forgive and forget
By rchaubey51
@rchaubey51 (5)
India
June 28, 2009 6:40am CST
Right now i am in a fix. unable to understand and no one to guide me. Can some one tell me how can i forgive and than forget at the same time .Is it possible to forget someone with whome we had shared all our good & bad time......... no I cant but situation is that i have to forget. how?
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@momiecat (997)
• United States
28 Jun 09
I feel that to forgive someone requires repentance on the part of the one who is to be forgiven. One cannot just forgive the person who wronged them just because they think they have to forgive to go on with their life. My ex did a lot of wrong things in our marriage, including being unfaithful. I have never actually forgiven him as he did not even express that he was sorry or admit to his wrongs. I have learned to move on and live my life. I have put all the hurt and pain behind me and learned to focus on things in life that make me happy. A lot of times the person who needs to be forgiven does not express regret at the things he/she has done to hurt you and in my opinion there is no need to try to forgive these people but just to move on and surround yourself with people who do make you happy.
@rchaubey51 (5)
• India
1 Jul 09
Yes, you are apsulutly right when you say that there is no need to try to forgive these people but just to move on and surround ourself with people who do make us happy. yes thank you, i have got the way out.Actually i think the problem is our unawarness.Our whole existence is so simple but our minds have been programmed like a computer in such a way that even the simplest thing, the movement it reaches our mind it does not remain simple & the mind starts interpreating it depending upon the thaughts and personality of a individual & this sometimes creates a havoc. any way from right now I will put your advice in practice. Thanks
@charljan28 (31)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
It is very hard to forget for the things we felt much pain on it.In the same way its hard also to forgive right away, but if you feel that you've already accept the fact, then there's nothing to feel so much hardness....I beleive its a way of being narural and there's nothing to worried about.
@marlena18042 (636)
• United States
28 Jun 09
Im sorry to hear that you are obviously going through a difficult time. TIME is your answer. Although it may be very hard, the best thing to do is always try to forgive. Depending on how severe the circumstances are you might not want to remain very close with the other person/people but forgiving will help you get past the anger.Holding in anger and resentment toward anyone is only going to cause you more pain and stress. Of course forgiving takes time, but it is the best thing to do. There are times in everyones lives where we do wrong and being forgiven is important to us too! Some people whom do not know how to forgive end up losing good relationships over their own spitefulness. Now, forgetting is a whole different thing. I never forget things that are done to me by people. Hurtful things arent easily forgotten..and probebly shouldnt be. If we forgot things that harmed us we might allow it to happen again!
Best advice to give, I believe, is to forgive but not forget.I hope this little advice canhelp you in any way!
