I know it's summer, but please don't do this..
By irishmist
@irishmist (3814)
United States
June 28, 2009 7:47am CST
Ok so yesterday I'm on my way to work and I stopped at a stop sign. I happened to notice this girl who was pregnant, and she was about I'd say 8 months along, anyway she was wearing a white tee shirt which did not even cover her pregnant tummy, and to make matters worse she had on short shorts that barely covered her butt.
Do you think even in this day and age that it is proper to dress like this when you are pregnant? What ever happened to the proper maternity clothes we wore back in the day ( not saying I'm old here), but please we flaunt our bodies enough as it is, but must they do it while pregnant. I'm not saying they have to wear the maternity clothes that us older ladies did, long tee shirts and sweat pants or scrub pants are fine. Do you think I'm being a fuddy duddy here?
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@irishmist (3814)
• United States
28 Jun 09
If she wants to dress inappropraitly she should do it after the baby is born, it just does not look right, I think it makes her look like a little nasty not to respect the condition she is in, and how others see her.
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
29 Jun 09
I don't see it as 'inappropriate', and that brings to mind about whether ANYTHING is actually inappropriate at all. Things are socially inappropriate, thought that way because of a majority of people who feel that way. That doesn't mean it's really inappropriate though, it just means it is a feeling that the majority seems to have about a subject. The majority is often wrong though - never underestimate the stupidity of people in large groups. Mob mentality might kill the person who is supposed to save the world.
@appleit (104)
• United States
28 Jun 09
During pregnancy, the little important life grows healthy and strong in the belly. In this special period, it means protecting one's own body is to protect the baby. Must learn to choose the proper clothes, catches up with the fashion cleverly and rationally. The loose T-shirt, and flexible trousers are good choices.
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@irishmist (3814)
• United States
28 Jun 09
Thats right, and she has plenty of time after the baby is born to run around in whatever she feels like, and maybe she can get pregnat again really fast.
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
29 Jun 09
hmmmm pregnant or not, we must not judge someone on how that person dress up..i mean it is her life! she must be comfortable even if she is pregnant..so who cares right?? i even saw some mommies wear dress so short and tight even when pregnant! i find nothing wrong with it.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
28 Jun 09
I see a lot of girls that dress in their regular clothes while pregnant. I don't have a problem with it or how anyone dresses for that matter. When I was pregnant, I just wore baggy shirts and spandex pants. More bothersome to me is people who smell horrible because they arent bothered to shower. What someone chooses to wear is their own business I think.
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
29 Jun 09
LOL! Oh yes, I prefer people shower and use deodorant - I care more about hygiene than I do how someone dresses. Also, if you really don't like how people dress, I think the blame belongs squarely on the clothing manufacturers - who SELL those items to those people. There have been times when I have not liked anything new for sale, so I just go to secondhand places to find something 'new' that might be more my style. For instance, there have been times when some of the shirts that were 'in style' just looked hideous to me. I know what I like to wear so I'd just go browse secondhand shops for something I might actually wear - why spend money on something which is the trend and everyone is wearing but you hate it and think it looks ugly?
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@Margajoe (4746)
• Germany
28 Jun 09
Yes I think you are being fuddy duddy.
She is probably very proud to be pregnant and wants the world to know.
Nothing wrong with that.
Live and let live.
@irishmist (3814)
• United States
28 Jun 09
Perhaps I am being a fuddy duddy, but really is it attractive to see her whole stomach hanging out over hip hugger shorts, not to mention the fact that her butt was hanging out, perhaps she is planning the next baby before she has this one.
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@Margajoe (4746)
• Germany
28 Jun 09
Well if she likes to walk like that, it is her decision.
It does not have to be attractive for me, I don't have anything to do with her.
I just think if would be nice not to be ashamed of how you look.
I admire that, because I cannot do that.
I wish I had the courage to walk around without shame.
After all beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Everyone is beautiful in there own way.
