what it takes to be a good wife?

thanks Niah... somethings are easier to say that to do...i always know what i should do to become a good wife...but sometimes i have hard times doing some things... but those were petty things only... thanks for those advices...

hi zearah... you are so nice to let your husband go with another woman and accept him when he comes back! wow! yes medical exam will be important...in that matter! hehehe...for your safety! thanks!

i agree browneyed girl...but there are also some cultures that men are allowed to marry more than one girl...as long as he can provide for all of them well...and as long as its okay with the women...

hi browneyedgirl... well i got your point and thanks! yes its true...we should help our better half to bring the best out of themselves... being a good wife is not as simple as we think...it requires so much love and sacrifices...acceptance and giving unconditional love...huh! thanks gain and have a good day!

i agree...thanks for that! :-)

yes its true... thanks and have a nice day!

yes archie, thanks for that...understanding and patience... so patience is really a virtue...

The Bible also says that "in Christ there is no male or female..." I believe a good wife can not only follow but also lead when she needs to. We are all only human and the reason God gave Eve to Adam as a wife was to be his helper. It is God's will that husband and wife succeed together as a family.

hello lingli! i agree with you... i also think that way coz i believe on what is written on the Bible and i use it as a guideline in my lie... thanks lingli! have a good day!

thanks for sharing... okay, i will ask that to my husband... understanding & acceptance of our strong and weak points is really important and needed and despite of these flaws we can still love them for who they are...

I agree completely. There is always room for growth and we should never stop learning and growing. If it's an "image" he or she is after, hand him a photo of yourself and then leave him or her with that "image" and go find someone who will love you for all you are and appreciate who you are and what you do for him or her.

hi royalgens... thanks for that...i'll take your advice... but i think i can always change or improve my self for the better... maybe some good people didn't get successful marriage because they are not open for changes...maybe they think that they are already good and thus it is their partner who needs to change and not them...maybe the best way for good people to have a good marriage is for them to be humble, willing to change for the better and adjust on the situations...well its just my opinion...i maybe wrong with it... thanks again...have a nice day!

Well, most man dun like to be questioned.. BEcause it mean that u dun trust them.. IF they have nothing to hide, the very first thing they see u upon reaching home, is to explain why they are late, rather than waiting for u to ask them.. hehe ^_^ That's my point of view though.. I guess if u are the one working instead, by time u reach home, u will wanna see an organized house too right?? hehe

yes you're right! i agree... a husband who is tired for a whole day work needs relaxation and comfort when he gets home...and he will find no comfort if the home he's going is very unorganized and a nagging wife is the one who's waiting for him...

haha...i guess you have a point there! but is that really what a man wants? a wife who don't ask too much? but most women are asking too much...especially when their husbands did not come home on time... i think you are right that a ife should always keep the house clean and organized so that when the husband came, he feels comfortable and feels like really home and get rest from all day work stress...and a massage from a wife and a good food can make him more relaxed and happy to go home...

well actually, i don't have any problem with it...its just that, there are times that i feel guilty that sometimes i was not able to do the things that i suppose to do...that's why sometimes i ask my self if i am a good wife or not...maybe in some parts i'm not that good but in most part i am...i know that and i feel that! hehehe know why? coz i never hear him complains... i just don't know if he complains when i don't hear him...hahaha thanks!

Ha ha! I think you should ask your husband if he is happy with you or what he may need and then take it from there. A good wife is a REAL one. So be yourself, be real and let him be also.

Just think positive...

That's what the womens liberation movement has done to our culture. Men have let women take over in every area because we are to lazy to do what we were created to be and do. And look at the result. Latch key kids because both mom & dad work so we can have more stuff and 2-3 cars. More Kids being raised in one parent homes then ever before. Just because you don't believe a man is the to be king of his castle, doesn't mean it wasn't designed to be that way. 50/50 effort??? Whats wrong with 100/100 effort? If it works in your house you are rare. Most women deep down want to be taken care of, nurtured, provided for, feel security not provide security. Women are meant to be the nurturers not the providers. The ideal woman can and does work, but that should be at home. My Queen does a fanistic job of maintaining the castle while I'm off slaying dragons., BE well.

