and talk. Try to resolve by knowing how each other feel. Make sure that it is done in a calm and courteous way. It is very important to repeatedly say that you want to be friends again.
Give your friend some space. If communication does not work one or both of you are too emotionally charge to set things right. let things cool down before you try anything else. Sometime absence makes the heart grown fonder.
Swallow your pride, and face the situation and see what is wrong and apologise. If one cannot resolve the problem it is time to go separate ways. Because forcing the issue will cause great pain, and one will end up say things that will hurt.
3 responses
@Im4real79 (58)
• United States
27 Jun 09
I am currently trying to repair a broken friendship, but the other person is making everything long and drawn out and it is getting tiring. Instead of talking to me on the phone or in person. She text messages me and then becomes silent for weeks at a time. We did get into a argument, but I am doing the best I can to show her I care, but she is making no effort at all. And her idea of communicating is a text message.
@unwanted (76)
• Philippines
26 Jun 09
Thanks for a wonderful advice.:) When me and my best friend had a fight, I swallowed my pride and apologized to her. She didn't accept it. I waited for 3 months and apologized again. We became best of friends again. The point in this is that you have to swallow your pride if you really want to repair your friendship and if he/she isn't ready, you just have to wait. Time heals all wounds.:)
@ucue2008 (924)
• Malaysia
26 Jun 09
Wow, what a great advice. But do you to start a communicating with a person that broke your heart is really difficult. I like your sentence, swallow your pride, but sadly, its not that easy, especially when you think you are in the right side and that the other party too stubborn to accept you, so I will prefer each of us to go to separate ways. It hurt, but I think I don't want to be hurt more.