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
29 Jun 09
I agree with you. I also think that confidence is very appealing, and that more people ought to be comfortable with their own bodies in their own skin. The amount of people who are ashamed and guilty and flat out always have a problem with their physical selves is sickening and sad. We only have ONE life! Why waste it always feeling 'less than' someone else? Why waste it hiding instead of trying to enjoy the body you're born with? It's not like you get another one so it's fine to abuse the one you have or be disgusted with it and hide it all the time. Society is just too darn weird about things and absolutely non-accepting about things which are normal and should be accepted. Pregnancy is a normal thing, why hide it? Why have a different set of 'rules' pertaining to it? Being pregnant changes NOTHING about you except that you're going to bring a baby into the world. Acting differently or being a different person because you're pregnant is the silliest thing I have ever heard of.
I was absolutely proud to be pregnant and very excited about becoming a mommy. I was never going to be anything other than me and I still would never be anything but me. I don't care who else has an issue with it, if they do, it has nothing to do with ME, they need a therapist to get over their stupid hangup about a person they don't even know LOL!
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@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
29 Jun 09
wow, this topic is something. first of all, i had two kids already and of course i went through pregnancy two times..wore dresses and even skirts when i was pregnant! lol my mom would even get mad because she would say it was inappropriate! lol but i did not mind, it was something i was comfortable with!! and it was not something i do because i feel like i need people to look at me or to admire me, i dressed that way because i was comfortable with it and because i am at ease with it and i want it and it was so hot that i need to wear something that does not cover my whole body!!!
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
30 Jun 09
LOL! Isn't it funny how all these people who have issues with how she was dressed seem to think that people dress FOR EVERYBODY ELSE? Here's a clue guys. There are plenty of people who dress themselves and don't even CONSIDER YOUR FEELINGS. We just DON'T CARE. I don't know you, ten to one I will never run into you, or if I do, you will never see me again. Why should I care what you think of my outfit? It's not meant to make you happy, impress you, or get you to approve of me. It's meant to make ME happy, impress ME, and be approved by ME. That's it. Also, maybe I'm in a hurry. I'm sick. Nothing was clean. There could be any number of reasons someone is seen in public in what someone might consider 'less than desireable attire'.
HEH.
@jshekhar (1562)
• India
28 Jun 09
Dressing properly is one of the things that are important for me, be it for a male or a female. In the latter case it becomes all the more important.
Pregnancy is no excuse for it because I am sure you do get appropriate clothes for all seasons of the year. Least of all, a long robe should not do anyone any harm, however hot the atmosphere may be.
@irishmist (3814)
• United States
28 Jun 09
Yes and how you dress is how you present yourself to the public and how they precieve you. Though some girls just don't care I guess.
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
29 Jun 09
For goodness sakes. Not everybody lives in a culture or society where they want to cover up from neck to toes in clothing. If that's what you prefer, by all means, do it. I won't make fun of you. But don't you dare say anything about my tank top and daisy dukes LOL!
Jshekhar i am guessing does not live in America, but irish I am guessing does. I understand a different culture/country entirely but not for someone from America.
@prettygirl_80650 (306)
• United States
29 Jun 09
wow talk about puke material thats just as bad as a big person in spandex just some thing we dont want to see.
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
29 Jun 09
Proper? I am not sure what you are referrring to. Now I can clearly say that I do not want to see someone's thongs peeping out above their jeans or shorts or skirt, I also dislike the whole saggy pants trend, as well as the muffin top trend of trying to stuff your clearly too large body into clothing 3 sizes too small BUT... I see it sort of as comic relief and entertainment. While it is definitely nicer if people just wore clothing that fit their bodies the way they are instead of wearing stuff that fits what they consider themselves to look like, obviously people's perceptions of themselves are stronger than reality.