I have absolutely no problem with my husband being the "king of his castle."-As long as he remembers that I'm the queen. LOL I agree with you, it's a two way street when it comes to responsibility.

hello there...i think that's how a relationship should work...give and take, team work! thanks for sharing!

hi genius tiger... then, its good for you and your family... i also think that a good wife is someone who was able to do her responsibilities as a wife, a mother a home maker... she's the one who takes care of them, guide her children and gives light to the family... thanks and have a nice day!

marriage is actually a wonderful thing, a wonderful gift from God...its success depends on the husband and wife and it must be a give and take relationship...a marriage can give you happiness if it is done the right way, i mean in God's way, and if you marry the one that you really love and really loves you... you can be a good wife of course and everybody can be a good wife, just learn how to respect your husband to be and love him with all your heart and for husband he should do the same... being single for life is not a crime, if you are more happy with it then go on...maybe your parents really have a wonderful marriage that they want you to be married also... i wish you could get married too coz having a family is really a great feeling and i think satisfaction (although i don't have kids yet) and if that time happens, i wish that you could marry the one that you really love and you marry not because you want your parents to be happy but because you love that man and feels to be happy with him... thanks and always ask for God's guidance and blessings! thanks!

I have a good wife too Ckyera.

aw! thanks...maybe i am coz i have a good husband... i think.

oh that's nice...your wife will be very happy upon reading this...

hello there, thanks for the very nice response...a good wife, yeah giving all her best but knowing her limits as well... this is wise, but sometimes i think that a good wife can also endure any hardships going on her way...but like you have said we are also human...with limitations & with feelings& emotions...

haha..okay okay i have heard some of it already and i must agree that its somehow true! hehe but asking our husband whether we look like this or that...hmmm, i am doing that sometimes, and its good that he didn't feel annoyed instead he's teasing me! sometimes women also needs some assurance! haha hmp! even if i appreciate the small things he does in the house, he don't still doing it unless i told him so or i give him a hint! hehe he's just too busy in his work...and will just be doing things when i am sick and when he feel like doing so.... hehe how about you?

thanks for sharing you thought my friend... i agree in everything that you said and i know that if we just follow the guidelines in the bible on how to be a good wife...then we really can be a good wife...and a good Christian like our parents! :-) and our husbands should also do their responsibilities not only to us but also to the family...and with a give and take relationship...i think everything will be alright! as long as God is in the center of our life & marriage...

hi best... try to read this...this is kinda funny..but true! Listen to what your husband has to say. Don't halfway hear him. If he wants to tell you something, give him your full attention and contribute to the conversation. Don't just nod along, give input. If you do this, he'll always want to talk to you and will be less likely to keep things to himself. Never take him for granted. Thank him for the little things he does for you, no matter how small. If he takes out the garbage or cleans up after dinner, be sure to let him know you appreciate his help. If he feels appreciated for his efforts, he'll be more likely to continue pulling his weight around the house without much complaint. Don't constantly ask him if he thinks you're pretty, if he thinks you look fat, etc. Men really don't like this sort of thing. If he wasn't attracted to you he probably wouldn't have married you, regardless of how you look. He kind of assumes that you know that. If you constantly pester him with these types of questions, he'll get annoyed in a hurry. Occasionally give him some "guy time". Just like you need "girl time", your husband needs "guy time". Let him have this space when he needs it. The fact that he wants to hang out with the guys tonight and watch the game rather than be with you does not mean he doesn't love you. He just needs to be around other men and do guy stuff. It's no big deal. If you're cool about it, he'll appreciate it. There will be less stress overall in your house. When disagreements come up, don't have the "it's my way or the highway" attitude. Always try to reach a compromise, unless he is being completely unreasonable. Remember that your marriage is a joint effort and you both have a say. If you can always compromise with each other, you'll be happier... happy posting! cheers!

really? hehe then i will start making good sandwiches now...