Insecurities in a relationship
By trinee
@trinee (514)
Trinidad And Tobago
June 25, 2009 8:46am CST
What causes insecurity in a relationship? Some people believe that it can result from lack of trust between the two partners because of a past betrayal. Low self esteem and lack of patience to allow the relationship to mature can also create a feeling of insecurity. I think bad communication and low self-esteem definitely plays a part. What do you think causes someone to feel insecure in a relationship? Please share.
3 responses
@Chiz_Man (11)
• Canada
25 Jun 09
I would have to agree with you. I think past betrayal causes low self esteem. Mostly on the guilty party because they feel ashamed of what they've done. I also think that you need to let a person speak the way they speak. Trying to change them too much may also cause low self esteem because they feel they are always wrong.
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
25 Jun 09
I think that some people are emotionally affected by upset in a previous relationship. Like it a lady had a violent partner before she might be wary of thay happening again. If the boyfriend hits someone she might think he could hit her one day. If he shouts it could terrify her. Some ladies have low self esteem which makes them feel insecure. Good communication is important in a relationship. If there is a lack of that there is likely to be some insecurity.
@trinee (514)
• Trinidad And Tobago
25 Jun 09
Oh yes.. I agree with you. When you have been hurt in the past and have not really come to terms with it, it can affect you in future relationships. I strongly believe that communication is vital in dealing with insecurities. Thanks for the post and have a great day!
@jugsjugs (12967)
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25 Jun 09
I think that a lot of relationships can have this problem.Alot of it is due to not making time for each other as in they tend to work more hours so there is less time to spend with each other,therefore they get less time to spend talking.Also with that comes the insecurity of not seeing each other and some people assume that the other person is seeing or spending time with someone else.If someone has been unfaithful in the past well the trust would have went then in my eyes.Happy Mylotting.