When I was pregnant, I did try to wear things that covered my belly - IF the point of the clothing was to cover my belly. I wore a bikini in the pool in the summer. I also wore short shorts. I have always worn short shorts. My whole life. I see nothing wrong with short shorts - but then again my butt doesn't hang out of them.
I kind of bristle at any idea that there should ever be some type of 'dress code' or that people are supposed to dress differently at different ages. I do not buy that. I mean I would be just as happy if we didn't have to wear clothes at all since people always seem to have something to say about the way other people dress. I don't like the way some people dress but I don't think it is my business or anybody else's what they choose to wear. It is their body. If they like the way they look, or don't care, who is anybody else to complain? To add to that, I'm sure there might be people somewhere who believe that since I'm 34, I shouldn't wear clothing from the juniors dept. I'll shop there forever, since nothing from any other dept will ever FIT me. Besides, if you're 50 and can still wear a miniskirt, WHY NOT? I also feel that even when I was pregnant, that didn't stop me from being sexy and I loved what my body was doing, it's not something to hide under hideous clothing. A lot of maternity clothing makes you look fuddy duddy, or like a clown. It's tough enough for a mommy to be to have to deal with the aches and pains of pregnancy and suddenly having a flat stomach turn into a basketball under her clothes, to deal with nausea, throwing up, bloating, back pain, being kicked, poked, having to pee every five minutes, and having strangers want to TOUCH THE BELLY! Granted there are some extremely CUTE maternity clothing, but not all of it is. You usually have to pay a little more for the good quality stuff.
Anyway, I guess what I'm getting at is in this day and age, it is 2009, not 1890. I am grateful that I live NOW and not 200 years ago. I don't see how I could have handled it. Having to wear corsets? Skirts? Dresses all the time? Never show any skin? I get disgrunted and annoyed just THINKING OF IT. I wasn't a super young mommy either - I was 29 when my daughter was born! I simply don't think there's anything indecent about not covering up. For the most part, people who think others need to 'cover up' have serious issues with PDA and nakedness. I think the issues and attitudes are more problematic than either PDA OR nakedness. Just my two cents... plus one for inflation.
@semicolonp (518)
• Philippines
28 Jun 09
While I'm all for proper decorum, I don't want to begrudge anyone the right to wear the clothes they want. I don't know if those types of clothes are what makes her comfortable, after all, and if she was young, a single mother or having problems (or whatever), then perhaps that's her way of feeling good about her self, something to make her feel pretty or sexy or something.
There are a lot of reasons why someone wears the clothes they wear, after all. I don't think there's anything inherently bad about wearing clothes that aren't the norm.
@Archie0 (5652)
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29 Jun 09
Well i think you are right, it relly doesnt matter about old or new being but what matters is how much we know about a proper dressing sense.There is no harm in wearing anything untill it really looks decent on anyone.But wearing such clothes during preganancy i think that is really not some sense for wearing clothes,It is ofcourse matter of our own life and our own style but still when we live in a society we have to think a bit out of our four corners too.
@prinzcy (32305)
• Malaysia
28 Jun 09
Somehow I can picture that in mind. To be honest, pregnant or not, now days weather isn't good enough to show bare skin just like that. You can burn the skin easily (with the sun of course~~~) At least cover up a little.
Being pregnant make some woman feel sexy. If she's under a shade, you can't blame her to show it. Let her be.
@doryvien (2284)
• United States
29 Jun 09
Perhaps there aren't enough maternity dresses being sold in the stores?LOL. That would explain the unheard of outfit of this young pregnant lady.
Kidding aside, pregnant women have special needs, the body experiences several changes and that would include feeling very warm and uncomfortable. Perhaps this lady felt just that, and what she wore made her feel comfortable. I'd be fine with with that - for as long as she keeps herself within the confines of her home. What I do not approve of is her walking around the streets on this outfit for all the people to see. It's not appropriate, it's not hip and it's plain eyesore. She should have been considerate of how people will feel when they see her - just like you(lol). Cheers!