What will you say when your boy lie for the first time ?

My son is two as well, he lies to me everyday, but I think that is more because he does not totally understand the difference between yes and no yet. It could the same with your son, but it sounds like he is further advanced then my own. I would think though, he lied because you asked him in anger, and he was already afraid, and thought that if he admitted it, you would direct your anger at him. They are young, they do not yet totally understand that lying can get them into deeper trouble. I think you should explain, the difference between the truth and a lie. And say, you broke the vase(if this was an accident, say you understand that) if was not an accident, go about it however you go about it, and give an additional punishment for being dishonest. But next time something like that occurs, if he is truthful, reduce your normal punishment,and tell him, since you were honest with me, it will not be as bad as last time. Cheers, I do hope I got my view point across.

I think a child is not liable for his actions till after they are seven years old. That means you boy was not lying. He just broke a flower vase. When a two year old niece of mine dropped a plate and was asked who broke the plate, she answered the floor. Read Aesop's fables to your son. There are also good stories in the Bible like Jonas and the whale. Children learn what they hear and see. As a rule of thumb, I don't mind if things get broken. As always, no use crying over a spilled milk. I mind very much if a child's heart get broken.

i don't have a child yet at the moment... but i know that when i do have one in the future, i will make sure that he/she won't be afraid of me until they have to lie... i don't like liars and i always value honesty... especially after making a mistake and trying to cover it up by lying... i will be double mad if i find out... and of course if i caught my child lying, i have to punish him/her so that he/she will learn from the mistake... take care and have a nice day...

Hi Whatever you do dont get annoyed with him. Sit him down and say Mummy knows that you broke the vase because I didnt and .... so it had to be you - if you are positive it was him. Then tell him it is better to tell the truth as we can sort it out but if you lie to me Mummy doesnt like that and you will have to go with out treats for double the time or something on those lines. It is a shame that he is afraid of you and if he really is then he will lie more and more so please try and sort that out and hey good luck. It is not for fun they are called the terrible twos.

Oh i see, this is the case. Ya, i agree that children have to be taught since young with the correct values and thinking. It might be too late if we think that we only teach them in their later ages. I believe the mindset, the thinking, as well as the characteristics is determined since young, although a person still can change his or her personality at later ages when he/she is matured enough to think what is good and what is bad in life. So, in my opinion, in your case you may try to give him a little punishment, and at the same time give the advice and educate him that it is not right to tell lies. I believe this works, and if not, maybe you need to do this a few times too and he will know it eventually.

Hi syangku24.You have a great boy.I have a boy too.He was 1,9 years old now.I think,you can tell him that you love to honest boy.don't make him more afraid because he still young.We need to build their trust to his parents,so they want tell the truth.After they avow,we can punish him with the something about his like such as he can't play his game or can't go to family's holiday. wish it work! happy mylotting!

I dont think there is even a single person who havent told a lie in his life. Actualy, telling lie is not so bad if it dont hurt anyone. If my son will tell me lie, i will just make him understand that if he will speak truth then i will not punish him because by telling lie he is making second mistake.

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lies evolve where fear is used to correct children. truth and honesty evolve where children are taught to understand courage and kindness. the best way to teach children is thru role-play.